The Best Sex Toys To Spice Up Your Long-Term Relationship

If your bedroom routine has become, well, routine, why not add a fun new toy to the mix? With these sex toy options for couples, you can’t go wrong.

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When you’ve been with your partner for a long time, it’s not unusual to find yourselves in a sexual rut. One of the easiest ways to get your spark back is to incorporate toys into your sex life. Toys add both newness and variety—two keys to maintaining an intimate, exciting, and fulfilling sex life. Plus, as their name implies, they’re fun!

That being said, some couples worry about adding toys in. They worry about how to bring up the topics of sex toys to their partner, that the toy will intimidate or replace their partner, or that using toys means there’s something wrong with them. In reality, nearly 50% of people have tried toys once and people who use toys report higher overall sexual satisfaction.

Top Sex Toys For Couples In Long-Term Relationships

If you’re ready to add more fun and pleasure to your sex life, check out these top picks for great couples’ toys:

For Every Couple...

In addition to decreasing your risk of small tears and irritation, using lube enhances sensation, making every lick, stroke, and thrust feel that much yummier. Cult favorite Uberlube is a silicone lube that’s condom-compatible and lacks any taste or smell. It’s great for any sort of skin-to-skin contact, from handjobs and fingering to oral sex to intercourse of all kinds.

For Couples Who Want To Add A Little Heat…

Try a massage candle. Massage helps you get out of your head and into your body, and these candles make it sexier and easier. They burn at a lower temperature than regular candles, and their “wax” is actually massage oil; it won’t burn or stick to you. Burn the candle to set the mood, then blow it out and drizzle the melted, warm-but-not-hot oil on for a sensual massage.

For Couples Using Toys Together For The First Time...

Start with something small and non-phallic like Fin by Dame Products. This finger vibrator slips between two fingers and feels like an extension of your own body. It’s small, unintimidating, and turns your lover’s hand into a vibrator, enhancing every stroke and motion.

For Couples Who Can’t Seem To Finish Together…

Try a vibrating cock ring like the Je Joue Mio. A hands-free option, cock rings help the penetrating partner stay harder longer and give the receiving partner a little extra oomf right where they crave it, against the clitoris or scrotum.

For Couples Who Want To Improve Upon The Hand Job…

Try a penis sleeve slide like the Tenga Flex. Its intricately designed interior—with nubs, texturing, protrusions, and more—offers a variety of stimulating possibilities and makes every stroke, grip, and twist a whole new adventure.

Toys add newness and variety—two keys to maintaining an intimate, exciting, and fulfilling sex life.

Pro Tip: Make sure to use plenty of water-based lube with penis toys to provide nice glide and so the toy doesn’t get caught on any skin or hair. Try one of the many varieties of lube made by Sliquid.

For Long-distance Couples Or Those Who Travel Alone A Lot...

The We-Vibe Sync is a longstanding favorite for many reasons. It stimulates the g-spot and clitoris at once (or the perineum and prostate if used anally). It has a dozen different ways to use it. And it comes with the We-Connect app, which lets you control the toy from anywhere in the world with a bluetooth connection. The app also lets you chat via secure video and text to make the experience more personal and build excitement.

For Couples Who Want To Explore The Back Door…

The butt is the great equalizer, but not all anal toys are made the same! If you’re new to anal play, start with something small like the Fun Factory Bootie. The flexible neck makes it easy to insert, while the curve gives prostate-havers extra stimulation.

People who use toys report higher overall sexual satisfaction.

If you’re more advanced or looking for something totally different, check out b-Vibe’s Rimming Plug (also comes in Petite). This plug mimics the sensation of rimming with rotating beads—and adds vibration.

Pro Tip: Pair a butt toy with oral sex, removing the toy just as your partner climaxes to heighten their orgasm.

Whatever Toy You Decide On, Try And Try Again!

The first time you try something new—whether it’s using a sex toy with your partner or knitting, it can be a little awkward. That awkwardness is totally normal! The key is to try again, get creative in how you use the toy, and have fun!

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Video transcript

Hi guys, in Gigi Engle. I'm a certified sex coach and sex journalist here with O.school and I'm so excited to be here to tell you about my top five favorite vibrators. Vibrators are kinda my specialty, there's nothing I love more in the world. So I'm so excited to be able to share these with you. First on my list is none other then Le Wand. You might be familiar with Hitachi Magic Wand, it certainly looks very similar. It's kind of the Cadillac of vibrators. It's world-renown, but you see Le Wand, I prefer because it is a proud sex toy. Hitachi doesn't like to say it's a sex toy, Le Wand loves to say it's a sex toy because let's face it, who has ever used a Hitachi Magic Wand for a neck massager. Literally, nobody. The Le Wand is an amazing vibrator because it has this head that is easily moved around so you can really get in there and get like a full range of motion in the clitoral complex. And it really is a very power vibrator. So highly recommend, this should be the cornerstone of your collection. Second on the list is Fin from Dame Products. Now what makes Fin so special, this cute little guy, is that you place the strap around your fingers, and boom, your hand becomes a vibrator. See you can move around, you can touch your partner here and there, and you don't have to worry about it. Because I know that some people get a little bit peevish about sex toys. They're like oh if you need a sex toy or a vibrator I must not be as good of a sex partner. Well that's actually bullshit because two out of three women, or vulva owning people, require clitoral simulation in order to have an orgasm. So this is a very neutral and easy way to get that clitoral simulation without freaking anybody out. Third on my list is the Satisfyer Pro. Now this might look a little bit different than other vibrators that you've seen and that's because it is different. Through a combination of suction and air it simulates oral sex. Yeah, I'm not kidding, it really does. You place this little nozzle over your glans clitoris, that's the outside part of the clitoris, that little rose bud that you can see, and it feels a little weird, sort of a sensation that you may never have felt before. And then, boom, all of a sudden you have an orgasm. And you're like I don't even know what just happened. That was crazy. It really does feel like oral sex, it feels like somebody is licking your clit, and it is actually magical. Number four on the list is the Form 2 by JimmyJane. Very cute, it's small, it's pink, it has these adorable bunny-like ears, which are actually extremely functional. The ears go on either side of the external portion of the clitoris or you can put them on the labia. And it gives you a full range of stimulation in the clitoral complex. And so it may look adorable and cute, but damn this thing packs a punch. Last but not least, we have the Moody from Fun Factory. Now I know that this might be a little bit intimidating, it's purple, it has these spiny things, like a dinosaur, it's bumpy, it's rather phallic. Yeah, it's a pretty aggressive vibrator. You see I love the Moody because it has a range of vibration patterns, plus you can use it as a clitoral stimulator, and you can use it for internal stimulation. And when you use it for internal stimulation you get the g-spot stimulation with this nub end, and then these little spines offer clitoral stimulation for the glans clitoris. So you really get the whole range of motion and so it's a very diverse sex toy. And honestly, it's so adorable and it's also called Moody, so it's like when you're feeling moody, just grab Moody. Those are my recommendations and I hope that you go out and buy all of these because they are absolute must-haves, and they're some of my favorite products on the market. So, hope you enjoy, thanks for watching.