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Body shame. Slut shaming. Penis shame. Pussy shame. Let’s talk about breaking through shame to enjoy sex and intimacy.

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Explore the effects of religious shame, how to break free from body shame, and how to build sexual confidence.

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Building Sexual Confidence

Q Wilson shares with you some tips he learned on his journey towards becoming a more sexually confident person.

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Breaking Free From Shame

Sex is intimidating. From body shame, to performance anxiety to worrying our partners will think our desires are 'weird'. Join this class to get tips on communication, navigating shame and getting creative with erotic tools to upgrade your idea of 'sexy'.

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Oh My God: Faith And Sexuality

Ever wondered how to be both a queer ally as well as a Christian? Listen to Micki Allen give her perspective on reconciling her religion with her sexuality.

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Long Term Effects Of Your Bad Sex Ed

O.school has been collecting stories about the long-term effects of bad sex ed. Andrea Barrica and Christina Cerqueira share some of those stories in addition to personal experiences

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Masturbation As Self Care

Masturbation is normal, healthy, and can be a huge part of our self care! Join Afrosexology as they answer questions about masturbation, dispelling myths, and speaking truth.

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F*ck Lube Shame! Why You Need It

F*ck lube shame—lube is the actual BEST. Sex educator Jess tells you why it's awesomesauce, which brands and formulas to buy and how to use it.

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Christianity And Sexuality

Religious definitions and stances on purity and pleasure are incredibly powerful for shaping our approach to sexuality.

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The Sex Talk Your Mother Never Gave You: Using your Voice

An O.school fan said they wished their mother taught them how to use their voice and stand up for themself with problematic partners.

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Sex Ed For Parents

If we want to raise children into adults who respect their bodies and others' we need to start talking early. BUT HOW? What do you say? When do you start?

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How To Talk To Your Doctor About Sex?

Are you hesitant or anxious about talking to your doctor about your sexual wellness? If so, here's Dr. UC with tips for you!

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We Need to Talk About Consent

How many of you have had a real, clear talk about consent with a partner after #metoo? Q Wilson, your boi of validation and warmth, will get you so pumped and ready to have an empowering, not awkward conversation.

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Body Shame: The Lies We Are Told by Religion And Society

The world is starting to feel like a dangerous place to have a body. We need to speak openly about body shame, why it’s happening, and what YOU can do to change the culture of body shame!

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Can I Like Sex Too Much?

Do you feel shy to admit you enjoy sex? Sometimes society shames us for enjoying our sexual selves and lusty appetites. Join this stream to talk about embracing your desire for pleasure and de-stigmatizing what it means to like sex.

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Get Hard with Guybrators

Think vibrators are only for pussies? Dude, you’re missing out. Join the Vibrator Whisperer, Sharin’ Peter, and explore the world of Guybrators, aka vibrators for penis-owners and how they can level up your masturbation and partnered play.

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We're In Love, But Our Sex Life Sucks

You love your partner but the sex isn't the best. Do you leave them? Talk to them? Masturbate more? Join this stream to learn about the different ways to explore chemistry and desire, increase communication and how to build better sex with your boo.

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Shame Free Seeds Of Sexual Development

What does sexual development look like in young children? What tools can parents and caregivers use to support children growing into sexually healthy adults? Lydia will share strategies for promoting shame-free conversation with children.

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Body Positivity For Summer

Summer fashions can sometimes send us on an emotional roller coaster. Let's explore feeling sexy in our skin and rockin' our bods in everything from swimsuits and sandals to sundresses and shorts.

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5 Tips For Overcoming Shyness In Bed

Body shy? Worried about performance? Insecure about your experience level? Sex is a skill and we’re always learning. Tune in for tips on building body confidence, finding your own version of sexy and communicating your desires.

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All About Dating As A Bigger Person

Are you a fat babe or you love dating fat babes? How can we uphold self-confidence and fight fatphobia while also pursuing sex and love? Join this live stream for tips on dating confidence, body joy and dealing with rejection.

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What the Hell is This Poly I Keep Hearing About!?

In this intro to Consensual Non-Monogamy, Dr. Yoni will tell you about the types of alternative relationships out there, share some concepts of how they work, and will give you some tips to take into your monogamy that would enhance your relationship.

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From Toxic to Tender Masculinity

In an age of toxic masculinity and acknowledgement of the pervasive rape culture in the U.S., how do we reimagine masculinity without the framework of gender and toxicity. What could tender masculinity look like?

