Squirting happens when fluid is released from the urethra of a person with a vulva during sexual activity. Many people believe that squirting is the same as or indicates orgasm, but this is not the case! For people with vulvas, squirting is completely separate from climax. It can happen before, after or at the time of orgasm. Squirting fluid, sometimes called “squirt”, can come out in a little spurt that you might not even notice, or it can gush out and soak the mattress.
We know that squirting is a real thing—lots of people have done it. However, more scientific research is needed for us to fully understand this aspect of sexuality, as there are still many unanswered questions about what the fluid is exactly and where it comes from.
Is Squirting Fluid Pee?
With squirting, there’s a common question that often arises: “Is it pee?” Research tells us that squirting is a distinct fluid that is not pee (although some pee may be released at the same time).
Squirting fluid can come out in a little spurt that you might not even notice, or it can gush out and soak the mattress.
Squirting fluid has a different chemical makeup and isn’t the same as urine1. Some scientists believe the fluid comes from the Skene’s glands (which may be related to the prostate).
When a person squirts a large amount of fluid however, some of it may come from the bladder. Scientists don’t yet know for sure what the fluid is made up of, nor do they know exactly where it comes from. More research is needed!
How Do You Learn To Squirt?
Given the massive amount of attention squirting gets in our society, many people are eager to learn how to do it. And some people do report that it makes their orgasm feel stronger—while others says it feels the same.
If you're curious to discover whether you can squirt and want to try it out as a fun project, go for it! However, if you feel like you “should” be able to, or you're doing it only because your partner wants you to, your body may tense up which will actually make it harder to squirt. If this is the case, consider setting the project aside.
If you do try to learn how to squirt, many people find that g-spot stimulation is the most effective way to make it happen. The g-spot can be massaged with a firm, curved g-spot toy or with finger tips.
Many people find that g-spot stimulation is the most effective way to induce squirting.
Releasing the pelvic floor muscles at the right moment - as opposed to clenching, which many of us do without realising it - can also help squirting to happen. When you’re trying to learn to squirt, have patience, stay hydrated, and keep practicing!
Squirting Comes Easily To Some And Not Others
The takeaway on squirting is that we live in a diverse world: Some people wish they could squirt and try without success to make it happen, while some people squirt easily but find it inconvenient and wish they could control it.
If you fall into the latter category and squirting is putting a damper on your sex life, try laying down a towel, purchasing a Fascinator Throe, or even putting down puppy pads to make cleanup easier.
If you fall into the former category, know that it can be difficult and even counterproductive to attempt to force your body to do something. For the happiest and healthiest sex life, try focusing as much as possible on pleasurable sensation—rather than performance!
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