Giving blowjobs can be almost as fun as receiving them, but when your partner’s penis is larger than average -- as in, really big -- performing oral sex can sometimes get a little tricky, not to mention tiring. The good news is that it doesn't have to feel like a full-on facial work out. Here are a few things to keep in mind to make giving head enjoyable for you and to give your partner an awesome BJ.

Penis Dimensions

The first thing you should keep in mind is what you can realistically, and comfortably, do with your mouth alone. Will the length of the penis likely set off your gag reflex? Is the width so thick that your teeth may accidentally scrape the shaft?

Not to worry, you have options! It’s always important to stay focused on your breathing, but also remember to keep your lips and jaw relaxed, especially when your partner is girthy.

Strategies To Manage Your Gag Reflex

If you have a severe gag reflex, be sure to let your partner know verbally beforehand. A really simple trick is using the back of your tongue to seal off your throat so that the penis will experience the feeling of reaching your mouth’s threshold without actually pressing into your throat muscles.

When faced with a more well endowed partner, you can definitely use your hands to your advantage.

Deep throating may seem hot, but be challenging to pull off, especially when their penis is on the big side. It’s okay to use your lips and tongue to focus on the glans (tip) and as much of the shaft as is comfortable instead of thrusting or sucking all the way down to your throat.

Use Your Hands During A Blowjob

When faced with a more well endowed partner, you can definitely use your hands to your advantage. You can use your mouth to provide suction as far as you are comfortable while simultaneously using your hand or hands along the shaft to give your partner that encompassing sensation without going too deeply and triggering your gag reflex.

You can use your hands to twist, grip, and tickle, or whatever your partner desires. And, don’t forget that the balls, perineum, and even their inner thighs can feel great to touch as well.

Tongue Techniques

When giving a blowjob, it’s great to alternate between using your lips and mouth for suction, and using your tongue to lick and tease. Licking around the head and flicking the tongue on the frenulum can feel fantastic. Plus, focusing on the penis with your tongue alone can give your jaw muscles a break.

It can also be very sexy to take that time to make eye contact and “check in” -- ask how they are enjoying your performance. A little sexy talk can also heighten the excitement if that is something the two of you enjoy.

Lube it up!

The trick to giving the penis the effect of seamless stimulation is using a lot of lube. With enough lubrication, your partner isn’t likely to know, much less care, where your mouth ends and your hands begin. Use both mouth and hands together around the penis sliding up and down together.

Licking around the head and flicking the tongue on the frenulum can feel fantastic.

Using your favorite flavor of lube can also make the blowjob more yummy for you. Check out the latex-friendly variety of Wicked Sensuals Flavored Lubricants at goodvibes.com.

Add Toys To Oral

When playing with a partner of bigger than average size, especially if it takes them a while to climax without penetration, it can be helpful to add penis toys to the mix. Adding toys to a blowjob can give you time for a breather, time to relax, and time to talk.

The Tenga Flex Masturbation Sleeve is good for enhancing their pleasure with unique interior textures and it’s flexible enough that it won’t tire your hands. A FingO Tips Micro Fingertip Vibrator or other finger vibe can add a delightful buzz to any blowjob.

Find A Comfortable BJ Position

Whether you are a beginner or a pro at giving great blowjobs, choosing a comfortable position can up the experience for you and your partner. When you are playing with a partner of considerable size especially, you want to make sure that you are in a position that gives you the most control over depth and speed.

Kneeling between your partner’s legs while they sit or stand will give you enough leverage to use your lips, mouth, and hands. It also lends itself to a great visual. If you need to be gentle with your knees, lying between their legs still gives you a lot of control over the action, especially the depth of oral penetration.

Of course, mutual oral pleasure is a terrific option, just make sure that if you use the 69 position, you are on top. Again, you need to be in the “power position” so that you can control the blowjob according to your pleasure limits and boundaries.

It can be helpful to add penis toys to the mix.

Remember that blowjobs should be enjoyable for both of you. As always, communication is the best, most solid, foundation for any sexual pleasure. Don’t hesitate to ask what your partner enjoys beforehand and remember to check in to measure their pleasure level throughout.

It’s also a good idea to work in a few breaks from time to time. Be mindful of your breathing, remember to relax, utilize all of your advantages (lips, tongue, mouth, hands), and enjoy!