Sensuality & Arousal
October 11, 2019

11 Ways To Get Horny, Fast

Brain in the mood, but body isn’t there yet? Here are some tips to get those gears goin’.
Written by
Jamie LeClaire
Published on
October 11, 2019
Updated on
November 23, 2022
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We added another tip about how sex toys can help you get horny fast.
We added another tip about how sex toys can help you get horny fast.
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Most people’s desire for sex changes from day to day in response to hormonal, relationship, and emotional factors (1). Sometimes, you might feel sexually aroused (horny), even when you’re not interested in having sex. At other times, you might want to have sex with a partner, but your body isn’t cooperating. 

Even though your level of sexual arousal may be unpredictable, there are things you can do to help you get turned on more quickly. If you want to learn how to get horny, fast, read on for some tried-and-true methods.

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1. Watch a sexy scene from a movie, show, or music video

Have a favorite sex scene? Put it on! Or maybe FKA Twigs’ pole routine in her music video for “Cellophane” really does it for you. Watch it! For many people visual stimuli can be very arousing (2).

2. Listen to erotica or audio porn

No matter your gender, sexual orientation, or kinks, there’s likely to be audio erotica out there for you! Erotica apps such as Dipsea and websites such as Quinn are free-to-low-cost ways to get you horny without having to rely on your own imagination. 

3. Watch porn that turns you on

If you know you like porn and have a favorite porn site (ours are Crash Pad Series and Make Love Not Porn), or a specific video in mind, put it on! Porn can engage your senses of sight and hearing to fast-track sexual arousal.

4. Add sex toys into the mix

Sex toys are intended to help you get horny, so use the extra help. There are plenty of pleasure products out there to stimulate the clit and G-spot, and others meant to stimulate the nipples, prostate, penis, and more. If you're a vulva owner trying to get horny fast, we recommend our list of best vibrators to stimulate the clit. If you're a penis owner, check out our list of best sex toys for you.

5. Wear something that makes you feel sexy

Slipping into something that makes you feel sexy can be an instant mood-changer. That might mean putting on your favorite underwear, those “fuck me” boots that have been sitting in your closet for ages, or that packer you finally bought! Wearing something that makes you feel hot and confident can be a great way to get turned on, fast.

6. Exchange some dirty sexts

What better way to get yourself revved up for the night ahead than having a sexy text exchange with your partner ahead of time? Tell them the things you’d like to do to them, that you can’t wait to have them do to you, or what you love about their body—and if they’re comfortable with it, ask them to do the same. Anticipation is the name of the game! 

(It’s important to note that sexts should only be exchanged with people you know and trust—especially if you’re sending images. If you’re exchanging pics, consider leaving out your face and any identifying marks like tattoos, birthmarks, or distinctive jewelry. And never forward a sext you’ve received to someone else, as this is a consent violation.)

7. Have phone sex

Are you turned on by sound? If you want to get horny, fast, upgrading your sexting exchange to good, old-fashion phone sex (if your partner’s on board, of course) can work wonders. Tell your partner what you’re wearing, what you aren’t wearing, or describe a  specific fantasy—whatever you want! No time for a full-blown phone sex session? Try sending voice memos back and forth.

8. Take nudes or sultry pics

Maybe you’re really feeling yourself in that outfit. Why not document it with some sexy pics? Even if you don’t send them to anyone, just thinking about how horny someone might get from seeing your photos can be a huge turn-on.

9. Hit up a sex shop with a partner

If you’re looking for a date idea that can double as play, visiting an inclusive, sex-positive sex shop can not only get you thinking about sex, but can be a great way to open a conversation about your specific desires and (possible) kinks. Sex shop employees are there to answer your questions and give you guidance. Whether or not you end up taking home a pleasure product (or a few), you’ll have sex on your mind. 

10. Break a sweat 

Evidence suggests that exercise may increase sex drive and enhance sexual health (3). Doing exercise that you enjoy can also lower stress (4). Since stress has been found to decrease sexual desire, exercise may help to get you in the mood by improving relaxation and feelings of wellbeing (1). If you’ve got the time, a gym session, brisk walk, or dance party can all be great ways to help you reduce your stress and get in the mood for sex.

11. Queue up a sultry playlist 

For people who are turned on by sound (not sure if this is you? Give it a try!), music can be a great way to get horny. Check out a sexy playlist, or make your own.

If you want to get horny, fast, it can be helpful to experiment with a variety of techniques. It may take some exploration, but with practice and patience, you can find strategies that help your body to get on board with what your mind wants!

The bottom line

If you want to get horny fast, there are plenty of tips and techniques to try. Looking at porn, using erotica, taking nudes, are all good ideas to try. There are also plenty of sex toys out there intended to help you get horny fast, which is why we recommend exploring our catalog of pleasure products to find what's right for you.

Reviewed for Medical Accuracy

Jamie J. LeClaire (they/them) is a sexuality educator, freelance writer, and consultant. Their work focuses on the intersections of pleasure-positive sexual health, queer & transgender/gender-nonconforming identity, body politics, and social justice. You can find more of their work at their website, and follow them on Instagram & Twitter.

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