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March 26, 2020

What It Really Feels Like To Get A Blowjob

Curious about what a BJ feels like? We asked some folks to explain how BJs feel to them!
Written by
Jamie LeClaire
Published on
March 26, 2020
Updated on
November 23, 2022
What's changed?
We updated this article to include information on how certain sex toys can mimic the feeling of a blowjob.
We updated this article to include information on how certain sex toys can mimic the feeling of a blowjob.

If you don’t have a penis, you might be super curious about what a blowjob feels like. You might also be curious if you have a penis, but haven’t experienced one before. Or maybe you have had a blow job, but just want to learn about other folks’ experiences. Either way, we’ve got you covered! To find out what it really feels like to get a blowjob, O.school took to social media to ask real folks with penises what getting head is like.

Keep in mind, there is no monolithic “perfect blowjob.” As with any other sexual act, when it comes to receiving blowjobs, everyone experiences it differently and may prefer different techniques, speeds, and pressures, among other things. A good way to know what your partner likes is to pay close attention to their sounds, facial reactions, body language, and most importantly, to ask them! 

Now, let’s see how these wordsmiths articulated this pleasure-filled experience. 

It’s an experience that is sometimes difficult to accurately put into words.

“A blowjob feels like what I would imagine heaven to feel like if there were such a place. The anticipation of the lips to connect with the tip, to the feel of a throat closing around my hard shaft, it’s indescribable.” - Rick A., 35 

“I honestly don’t even know if there are words for it. Maybe part euphoria and part validation, that someone will submit to engulfing your dick with their mouth.” - Jaime F. (31) 

Some say there is a feeling of stress-relief.

“It almost always feels good, but when the person giving head is enthusiastic and super into it, it’s so much better. It can also be a very relaxing experience” - Alex R., 39

“A great blowjob feels like getting all the stress and anxiety evacuated from one’s body and soul through the penis leading to a toe-curling release” - Matt S., 41 

Many love the physical warmth of the experience.

“It feels so warm and kind of like PIV (penis in vagina) sex when I'm in their mouth, just not as tight. When they lick me up and down my shaft, it feels like hot static coursing from my dick through my balls and sometimes deeper.  If they flick their tongue around my head, it sends sharp jolts of pressure all through me and I usually arch my back, curl my toes.”  - Charles R., 38

“It's exhilarating. It's as vulnerable as one can be. Feeling the warmth of your partner’s mouth, having them play and pull with each pubic hair, feeling your partner’s nails caress each testicle with a slight tug.” - Chris, 30 

“Receiving a blowjob is warm and comforting. It is erotic and sexy and raw. It’s amazing. Compare [it] to a hot drink on a freezing winter day, [or] ice cream on a hot, hot summer day. - Dave O., 29 

“Getting a blowjob from my ex was like sliding into a warm vagina. Honestly, sometimes I couldn’t tell if she was sliding down on my cock or giving me head.” - Cam C., 33 

It’s also not necessarily everyone’s cup of tea, and that’s OK.

“I actually prefer the feel and good anxiety of initial entry of PIV [penis in vagina] sex. I enjoy [blowjobs], but I’d much prefer the first 15-30 minutes of sex over it” - Sean K., 24 

“Blowjobs aren't particularly my favorite form of pleasure. I would equate it to giving your index finger a handjob with your other hand. It's soothing but nothing incredible.” - John F., 28

We hope these generous folks helped give you a varied glimpse into the unique experiences of receiving fellatio! Remember though, pleasure is subjective and communication is key to knowing just what it is that your partner enjoys!

Try a sex toy that simulates what a blowjob feels like 

If you’ve never experienced a blowjob before, or if you have a partner who doesn’t enjoy giving head, you can still experience what a blowjob feels like. There are plenty of pleasure products out there meant to simulate the feeling of a human mouth and tongue on the penis. For example, you might explore a penis masturbator or a stroker, like a fleshlight. Using such pleasure products can help you experience a blowjob without requiring a partner to give one to you. Everyone deserves the pleasure they desire, and there are sex toys out there to help. 

Editor’s pick for best toy that mimics the feeling of a blowjob 

Fleshlight Turbo Thrust
Fleshlight Turbo Thrust Blue
Fleshlight Turbo Thrust Hand
Fleshlight Turbo Thrust Close
Fleshlight Turbo Thrust Box

Made with Fleshlight’s patented Real Feel SuperSkin, Turbo Thrust makes for a satisfying alternative to oral sex. It’s designed with textured ribs and intricate lining, simulating the experience of a tongue gliding up and down your shaft. What makes Turbo stand out is its three distinct ways of insertion, which all offer unique sensations that shift as your penis moves through the sleeve. Whether you’re looking to simply stimulate the tip of your penis, or mimic the feel of a deepthroat, or anything in between, Turbo can be a great product to have in your toy box.

Benefits
Realistic textures and life-like feel of oral sex
Small and portable
Affordable
Drawbacks
Requires hand movement
Might not fit very large penis sizes
The nuts and bolts
  • Body-safe materials: TPR, ABS plastic
  • Waterproof
  • Compatible with water-based and silicone-based lube
  • 8.5 x 3.5 x 3.5 in

The bottom line 

A blowjob can feel different to different people, but for those who enjoy getting head, they agree — it feels awesome. Of course, blowjobs aren’t for everyone, but if you’ve never gotten one before, it can be important to experiment to see what you do and don’t like about the feeling of a blowjob. To help you experience a blowjob during solo sex, explore our catalog of fleshlights.

Reviewed for Medical Accuracy

Jamie J. LeClaire (they/them) is a sexuality educator, freelance writer, and consultant. Their work focuses on the intersections of pleasure-positive sexual health, queer & transgender/gender-nonconforming identity, body politics, and social justice. You can find more of their work at their website, and follow them on Instagram & Twitter.

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