There are many myths around sex toys, including that only women use vibrators. While vibrators tend to be more popular among women, or vagina owners, because of the clitoral and G-spot stimulation they offer, there are plenty of ways men, or people with penises, can enjoy vibrators too. There’s no ‘right’ way to use a vibrator on a penis — it’s all about finding what feels good, and experimenting with various types of vibrators for penises.
4 types of vibrators for men
It’s quite common for men to use vibrators. In fact, one study found that 45% of men had incorporated a vibrator into sexual activities at some point during their lives. Here are some types of vibrators for men, or people with penises, to explore.
1. Standard clit vibrators
While most bullet vibrators tend to be marketed toward women, a lot of men can enjoy them as forms of stimulation, too. There are plenty of ways to use standard vibrators on the penis, including on the shaft of the penis or around the anus. Unlike vibrators designed for penis owners, clitoral vibrators can only stimulate a small area of the penis.
2. Prostate massagers
Prostate vibrators are specifically designed to stimulate the prostate, the gland right in front of the rectum. Unlike clitoral vibrators, they typically have a curved head and slimmer body, and they can be inserted into the rectum through the anus.
3. Vibrating cock rings
Vibrating cocks rings slide over the penis and stimulate the penis shaft, leading to enhanced and longer-lasting erections. During penetrative sex, vibrating cock rings can also stimulate the clitoris, intensifying pleasure for both partners.
4. Vibrating butt plugs
Butt plugs, which are designed to be inserted into the rectum, stimulate the prostate. Added vibration can heighten the pleasurable experience, creating a tingly, rumbly feel throughout the pelvis.
How to stimulate a penis with a vibrator
Here are some ways men can use vibrators to enhance solo or partnered play.
1. Use a vibrator with oral sex
If your partner has a penis and you want to experiment with oral sex, try pressing a vibrator against your cheek or chin as you move up and down the penis. You can also press the vibrator along the shaft as you go up, starting from the base of the penis. There are endless ways to incorporate a vibrator into oral sex, and you might even consider placing the toy around the nipples or other parts of the body to heighten the experience.
2. Try vibration to stimulate the prostate
Prostate stimulation can take some time to get used to, so it’s best to ease into it. If it’s your first time using an anal toy or a prostate massager, try to first use the toy without the vibrations. You can always work your way up. You might also consider pressing a clitoral vibrator around the anus for a teasing sensation.
Lube is incredibly important for prostate stimulation — we cannot emphasize this enough. Because the anus is not self-lubricating, anal play can be quite uncomfortable when there’s increased friction. We recommend opting for water-based lube, mainly because it’s compatible with latex condoms and most sex toys. You can never use too much, and it’s best not to skimp on this one.
3. Target the frenulum
The frenulum is a small area of tissue that connects the head and the shaft. For many, it’s the most sensitive part of the penis. When pressing a vibrator on the frenulum, make sure to start slow. If the stimulation feels too intense, you might consider using your toy over clothing or even a towel. That way you can get a taste of the experience, rather than jumping from 0 to 100. You can also start on the vibrator’s lowest setting and spend a few minutes gauging how the sensation feels, then building up from there.
4. Wear a cock ring during penetration
Many feel that cock rings enhance pleasure during penetrative sex. Even without vibration, they restrict blood flow from the penis, making erections firmer and longer-lasting. A cock ring that vibrates adds different sensations to the shaft, and if your partner is a woman or has a vagina, it can simultaneously stimulate the clitoris and create pleasure for both partners. There are a range of vibrating cock rings that you can experiment with, including ones that are app-controlled. Most cock rings are flexible and can fit most size penises.
5. Explore other parts of the body
There are plenty of body parts outside the penis and vagina that have heightened sensitivity. It may be fun to add vibration to various erogenous zones, like the nape of the neck, the lips, or the lower abdomen. If you or your partner get turned on by nipple stimulation, try pressing the vibrator on or around the nipple. Perhaps you explore vibrations around the inner thigh. Experimenting with different pressures in different parts of the body can build a teasing sensation.
The bottom line
All genders can incorporate vibrators into their sex lives, if they choose. Vibrators, like dildos or cock rings, can be used in a variety of ways, and it may take time to find what feels good. But the process of experimentation can be a lot of fun, whether it's with yourself or a partner. For more pleasure products, check out our catalog of sex toys for penises.