Yes Porn Please!

Watching pornography can be a pleasurable way to explore your fantasies alone or with a partner. However watching porn doesn't offer a realistic depiction of sex.

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Watching pornography can be a pleasurable way to explore your fantasies alone or with a partner. However watching porn doesn't offer a realistic depiction of sex. This can be exciting because you can vicariously enjoy situations that could never happen in real life. This can be a problem, however, if you’re looking to porn for pointers on how you are supposed to have sex.

Just as there’s no one right way to have sex, there’s no one right way to watch porn. If you have a fantasy, there’s probably a porn clip, short video, or film out there that depicts it. If there’s a certain sex act or kind of person that turns you on, there’s probably porn out there that features all that and then some. And if you want to introduce watching porn into your sex life, the first step is to talk to your partner about what they like before doing a search.

Although consent and STI prevention are important to discuss in real life, a lot of mainstream pornography doesn’t depict sexual consent or a discussion of STI prevention. In addition, a lot of mainstream pornography shows sex from a cisgender, heterosexual man’s point of view. There is also a tendency in mainstream porn to show an extremely limited and idealized version of the human body that doesn’t reflect the diversity of people in the world.

That said, just because all porn isn’t realistic and doesn’t reflect the diversity of lived experiences, that doesn’t mean that all porn is bad or dirty or wrong. There is plenty of porn that features folks of all genders, races, abilities, and ethnicities having all kinds of sex. When used in a consensual way, pornography can heighten your sexual experiences and allow you to connect with yourself or a partner.

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