How to pick your first vibrator
Ultimately, there is no one-size-fits-all for buying a vibrator, but considering your preferences and sexual wellness goals will be helpful in guiding your purchase. When considering which vibrator for beginners is best for you, ask yourself a few questions.
What stopped you from experimenting with vibes in the past?
Deciding on your first vibrator is an exciting decision. But if something has kept you from purchasing a sex toy in the past, considering that hurdle might guide your choice on what to choose or avoid. For example, if you’ve felt vibrators were intimidating or taboo, you may feel more comfortable with something smaller or sleeker to start with.
How do you prefer to be sexually stimulated?
Consider if you want something that massages your G-spot, clitoris, anus, all of the above, or some combination. When exploring what kind of orgasm feels best to your body, some may find external stimulation, such as to the clitoris, more pleasurable than internal stimulation, such as to the G-spot.
Consider modes and intensities.
Being new to vibrators means you’ll need to experiment before figuring out what modes, pressures, and intensities feel best for you. For that reason you may desire a vibrator with a large range of vibration patterns so you have more opportunity to experiment. On the flip side, you might want a vibrator with just one, or only a few, modes so you don’t feel overwhelmed by it.
Is your vibrator for solo or partnered play?
While most any vibrator can be used both for solo and partnered play, there are some that are better suited or designed specifically for partnered play. For example, vibrators that are smart toys and app-enabled means a person can control the modes and vibrations for their partner. There are also vibrators meant to fit snugly between partners during penetrative play.
3 ways to enhance play with a beginner’s vibrator
Your new vibrator can be further enhanced when paired with other pleasure products or used in creative ways. Here are some tips on elevating play with a vibrator if you’re a beginner.
- Use your vibrator to stimulate areas other than the clit. Many people assume a vibrator is only used to stimulate the clitoris. But a vibrator can be used just about anywhere on the body that feels good to you. For starters, try your nipples or around your anus.
- Try dual stimulation by pairing another sex toy. If you enjoy vibration on your clitoris, you may find that pleasure can be even more intensified if another erogenous zone is stimulated at the same time. For example, you might try a small butt plug while using a bullet vibrator for a fuller body, intense orgasm.
- Experiment with edging. Edging, or orgasm control, is a practice, used during solo and partnered sex, in which a person brings themselves to the brink of orgasm and stops just before climax. Edging can make your orgasms longer, stronger, and more explosive. Give it a try with your vibrator.
- Take it on the go. You may have noticed a few of these vibrators come with supplemental apps for remote control of the toy. This makes them perfect for some raunchy, public play. If you’re not quite ready for something that extreme, you can simulate the risk of getting caught by using your vibrator in your own backyard, or a rooftop deck.
The bottom line
Getting your first vibrator is an exciting journey. You may need to experiment with a couple options before finding a favorite, or you may find that you like different vibrators for different reasons. Perhaps your first vibrator is only the start of a large collection you’ll build up as you go. If you don’t see any vibrators on our list that feel right for you, explore our catalog of vibrators for even more options.