How To Have Tantric Sex: Tips And Positions To Try

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Tantric sex can be used to enhance intimacy, connection, and sensual pleasure. There are various techniques and positions you can try, and each will hopefully be a bit body and mind-expanding. Experimenting with various tantric sex positions to see which work for you and your partner(s) is more than half the fun.

What is tantric sex / Tantric sex definition

You may have heard of tantric sex, but what exactly is the tantric sex definition? Tantra has roots in Hinduism and Buddhism, and is a practice used around the world to enhance intimacy, connection, and sensual pleasure. There are different tantric sex methods, but mindful, sensual connection with yourself and/or a partner is central. You can practice tantric sex by engaging in erotic massage, exploring the chakras, and/or through meditation and concentration on the breath as you engage your erogenous zones. While tantric sex can be erotic, it doesn’t necessarily need to end in orgasm.

How to have tantric sex / Tantra sex techniques

Tantric sex is all about connecting with yourself and/or a partner, spiritually and physically. This may involve meditation, massage and mindful touch, masturbation, sex, or all of the above. If you’re wondering how to have tantric sex, try these techniques. 

  • Learn about tantric sex. Read up on tantric sex as there are many different approaches and philosophies behind it. You might even want a tantric sex teacher to guide you and/or a partner.
  • Prepare. Prepare for tantric sex by journaling about the ways you hope the practice will help you grow spiritually. You can also prepare a nurturing space with scented candles, soft lighting, and pillows, etc. 
  • Meditate. Tantric sex is all about mindful connection. Meditating and focusing on breathwork can help you stay present. If you’re with a partner, you can try making eye contact while synchronizing the breath. 
  • Engage the senses. Introduce sensual touch and massage to yourself or partner. You can use scented candles, toys, and essential oils to enhance sensations. Keep touch slow and purposeful. 
  • Foreplay. Tantric sex can be purely sensual, not sexual. That said, you can still involve foreplay activities with your partner like taking a shower, oral sex, or just kissing. Whatever the action is, just try to concentrate on only that and take things slow. 
  • Try tantric positions. While tantric positions are not necessarily sex positions. Any position that makes you mindful of you and your partner’s connecting space can be a tantric position. You can try, for example, sitting cross-legged, facing your partner with hands on each other’s hearts, making eye contact while synchronize breathing.  
  • Edging. You can involve the practice of stopping sexual activity before climax. By delaying orgasm, you can heighten the sensation when you finally climax.
Tantric sex positions

Any position can be a tantric sex position if it helps you and your partner connect, honor the body, and be more mindful of your sensual spirit and energy. Here are a few tantric sex positions to try: 

  • Yab-Yum: One partner sits cross-legged while the other person sits on their lap, legs wrapped around them. Look into each other’s eyes and synchronize the breath. This is a Tibetin symbol of divine union. 
  • The Arch. One partner sits up with their legs stretched out in front. The other partner sits on the lap, facing away. The partner on the lap then slowly stretches to arch the back and grab their partner’s ankles in front of them. 
  • Lap position. One partner sits in a chair, while the other sits on their lap facing them. The partner on the lap puts their legs on the seated partner’s shoulders.

Experimenting with tantric sex can be a great way to get closer to your partner(s), physically, spiritually, and emotionally. Understanding what tantric sex is, and then mastering one or two techniques and positions is a great way start. If you’re into it, you can expand your tantric sex practice by continuing to have mindful, connecting experiences as often as you and your partner(s) like.

Louise Bourchier, MPH

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Louise Bourchier is a sex educator and sex researcher with 8 years experience in the field. She teaches about sexual health, sexual pleasure, and communication in relationships through workshops, live-streams, and with written content. Using a sex-positive approach, a dash of humour, and bag full of fun props, Louise’s style of sex education for adults is not what you got in high school! Since 2011 she has taught over a hundred workshops to a wide range of audiences, from university students, to refugees, to medical professionals, to adult store clientele. She has a Masters of Public Health, and is currently a PhD candidate.

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