If we were Kate Beckinsale vacationing in Cabo, we, too, would be posting bikini pics here, there, and everywhere. While the rest of us have been shivering under our sixteen spare blankets and nibbling on Thanksgiving leftovers, the Underworld actress has been showing off her sun-kissed skin via Instagram while on her week-long beach vacation. And, though try as they might, Beckinsale was not about to let haters ruin her relaxation time. When a few rude Instagrammers attempted to rain on her parade, Beckinsale not only clapped back, but tried to educate her haters on how to love themselves more. Needless to say, our standing for Kate Beckinsale has grown three sizes in the past six days.

On her last beach upload from her Cabo trip, posted on December 2nd, one IG user slung the following nasty comment: “I feel like you are having a midlife crisis or something.” *Eye roll.*

“Oh! I think that’s because you’re an annoying asshole,” 46-year-old Beckinsale fired back. The commenter attempted to diss Beckinsale again with, “at least I have pretty green eyes and my youth.” 

Beckinsale, clearly unscathed, replied: “Yes darling at least you have that XX.”

Sadly, this wasn’t the only negative age-related comment left on one of Beckinsale’s numerous bikini pics — which are all amazing by the way. Her self confidence rightfully radiates from every single pixel, but some problematic people disagree with that because of her age.

“She’s too old..looking for attention hahahaa!!” one person commented on Beckinsale’s November 30th post. Sure, Beckinsale could have ignored the comment entirely and went about her day at the beach. However, the actress decided to turn this negativity into a teaching moment. 

“I don’t know you and I don’t know who has made you feel that if you get older you have no value, can’t be attractive or sexy or have a relationship with your body that isn’t only self loathing, but as one female to another, don’t let any of that noise bother you,” Beckinsale wrote. “You’ll feel more powerful, may well physically blossom, know who you are and what you want and get good at setting healthier boundaries.”‍‍

“If you’re young and fearing getting older, don’t,” Beckinsale continued. “You’ll come into your own power in a way that feels steady and so many more things will feel possible. The people or press that are scaring you that your value is tied up in youth, or in fact anything that is not currently within your reach, is noise I do hope you allow yourself to ignore. 

“I can’t imagine how unhappy you must feel to leave comments like this...Sending love and the real hope you receive this message in the spirit that it’s meant. I know you have more to offer than leaving mean comments that illuminate far more about you than they do about the people you choose to comment on.” She signed off with “Sending love X.”

Um, we want this entire comment embroidered on a pillow. We don’t care how big the pillow has to be. We want it. Not only did Beckinsale perfectly outline how we’ve all been falsely led to believe by media and the entertainment industry that aging is an inherently negative experience, but she actually made us excited to get to know our older selves.

If it’s up to Kate Beckinsale to encourage the dismissal of ageism in Hollywood (and everyday life), then she’s obviously more than ready to lead the charge.