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Happiness experts say that the quality of newness has the potential to increase happiness. Likewise, when you bond with someone over a new experience, you boost closeness and intimacy. What better way to boost happiness, closeness and intimacy than a new sex toy (or twelve…)!?

Best Sex Toys of 2018

Sex toys add so much to your sex life: newness, playfulness, and variety. They stimulate just the right spots to help you experience more pleasure and orgasms. That being said, finding the right toy for you isn’t always so easy. No one toy is right for every body, and the “best” toy is one you use and enjoy regularly. Even if you have your favorite toys on lock, a brand new toy to help get extra happy is worth a shop. To help you narrow down your search, check out our choice of the most innovative and exciting toys to launch in 2018. There’s bound to be something that’s a perfect fit to keep you and your toy box feeling fresh, fierce, and fine.

No one toy is right for every body, and the “best” toy is one you use and enjoy regularly.

Pom by Dame Products

Informed by 1500+ surveys, months of research, and almost 100 testers, Pom is the latest essential “wellness tool” from Dame. Its soft, flexible body sits in your hand and bends with you to deliver either broad or pinpoint stimulation. Plus, it’s waterproof and has Dame’s most powerful motor yet. *Available at Good Vibrations in store; check back at goodvibes.com to find the Pom online next week.

Bonus tip: The ergonomic shape of this vibe makes it easy to cup in your or your partner’s hand and slide it between you during partner sex.

 Pom by Dame Products $95

Le Wand Petite

The broad head of a wand vibrator is beloved by those who don’t enjoy pinpoint clitoral stimulation—and do enjoy a toy that doubles as a massager! Unfortunately, most wands are top-heavy and clunky. Not this one. The Petite packs the power of a classic wand vibrator into a travel-friendly size and weight, plus a travel lock to avoid TSA mishaps. 

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Le Wand Petite. One year warranty, $135 Splashproof, rechargeable

Geode Dildo

If you love texture, this is the dildo for you. One side is perfectly smooth. The other looks and feels like an open geode, only made of soft and squishy silicone. Bonus: you can keep it on your nightstand and everyone will assume it’s a piece of art. 

Geode Dildo
Geode Dildo. 30 day warranty, $78

Horoscope by Bijoux Indiscrets

These Zodiac-themed kits help you explore the depths of your spirit and sensuality, whether you’re exploring solo or going deep with a lover. Each kit includes a gemstone necklace unique to your star sign, an orgasm-enhancing clitoral balm suited to your natural element, and a silicone finger vibrator. 

Bonus tip: Use the vibrator anywhere on the body you want extra stimulation. Think: clitoris, nipples, scrotum, along the shaft of the penis, on the perineum, vaginal or anal opening or even against your cheek as you go down on your partner.

Horoscope by Bijoux Indiscrets
Horoscope by Bijoux Indiscrets. One year warranty, $40

Bijoux Indiscrets 12 Sexy Days

If you’re interested in exploring kink but not ready to commit to leather, latex, and chains, let this box help you discover your most sensual side. With 12 different items ranging from a vibrator to blindfolds, a collar to beaded handcuff-bracelets, odds are that you’ll find a product (or 10!) that’s a perfect fit. 

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Bijoux Indiscrets 12 Sexy Days. $195, 30 day warranty, 
Use a vibrator anywhere on the body you want extra stimulation. Think: clitoris, nipples, scrotum, along the shaft of the penis, on the perineum, vaginal or anal opening or even against your cheek as you go down on your partner.

We-Vibe Discover Gift Set

Whether you’re on a journey all by yourself or with a partner, the We-Vibe Discover Gift Set from We-Vibe and Womanizer keeps bedroom adventurers well-stocked. It has 10 sexy and fun goodies—including several toys—to delight all your senses. Each is individually packaged so you can explore one at a time or indulge in all in a single night. 

We-Vibe Discover Gift Set
We-Vibe Discover Gift Set. Two year warranty, $249 Waterproof, rechargeable

Snug Plug

Butt plugs are beloved for giving you a feeling of fullness, for increasing sensation during orgasm, and for prepping your booty for anal intercourse. The stylish, weighted Snug Plug has a long, slender neck for comfort, a tapered tip for ease of insertion, and weighted balls to increase your pleasure. Best of all, with 5 sizes and weights to choose from, there’s a Snug Plug for every level of backdoor experience. 

Bonus tip: Pull the plug out right as the wearer experiences orgasm to stimulate the pleasure nerve endings in the anus make the climax even more powerful.

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Snug plug. $45-55

References

Rubin, Gretchen. (2007) “A refinement of my earth-shattering happiness formula.” https://gretchenrubin.com/2007/02/a_refinement_of

Aron A, Norman CC, Aron EN, McKenna C, Heyman RE. (2000)Couples' shared participation in novel and arousing activities and experienced relationship quality in J Pers Soc Psychol. 78(2):273-84, https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/10707334

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What Is The Best Lube?

What lube should you buy? There are sex lubes for all budgets, activities, and sensitivities. Water, silicone, or oil-based? Find the best lube for you!

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The right kind of lube can make any kind of sex more enjoyable, whether you’re playing alone or with others. But how do you choose the right one for you?

Is Using Lube Ok?

