What Is Edging? Tips, Tricks, And Benefits.

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If you love to orgasm — as most of us do — you might be wondering how to make the experience even more pleasurable. Edging is a technique that might just do the trick for you. There are a few reasons why edging can intensify an orgasm, and a few tips on how to make edging work for you. Read on to find out more about edging and how to do it.

What is edging?

If you want stronger orgasms, you might try edging. Edging, also known as surfing or peaking, is a technique meant to intensify climax. The technique involves maintaining a state of high sexual arousal for a period of time by getting aroused almost to the point of orgasm, but then stopping or switching sexual activity to delay climax. Because the orgasm has been building, it can be much more powerful when it finally happens.

What is edging for women?

If you’ve heard of edging and want to try it with yourself or with a partner, you might wonder what is edging for women? Edging for women is when the woman is aroused almost to the point of orgasm, but then sexual activity is stopped to delay climax. The building of arousal is meant to make the eventual orgasm that much more powerful and intense. Edging is a technique that can apply to people of all genders.

Is edging bad?

Edging is not bad if you enjoy it. Like any sexual activity, whether or not you like edging, and if it’s good or bad for you, is entirely dependent on your personal preferences. Edging is not inherently bad and, with some practice, can even make your orgasms stronger and more enjoyable.

Is edging safe?

Edging is safe and can make your sexual experiences that much more fun if you enjoy the practice of edging. Edging can make your climaxes stronger as you build sexual tension and arousal. If you are practicing edging and don’t climax, however, you may experience blue balls, which can be uncomfortable but will subside after a little time and is not ultimately harmful for your body.

Why do people like edging?

People like edging because it intensifies orgasms. The practice of delaying orgasm, and then building up to it again, then delaying, building up, and then finally allowing yourself to climax can make the sensation very intense and enjoyable.

How to do edging?

People try edging to make their orgasms more powerful. How to do edging depends on what you’re into, but the general goal is to delay orgasm by building arousal — whether that’s with masturbating, a partner, a toy, etc. When you’re on the brink of climax, stop or switch stimulating activities to maintain a high level of arousal for an extended period, and then repeat. After a few sessions of this, let yourself finally orgasm to have a stronger and more intense feeling.

Edging Tips

There are many ways to practice edging, but here are some edging tips to get you started. First, try edging while masturbating. Use your hand, a toy, or an object to get aroused. Before you climax, pause or switch your stimulating technique to prolong the orgasm. Do this a few times to build arousal until you finally allow for release. 

Try involving a partner by stimulating them almost to the point of orgasm, then stop. Repeat this activity as many times as you’d like before allowing orgasm. Such orgasm denial can build and intensify the eventual climax.

How to edge a guy?

If you’re wondering how to edge a guy, there are a couple techniques. Generally, you want to get him aroused — with a hand job, blow job, penetration, whatever he’s into — and then stop when he’s on the brink of orgasm. The goal is to delay climax by building the arousal. Orgasm denial can be a BDSM technique or a kink you experiment with.

Edging isn’t for everyone, but if it’s something you enjoy, or think you might enjoy, more power to you. It can be fun to experiment with different ways to intensify an orgasm, and edging is just one way to give your body some new, fun sensations. Try it by yourself, with a partner, or don’t try it at all. It’s up to you!

Louise Bourchier, MPH

Reviewed for Medical Accuracy

Louise Bourchier is a sex educator and sex researcher with 8 years experience in the field. She teaches about sexual health, sexual pleasure, and communication in relationships through workshops, live-streams, and with written content. Using a sex-positive approach, a dash of humour, and bag full of fun props, Louise’s style of sex education for adults is not what you got in high school! Since 2011 she has taught over a hundred workshops to a wide range of audiences, from university students, to refugees, to medical professionals, to adult store clientele. She has a Masters of Public Health, and is currently a PhD candidate.

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