Oral sex on someone with a vulva is one of the most popular sexual activities out there—and for good reason! Cunnilingus (the technical name for eating pussy) stimulates the clitoris directly. Since 70-80% of people with a vulva need, or prefer, clitoral stimulation to have an orgasm, it can be a tried-and-true technique for bringing your partner to climax.

Try these top five pussy-eating tips for pleasing your partner:

Tip 1: Tease The Whole Pussy

While it’s fabulous to focus in on the clit—especially when your partner is at the height of their arousal—it can be super yummy to warm things up by stimulating the whole area. You can start up by the belly button or hips and make a trail of kisses over the pubic mound, or start down by the knees and work your way up to the inner thighs. Playfully lick and kiss up, down, and around the labia, the perineum (also called the taint, it’s the sensitive stretch of skin between the anus and the vagina), and the vaginal opening.

You can start up by the belly button or hips and make a trail of kisses over the pubic mound.

As things heat up, you can start zeroing in on the clitoris.

Tip 2: Get The Clit Pressure Right

Everyone likes a different pressure on their clit and around their vulva. It’s best to start with a tantalizingly light pressure to tease them, and then increasingly apply more pressure as they get more turned on. Clits are so sensitive that less pressure may actually feel more intense, while too much pressure can become uncomfortable. If you’re the giver, ask the receiver what feels best, and watch their body language to find out what they prefer.

Tip 3: Find The Right Rhythm to Orgasm

Experiment with different rhythms to find out what your partner likes. Try different speeds, and then experiment with mixing them up. Do they like a consistent rhythm? Do they like pauses? For many people teasing feels great at the beginning, but as they get closer to orgasm they need a steadier rhythm to get there. If your partner is nearing climax, try to keep the rhythm consistent.

Tip 4: Add A Finger Or Two During Oral Sex

Tongue getting tired? Take a break and let your hand take over. If you’re new to eating pussy, or you’ve been licking for a while, your tongue and jaw can get tired. Switching to your hand allows the receiver to still enjoy the sexy sensations and build arousal. You can also use both your mouth and hand together! Many people find it pleasurable to have a finger in the vagina or the anus during oral sex.

Tongue getting tired? Take a break and let your hand take over.

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Tip 5: Become A Pussy Connoisseur

Some people feel anxious about a partner going down on them because they are afraid their pussy will smell or taste bad. As the giver you can reassure your partner by complimenting their smell, taste, and appearance down there. Healthy pussies do have a distinct smell and taste, and a good pussy eater will appreciate this as part of the experience.

Now it’s time to practice: Next time you’re getting down with your partner use these top tips to take your pussy eating to the next level. Your partner will thank you!