Using lube doesn’t mean you’re inadequate or not attracted to your partner. It’s totally normal for the amount of personal lubricant you produce— how wet you are — to vary due to hormonal changes, dehydration, and other factors. And no matter how wet you are, the right lube can prevent chafing, intensify erotic sensation, and make condoms and sex toys safer and more effective.

Types Of Sex Lube

While the cheapest lubes can feel tacky and contain toxic or irritating ingredients, there are many excellent lubes available for under $20. Most of the lubes on the market fall into three main categories — water-based, silicone-based, and oil-based. A few hybrid (water-silicone) and aloe-based lubes are also available.

How To Choose A Lube

Choosing a lube has a lot to do with the texture and feel you prefer, and how sensitive your skin is. Also consider what kind of sex you’ll be having (anal, vaginal, etc), where you’ll be having sex (in the pool, on top of your expensive satin sheets), and whether or not you’ll be using toys, condoms, or other barrier methods.

Water-based Lube

Water-based lube is easy to wash off sheets, toys, and you! It needs to be reapplied frequently — perfect for quickies, not so great for all-night sex marathons, and forget about bath/shower sex! Water-based lube will immediately dissolve back into its source.

Choosing a lube has a lot to do with the texture and feel you prefer, and how sensitive your skin is.

Water-based lubes can help condoms feel more natural and comfortable, and they reduce the chance of breakage. This goes for latex and non-latex condoms.

Avoid products with ingredients like glycerin, paraben and propylene glycol, especially if you’re planning on having vaginal sex. They can cause irritation, yeast infections and kill off healthy bacteria. Instead, choose a hypoallergenic, ph-balanced lube like Sliquid Satin. You also can’t go wrong with the old standby, Astroglide.

Pros:

  • Easy to wash off
  • Works great with condoms
  • Natural feel
  • Wide range
  • Affordable price
  • Easy to find at the store
  • Can be used with toys

Cons:

  • Need to reapply frequently
  • Can’t be used in the shower or bath
  • Some water-based lube has ingredients that can be irritating or cause yeast infections

Silicone-based Lubes

Looking for an extra slippery lube that will withstand some hardcore action? Silicone-based lube is the way to go, especially for anal and water play.

Unlike the molecules in water, silicone molecules are too big to be absorbed into the skin. A high quality silicone lube, like Swiss Navy or Please Silicone Lubricant, lasts as long as you can and feels like silk against your skin. In fact, Silicone-based lubricants are highly recommended for people with sensitive skin.

Silicone-based lubricants are highly recommended for people with sensitive skin.

Silicone-based lubes are safe to use with condoms — hurrah! — and toys made from steel or glass. But you don’t want to get it on your silicone toys. Silicone-based lubes actually damage the surface of silicone toys, creating micro-abrasions where bacteria can hide.

Pros:

  • Long lasting
  • Don’t need to use much
  • Great for anal sex
  • Can be used in the shower or bath
  • Good for sensitive skin
  • Safe with condoms

Cons:

  • Will damage some silicone toys
  • So long lasting that it’s hard to wash off!
  • More expensive
  • Can stain sheets

Oil-based Lubes

Oil-based lubes seem to last forever. Unfortunately, that doesn’t just go for sex. They will also stay glued to your clothes, your sheets, and toys! Natural, plant-based oils like coconut, almond, and argan provide long-lasting lubrication while conditioning the skin and soothing sore muscles —ideal for erotic massage!

Treat yourself to luxurious, scented oils like Sensuous Beauty Love Balm, or pick up a jar of coconut or olive oil from the grocery store (just make sure you don’t put it back in the kitchen cabinet when you’re done!)

The downfall of oil-based lubes is that they destroy latex fast, upping your chances of pregnancy or contracting an STI, so they can’t be used with condoms. The same goes for latex diaphragms and toys.

Pros:

  • Long lasting
  • Soothing and moisturizing for the skin
  • Easily available
  • Natural ingredients
  • Pleasant taste
  • Great for massage

Cons:

  • Can’t be used with condoms or anything else made of latex
  • Can be hard to wash off
  • May stain sheets
The downfall of oil-based lubes is that they destroy latex… so they can’t be used with condoms.

By now you might be excited to try them all. Luckily, most lubes are available in affordable “pillow packs,” so you can experiment with different textures, scents, and flavors without making a long-term commitment.

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So with this type of water base, this is a liquid, okay. So you can kind of see it rolling down my arm right here. So with liquid lubricants, they're exactly what they sound like. It's a liquid. It's gonna be really thin, it will not be sticky, which is pretty rad about liquid lubes. And a lot of people sometimes use liquid for sex toys. So if somebody's using sex toys like a vibrator inside of their body, or a dildo inside of their body, liquid lubes are good for sex toys. Now, liquid lubes are good for sex toys that go in a vagina, okay. I'll talk a little bit about like what lubes are really good for anal and what not in just a sec, but I do not recommend liquid lubes for anal sex, okay. Whether it's penetrate, I mean just, with toys, fingers, et cetera, et cetera. If something's going on and out of a butt hole, I totally don't recommend this type of lube. And the reason is because well, our butt holes are super thirsty, okay. And depending on how frequent you incorporate water into your daily life, your butt hole's gonna drink up that lube, okay. So if it's super thin, it's not gonna last as long. And chances are when you're trying to have any type of stimulation, including anal sex, you want the entire experience to be positive and feel good, okay. Who doesn't right?

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