How to Give the Best Blowjob Ever!

A blowjob is oral sex performed on a person with a penis. There’s no one way to give a blowjob, but there are a few tips that can be useful, depending on the needs and desires of the giver and receiver.

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A blowjob is oral sex performed on a person with a penis. There’s no one way to give a blowjob, but there are a few tips that can be useful, depending on the needs and desires of the giver and receiver.

Before you give or receive a blowjob, it’s important to discuss consent and STI prevention. Then, you can more fully enjoy the main event. When putting your mouth on a penis, try not to let your teeth clamp down and tear the delicate skin on the shaft (unless, of course, you’re asked to do that!)

As the penis becomes more and more erect, try playing with rhythm and sucking intensity and speed.

Does the receiver like it when you move their penis in and out of your mouth quickly or slowly? Do they like it when you maneuver your hands around the shaft while their penis is in your mouth? Does the receiver like it when you gently grip their testicles with your hand while you suck on the penis, or do they like their testicles to be left alone? These are all important questions to ask ahead of time, but they can also be a part of a learning experience in the moment if the penis owner isn’t sure what they like.

Blowjobs often end in ejaculation. When the person performing oral sex finishes off the person receiving it, where should the semen go? Some people prefer to swallow the semen, while others prefer the ejaculate to go on their face or into a towel. These are all things that should be discussed before the blowjob to maximize enjoyment and to be considerate of the boundaries of both the giver and receiver.

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Alright, so penis, we have the penis! I'm going to talk about essentially three parts of the penis. So the main, the goods, the meat of the penis, is called often the shaft. So that's basically this part here. It goes from the balls essentially to up, the whole thing can actually be considered the shaft. We're also gonna talk about the balls just a little bit. Again, I'm not gonna go too, lookin' right at ya'll folks, I'm not gonna go too into technique or strategy here, but the balls can really add a little novelty and fun to the blow job experience. The part that I'm going to talk most about today, or I think the most important part to know about blow jobs is the head of the penis, also known as the glands, which almost I like to describe kind of as like, I'll do a little 360 spin, almost looks like a little mushroom top at the top of the penis. Now, if a penis is uncircumcised, when it's not erect, you won't see the head, 'cause the foreskin will be above it, or covering it I should say, but for both circumcised and uncircumcised penises, the foreskin would retract during erection, so they would essentially look the same way when erect whether or not they're circumcised. Okay, and the most very important part that sometimes people don't really know too much about is called the frenulum, and I'm gonna zoom, I'm never good at this camera, the frenulum, which is this little area right here where the shaft meets the head of the penis. Now, I won't go that much into it, but essentially, the tissue that makes up the head or the glands of the penis, is the same tissue that makes up the clitoris just more widely dispersed. So, there are a lot of nerve endings on the penis. It is the most concentrated area of nerve endings, are in the head of the penis. So there's going to be more sensitivity and sensation around the head than there is for the rest of the shaft and this is important to know during blow jobs 'cause this is where you should be focusing your attention for the most bang for your buck, and in particular, the frenulum is actually the highest, teeny little concentration of nerve endings. Right here. We could, this model doesn't have some other helpful parts that could be used during blow jobs, which is, so behind the balls, between the balls and the anus, which would be about down here or so, is the area that we call the perineum. Other names for it include the taint or the gooch. This can also be a sensitive spot. You can externally stimulate the perineum, and by externally stimulate, I mean basically like rub that skin to kind of externally stimulate the prostate. The prostate sometimes, some people know the prostate as like, the male g-spot. Stimulating the prostate either externally or internally, talk about that in a second, can increase pleasure and lead to more explosive, intense orgasms.