Anal play can be penetrative or non-penetrative butt stimulation. It involves using a dildo, penis, finger(s), mouth, or tongue on, or in, the ass. Butts have a lot of nerve endings, so it makes sense that this can be an area for pleasure. The sensitivity also means it can be painful too if you’re not gentle, so take your time, use lube, breathe and communicate with your partner to get the most enjoyment out of your butt-explorations.
Is Anal OK?
If you’re interested in exploring this kind of play—alone or with a partner—but feel hesitant because butt play is often considered taboo, remember that any kind of consensual stimulation is good stimulation. Anyone, of any gender, can enjoy anal stimulation. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to enjoy the sensations of this part of the body.
One of the most important things to keep in mind when you begin your butt play exploration is that the anus, unlike the vagina, is not self-lubricating. This means that lube should be a central part of any anal play—and there really is no such thing as too much lube!
Anyone, of any gender, can enjoy anal stimulation. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to enjoy the sensations of this part of the body.
Silicone-based lube is especially popular for anal play because it lasts a long time. But water-based might be a better option if you’re using silicone toys, or want something more affordable and that won’t stain the sheets.
Beginners’ Anal Techniques
As for what to actually do when you get started, you may want to explore what it feels like to gently apply pressure or stimulation to the outside of your anus with a well-lubricated finger, sex toy, or mouth. If you like how that feels, try inserting a finger or small sex toy inside your anus to help you ease your way into penetrative anal play.
Preparing Your Butt For Anal Play
If you’re feeling tense, go slow. And remember that arousal makes everything easier—and more fun!— so incorporating masturbation into your anal play can help relieve some tension. Using a butt plug while you masturbate is another excellent way to enjoy anal play.
Using a sex toy like a small butt plug, a slim dildo, or a vibrating butt plug can be a great way to enjoy anal pleasure or to warm up for a penis or larger dildo. One thing that’s important to remember with anal play is that any toy you insert into your butt must have a base that is wider than the rest of the toy, so while you’re using it part of the toy always stays outside your body.
This is essential to make sure the toy doesn’t get lost up your butt - you want to avoid that trip to the emergency room! Instead go with toys that are designed for anal use that have a flared based or handle for safety and ease of use.
Gently apply pressure or stimulation to the outside of your anus with a well-lubricated finger, sex toy, or mouth. If you like how that feels, try inserting a finger or small sex toy.
When you explore different ways to have anal sex with a partner, there are countless positions that might work for you, depending on your individual body. Just remember to relax, breathe, and check in with your partner, so you can enjoy the sensation and stimulation that anal pleasure can provide.
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