What Is Anal Play?

Anal play can be penetrative or non-penetrative sex with a mouth, tongue, dildo, penis, or finger(s). Although butt play is considered taboo by many people, any kind of consensual stimulation is good stimulation.

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Anal play can be penetrative or non-penetrative sex with a mouth, tongue, dildo, penis, or finger(s). Although butt play is considered taboo by many people, any kind of consensual stimulation is good stimulation.

Because the anus is not self-lubricating, lube is a central part of anal play, and there’s no such thing as too much lube. You may want to explore what it feels like to gently apply pressure or stimulation to the outside of your anus with a well-lubricated finger, sex toy, or mouth. If you like how that feels, you might next try inserting a finger or small sex toy inside your anus to help you ease your way into penetrative anal play. Arousal makes everything easier — and more fun — so using a butt plug while you masturbate is another way to enjoy anal play.

Like all kinds of sex, communication and consent are key.

When you explore different ways to have anal sex with a partner, there are countless positions that might work for you, depending on your individual body. Just remember to relax and breathe so you can enjoy the sensation and stimulation that anal pleasure can provide.


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Mistress Mona loves to talk about kink in an approachable, shame free environment. In this episode, we will be talking about the physical AND emotional side of prostate play!

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Now, when you're finally ready to have penetration, here is the asshole. Here is the way that I like to do it. You don't just, like, go directly in. That's... It's very intense and it's very abrupt. I like to seduce the asshole. So what I do is I take the tip of my finger, 'cause that's what you're gonna be paying attention to, and I just graze it over with just a tiny bit of pressure over the asshole, and I'll feel it catch. It'll catch on the lip on my way down. See that, like how it just kinda, let's see if you can see from this side better. It catches. And once it catches, so it's like you're ringing a doorbell, okay. So like ding-dong! You bring it down, it catches right on the tip of your finger, and then you press down. And have them breathing. Breathing is so important! You want to go in on the exhales. The exhales are when your whole body relaxes, so And have them do deep breaths, deep, deep breaths, nice, slow, deep breaths. So like Like in for four seconds, out for eight seconds. In for two seconds, out for four seconds. So you wanna actually exhale twice as long as you inhale. So we're breathing in, we're touching, we're feeling good, we're doing ding-dong! Inhale, exhale, catch, and then a little bit of pressure. Inhale. Exhale, press up. Inhale press to the side. Or no, inhale, stay still. Exhale, press to the side. Inhale, stay still. Exhale, press to the other side. Inhale, stay still. Exhale, press down. Inhale, stay still. Exhale, press up. Inhale, stay still. Exhale, go to the side. Notice how more of my finger is disappearing every time I do this? You're slowly working it in. And you will feel the internal sphincter squeezing against your finger, and you'll feel it release on the exhales. And so you're waiting for that feeling of release, and then you'll get through this lip. And when you feel the internal sphincter, like, squinching around you, you can kinda tickle at it a little bit, like just gentle, gentle strokes, like touch, touch, touch, touch, touch, touch, touch. And it will, like you're fluttering, like you're fluttering the stimulation on the inside. And as the exhale happens it will start to release and then you can continue to go in a little bit more. Once you're past here, you don't have to do the up, down, side to side. You can start continuing. So once you're here, and you're checking in the entire time: "How is this, is this good? "Do you want more? "Do you want less? "Do you need lube? "Do you want me to slow down? "How's your breathing?" Checking in constantly.