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January 29, 2020

The Best Sex Toys For Valentine’s Day in 2020

Forget chocolates, these toys are way more pleasurable.
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Bethany Heitman
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Maybe you’re all in on Valentine’s Day. Or, perhaps, the whole chocolate and red roses thing makes you roll your eyes. Whichever camp you fall in, one thing we can all agree on is that great sex (partnered or solo) on V-Day is, well, pretty great.

Using a new sex toy can increase both enjoyability and mood in a variety of ways. For some, it encourages a more playful interaction. For others, especially if it’s the first time using a toy together, it can be an intimate bonding experience. So, we scoured reviews on top toy sites and got recommendations from people who like to use toys together (for anonymity purposes, we only used their first names).  From nipple clamps to vibrators to butt plugs, and everything in between, these toys can help you celebrate Valentine’s Day with pleasure.

1. Naughty Candy Heart Butt Plug


Conversation hearts get a sexy makeover in the form of these pastel-colored, Valentine’s Day- themed butt plugs. Made with super soft silicone, each one is three inches long and 1.5 inches at the widest point, making them great for those who are new anal play. On the base of the toys, there are cute phrases like “Do me now” or “Be mine.” This makes them reminiscent of the classic candy hearts. 

“My girlfriend and I bought these last year,” says Liza, 28, from Queens, New York. “We use them with our favorite water-based lube. We have the ‘Spank Me’ one — because I like to be gently spanked after she has put this in me.”

Buy It: Naughty Candy Heart Butt Plug, $18.00;

2. Plant Alchemy For Play Intimate Oil


This oil is made of a mix of hydrating apricot and jojoba oils blended with CBD — which increases blood flow to tender areas. This makes the oil great for massage or for lubrication. 

“I like when my husband starts with a massage and then uses the oil that’s still on his hands to begin playing with me down below,” says Megan, 36, from Cranford, N.J.. “It also has a slight rose smell that I find really romantic.”

Buy It: Plant Alchemy For Play Intimate Oil, $65;

3. Womanizer Starlet 2 Clitoral Stimulator


If your clitoris is sensitive to overstimulation, consider this toy. A soft silicone rim hugs the clitoris on all sides, rather than sitting directly on it. Turn it on, and soft pressure waves arouse and stimulate. 

“There are four different speeds,” says Tina, 43, from Seattle, Wash.. “I like to start at the slowest and build up until I orgasm.”

Buy It: Womanizer Starlet 2 Clitoral Stimulator, $79;

4. Maia Porpora Swirly Silicone Dildo


The gentle curve is intended to help stimulate a g-spot or prostate, while the grooves along the shaft and bulbous head offer extra stimulation. The shaft is 7.5 inches long and it’s girth is 5.5 inches. Translation: This dildo is best for those who prefer a larger size. 

With a 4.5-star average on, reviewers say they appreciate the strong suction base that makes riding this dildo easy and secure. The soft but firm silicone texture also gets lots of praise. One thing to keep in mind: Many reviewers noted that, due to the larger size, plenty of water-based lube is needed.

Buy It: Maia Porpora Swirly Silicone Dildo, $34.99;

5. Tweezer Nipple Clamps


For those who enjoy sharper nipple play, these best-selling clamps are just the thing. The clamps are adjustable to fit nipples of all sizes and the rubber tips add a nice layer of comfort. There’s also a slider on each clamp that allows you to adjust the pressure of each. 

“I prefer intense clamping, while my partner prefers a more gentle feel,” says Sam, 30, from San Francisco, Calif.. “This set allows us both to get the exact sensation we prefer.”

Buy It: Tweezer Clamps, $18;

6. Lovehoney Oh! Silky Bondage Restraints


Slip your partner’s wrists or ankles through the loops and tie the other end to bed posts or anything else you like. The silky texture feels sexy against skin and the loops hold tight to enable consensual bondage fun. 

“The long length of these makes it easy to use these in different locations,” says Ben, 25, from Miami, Fla.. “My boyfriend likes being tied up during foreplay but then freed. We like that these are easy to put on, but also to take off when we’re ready.”

Buy It: Lovehoney Oh! Silky Bondage Restraints, $14.99;

7. O’hare Cock Ring


The comfy silicone ring fits snugly around the base of a penis or dildo and has a vibrator on it. Switch it on and select from one of three speeds. Not only does the penis and testicles receive stimulation, the bunny ears are positioned so that they’ll vibrate against the clitoris if you’re in a missionary position. 

“My boyfriend and I use this during sex, but I’ve also turned it on and worn it around my fingers while giving him a hand job,” says Keisha, 34, from Brooklyn, N.Y. “Sometimes, when I’m alone, I also use it on myself.” 

Buy It: O’hare Cock Rink, $26;

8. Desire Luxury Rechargeable Remote Control Love Egg Vibrator


This vibrator can be slipped into underwear and comes with a remote that can either be controlled by the wearer or a partner. With eight pattern waves and 12 levels of intensity, there’s sure to be a combo that satisfies you. 

“We use this when we go out in public — like to dinner,” says Sara, 28, from Danbury, Conn.. “Sometimes I don’t tell my boyfriend I am wearing it. Then, in the middle of our meal, I slip him the remote. It adds extra sexiness that no one around us knows what we’re doing.” 

Buy It: Desire Luxury Rechargeable Remote Control Love Egg Vibrator,  $119.99;

9. Adam & Eve L’Arque Prostate Massager


The gentle curve and rounded head of this prostate massager was designed to apply the perfect amount of pressure to the prostate. Plus, the ergonomic handle makes it easy for your partner to control. 

“The speed controls are right at the top of the handle, making it easy for me to switch speeds based on what my husband is responding most to,” says Greg, 41, from Washington D.C. Reviewers of this 4-star toy also praise it’s soft texture and big but not too big girth.

Buy It: Adam & Eve L’Arque Prostate Massager, $99.95;

And hey. If your idea Valentine’s Day involves takeout and going to bed early, that’s also totally cool! You can always bookmark this list and save it for a rainy day.

10. Our Sex Game


As you make your way around the board of this game, you draw cards that give ideas for doing different sexual things to one another—like giving a sensual massage, sucking on their finger, or trying various sex positions—or steamy conversations to have.  It is also completely neutral in language, so all couples can feel included while playing.

Buy It: Our Sex Game, $24.99;

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Bethany Heitman has spent fifteen years creating engaging content. She is the former editor-in-chief of PeopleStyle and has held senior leadership positions at Cosmopolitan, Health, and Seventeen.

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