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We Need to Talk About Consent

How many of you have had a real, clear talk about consent with a partner after #metoo? Q Wilson, your boi of validation and warmth, will get you so pumped and ready to have an empowering, not awkward conversation.

Sex After Trauma

Speaking from her experience with domestic violence, Mia shares her journey and practices toward healing, reclaiming her body and sexuality, and opening up to new relationships.

Nope, That's Not Consent

Stalking your crush, pushing for the yes, kissing as she fights until she gives in... Guess what, Hollywood? That's not consent. Join Dawn Serra in this fast-paced look at the myth of what's romantic and consent (or the lack of it) in TV & movies.

My Vagina Hurts!

Sometimes vaginas experience pain during and after sex. Why? Is this normal? Tune in as RebaTheDiva & Nurse Jenna discuss potential causes of pain, telling your partners and how to make sex less painful.

Is Pain Affecting Your Sex Life?

Discussing pain, sex, and everything that goes with it.

Healing From A Traumatic Relationship

Speaking from her experience with domestic violence, Mia shares her journey and practices toward healing, reclaiming her body and sexuality, and opening up to new relationships.

Healing After Trauma

How can pleasure help someone heal after trauma? Rev. Pleasure discusses ways to help reclaim your body and redefine pleasure.

Between You And Me

Learn to identify, honor, and assert your boundaries for better sex and more fulfilling relationships. Bring your boundary questions to Roan and get tips for exploring and communicating.

Approaching Sex After Birth

Our bodies and sex lives change after childbirth. Pleasure Professional Lucia Pavone will break down the in's and out's of sex after birth and address anxieties about getting back into the sheets.

Sex And Relationships After Trauma

Learn more about how to talk to your partner about past assault, how to support a friend who has experienced trauma, pain and sexual dysfunction after trauma.

How To Talk About A Past Sexual Assault With Your Partner

Disclosing a past sexual trauma can be an emotional and draining event. Here’s how to gear up for it—and take care of yourself afterward.

Why Am I Having Pain During Sex?

How To Support Sexual Assault Survivors

Pelvic Floor

Vaginismus, Pelvic Muscle Tension, And Painful Sex

What Causes Erectile Dysfunction?

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Boost Your Sexual Consent Skills

Not only is consent essential for making sure sexual experiences are positive and wanted, practicing good consent is also crucial in healing, and helping partners heal from sexual trauma.

Top 10 Things You Need To Know About Consent

What Everyone Needs To Know About Sexual Consent

How To Tell Your Partner You’ve Changed Your Mind: Withdrawing Consent

How To Talk About Consent With A Hookup Partner

Communication

9 Questions to Ask Your Partner Before Getting It On

Trauma Facts: Did You Know?

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Consent isn’t just a “yes” or “no.” It should be given enthusiastically throughout sexual activity and can be withdrawn at any time.

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Past sexual trauma can be emotionally and physically damaging. For vagina-owners, it can cause vaginismus — a condition that makes penetration very painful.

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Callisto is a non-profit that creates technology to help detect and report sexual predators on college campuses.

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Half as many sexual assault and rape cases have been reported since 1993, but there are still over 300,000 American survivors of assault each year.

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Trans and gender-diverse people are at higher risk of experiencing sexual trauma than cis gender people.

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If someone tells you they’ve experienced sexual trauma, believe them, do not judge them, listen to them, and offer support if you can.

Trauma (noun)

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A deeply disturbing or distressing event that can cause lasting psychological effects, which is known as post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). A traumatic experience related to sex and relationships — whether it’s caused by an abusive relationship, a bad date, a sexual assault, or something else — can make it hard for the survivor to enjoy future sex and intimacy. While there’s no one way to heal from trauma — everyone heals at their own pace, in their own way — there are many resources and support groups to help.

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More Articles On Trauma And Recovery

Get clued up on supporting survivors of assault, talking about past sexual trauma, understanding trauma-related sexual dysfunction and more.

Healing From My Abusive Relationship Taught Me What It Means To Be Sexually Liberated

I learned what true sexual liberation actually is.

The Kind Of Domestic Violence We Don’t Talk About Enough

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month, and I’ve finally processed what I survived a decade ago.

Más Muejeres Informan Que Se Sienten Inseguras Durante El Sexo: Esto Es Lo Que Debe Saber

Es un estudio reciente, una cuarta parte de las mujeres informaron que se sentían “asustadas durante el sexo”. Antes de tener sexo duro con su pareja, estos son los pasos que debe seguir para asegurarse de que todos se sientan cómodos.

Mental Health

How Masturbation Helped Me Get Control Over My C-PTSD

A writer who lives with C-PTSD used masturbation to remember that she, too, deserves pleasure.

We Need to Talk About Consent

Sex After Trauma

Speaking from her experience with domestic violence, Mia shares her journey and practices toward healing, reclaiming her body and sexuality, and opening up to new relationships.

Nope, That's Not Consent

My Vagina Hurts!

Is Pain Affecting Your Sex Life?

Discussing pain, sex, and everything that goes with it.

Healing From A Traumatic Relationship

Speaking from her experience with domestic violence, Mia shares her journey and practices toward healing, reclaiming her body and sexuality, and opening up to new relationships.

Healing After Trauma

How can pleasure help someone heal after trauma? Rev. Pleasure discusses ways to help reclaim your body and redefine pleasure.

Between You And Me

Learn to identify, honor, and assert your boundaries for better sex and more fulfilling relationships. Bring your boundary questions to Roan and get tips for exploring and communicating.

Pregnancy & Childbirth

Approaching Sex After Birth

Our bodies and sex lives change after childbirth. Pleasure Professional Lucia Pavone will break down the in's and out's of sex after birth and address anxieties about getting back into the sheets.

Let's Talk About Mindy Kaling's Support of Aziz Ansari

Mindy Kaling’s support for comedian Aziz Ansari, who has faced sexual assault allegations, has elicited several reactions. No matter how you feel about it, the topic calls for some much-needed discourse on consent.

How To Talk About Consent With A Hookup Partner

How do you ask for consent? Here’s exactly what you need to know before you dive head first into your next hook-up.

Pelvic Floor

Vaginismus, Pelvic Muscle Tension, And Painful Sex

Painful sex is common, but it’s certainly not normal. Here’s what you could be experiencing—and what to do about it.

Tips For Managing Premature Ejaculation

If you struggle with premature ejaculation, here are some strategies you can use to manage it.

What Causes Premature Ejaculation?

Ejaculating more quickly than you’d like can be frustrating and stressful. Here are potential causes of premature ejaculation.

What Causes Erectile Dysfunction?

From certain medications to stress, there are a number of reasons why some people are unable to get or maintain erections. Learn all the causes of erectile dysfunction here. Are you or someone you know unable to get or stay hard? Learn about the possible causes of erectile dysfunction here.

Why Am I Having Pain During Sex?

Common reasons for pain during sex and what you can do about them.

How To Talk About A Past Sexual Assault With Your Partner

Disclosing a past sexual trauma can be an emotional and draining event. Here’s how to gear up for it—and take care of yourself afterward.

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Home For The Holidays

Are you worried about heading home for the holidays? Do you want to avoid those cringeworthy conversations with your relatives? We have some survival strategies.