Sensuality & Arousal
October 25, 2019

How To Play With Bigger Breasts

Want to give as well as receive the most pleasure possible when playing with larger breasts? Here are some dos and don’ts to get you started.
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Micki Allen
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October 25, 2019
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If you find yourself dating a partner with big boobs, you’ll quickly notice the truth to the old adage, “the more, the merrier.” But if you spend more time staring at your partner’s large and luscious breasts than playing with them, you’ll be missing out on a lot of fun as well as depriving them of extra pleasure. While it’s tempting to leap below the belt right away, paying attention to their boobs shows your partner that you want to please more of their body. 

Ask first

Never touch a partner without permission. Directly ask how and if they like their breasts touched, and if they have a preference for how you refer to their breasts. Be aware that some trans and genderqueer folks may not want their breasts touched at all. They also may want their breasts referred to as their chest, not tits or boobs.  

Don’t rush  

Large breasts require a lot of support. Once they are freed from their minimizing or underwire bras, they’ll need some time to relax and take a breath, so to speak. The weight of larger breasts can take a toll on your partner’s neck, shoulders, and back throughout the day, so beginning with a nice neck and shoulder rub before moving on will show how much you care.  Once you’ve been given permission to play with a person’s breasts, let them know how grateful you are by taking a few moments to visually appreciate them before going for the gold. Any time a partner grants permission to see their body sans clothing, they’re being vulnerable and trusting you. Let your partner know how much you admire their body by taking things a little slowly. 

Do voice your pleasure 

Unfortunately, folks with a large bust sometimes receive a lot of unwanted and negative attention. This may cause them to be more self-conscious about their breasts, it’s always best to begin with a sincere and honest compliment that doesn’t point out their size. You want your lover to feel admired and to assure them that their breasts will be safe in your hands or mouth. A compliment such as “You have such beautiful breasts,” is a wonderful start. Or instead, try “I love how hard your nipples get when I kiss them,” or “I really enjoy their weight in my hands.” 

Don’t assume all nipples are equal

Not all nipples will react the same to touch, strokes, or sucking. Some people (approximately 10-20 percent of ciswomen) have inverted nipples that may need more attention before becoming erect. Others may have erect nipples simply because there’s a chill in the air. So, it’s best not to equate erect or non-erect nipples with your partner’s level of arousal. Inverted, flat, or perky nipples, they’re all delightful and deserve your attention. Assess your partner’s arousal with vocal cues and their responses to your touches, kisses, or questions. And don’t forget that the whole breast, not just the nipple, is there to admire.

Ask what they like

According to one study conducted at the University of Vienna, researchers found that large breasts were about 24 percent less sensitive than small ones, but sensitivity may vary in the same person, depending on a few factors, including their menstrual cycle or stress levels. Some people with larger breasts are more aroused by being touched at the crest of their breasts than on her nipples. Some are turned on by having them cupped in or stroked by their partner’s hands. Ask your partner what brings them pleasure. You may also ask to watch them play with their breasts and make a mental note of the way they enjoy having them touched.

Don’t pretend they’re playthings

Yes, buxom breasts are fun to watch jiggle and to play with, but they aren’t inanimate objects to be toyed with. So slapping, bouncing, and jiggling are off the table unless your partner is into that and gives you permission to do so.

Bigger breasts can be extra sexy and a lot of fun to admire, so do ask how you may best enjoy them and explore what makes you both feel comfortable and satisfied. Keeping that in mind, remember that your partner is more than just a pair of fabulous breasts. Be keen to follow the tips above and both you and your partner may be pleased with the results.

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Relationship coach and sex educator Micki Allen bases her work both in sexual technique and Christian values of love, joy, and grace. Micki helps women and genderqueer people enrich their intimate lives and identify needs and boundaries; as a minister, she also assists clients with healing from religious shame and trauma. @themickiallen

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