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Dating While Disabled

Dating is tough. If you identify as outside of mainstream beauty and romance standards then you might have a unique perspective on the dating world. Tune in with Matchmaker Claire AH to ask her anything and get tips for dating while disabled.

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Nope, That's Not Consent

Stalking your crush, pushing for the yes, kissing as she fights until she gives in... Guess what, Hollywood? That's not consent. Join Dawn Serra in this fast-paced look at the myth of what's romantic and consent (or the lack of it) in TV & movies.

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Shame Facts: Did You Know?

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Whether you have sex all the time, sometimes, or never is all good. There’s no shame in how often you do or don’t get down.

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It can be hard to unlearn body shame, but letting go of it and loving your hot bod just as it is can lead to even better sex.

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Products to make your pussy smell “good” imply its natural scent is shameful. It’s not. Pussies shouldn’t smell like roses.

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Slut-shaming can make you feel bad simply for enjoying sex. Let’s instead celebrate our sexual adventures.

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Sexual fetishes are complicated. While they can be fun, it’s also not uncommon to feel shame about having a fetish.

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Small penis shame is a huge thing. 45% of people with penises wish their penis was bigger.

Shame (noun)

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We are constantly inundated with societal, religious, and cultural messages of how we should and shouldn’t look and act. When we are different from what society has deemed “normal,” we experience shame —a feeling of distress, humiliation, or being negatively judged. This can especially apply to the way we feel about our bodies and having sex, as we are often told sex for pleasure is shameful. Turning away from slut-shaming, however, and instead touting sex and body positivity is the antidote to shame and the key to pleasure and connection.

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All About Dating As A Bigger Person
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All About Dating As A Bigger Person

Are you a fat babe or you love dating fat babes? How can we uphold self-confidence and fight fatphobia while also pursuing sex and love? Join this live stream for tips on dating confidence, body joy and dealing with rejection.

What the Hell is This Poly I Keep Hearing About!?
Play
Video

What the Hell is This Poly I Keep Hearing About!?

In this intro to Consensual Non-Monogamy, Dr. Yoni will tell you about the types of alternative relationships out there, share some concepts of how they work, and will give you some tips to take into your monogamy that would enhance your relationship.

Breaking Free From Shame
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Video

Breaking Free From Shame

Sex is intimidating. From body shame, to performance anxiety to worrying our partners will think our desires are 'weird'. Join this class to get tips on communication, navigating shame and getting creative with erotic tools to upgrade your idea of 'sexy'.

How To Talk To Your Doctor About Sex?
Play
Video

How To Talk To Your Doctor About Sex?

Are you hesitant or anxious about talking to your doctor about your sexual wellness? If so, here's Dr. UC with tips for you!

Can I Like Sex Too Much?
Play
Video

Can I Like Sex Too Much?

Do you feel shy to admit you enjoy sex? Sometimes society shames us for enjoying our sexual selves and lusty appetites. Join this stream to talk about embracing your desire for pleasure and de-stigmatizing what it means to like sex.

We're In Love, But Our Sex Life Sucks
Play
Video

We're In Love, But Our Sex Life Sucks

You love your partner but the sex isn't the best. Do you leave them? Talk to them? Masturbate more? Join this stream to learn about the different ways to explore chemistry and desire, increase communication and how to build better sex with your boo.

Body Positivity For Summer
Play
Video

Body Positivity For Summer

Summer fashions can sometimes send us on an emotional roller coaster. Let's explore feeling sexy in our skin and rockin' our bods in everything from swimsuits and sandals to sundresses and shorts.

Sex Ed For Parents
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Video

Sex Ed For Parents

If we want to raise children into adults who respect their bodies and others' we need to start talking early. BUT HOW? What do you say? When do you start?

Shame Free Seeds Of Sexual Development
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Video

Shame Free Seeds Of Sexual Development

What does sexual development look like in young children? What tools can parents and caregivers use to support children growing into sexually healthy adults? Lydia will share strategies for promoting shame-free conversation with children.

Body Shame: The Lies We Are Told by Religion And Society
Play
Video

Body Shame: The Lies We Are Told by Religion And Society

The world is starting to feel like a dangerous place to have a body. We need to speak openly about body shame, why it’s happening, and what YOU can do to change the culture of body shame!

Dating While Disabled
Play
Video

Dating While Disabled

Dating is tough. If you identify as outside of mainstream beauty and romance standards then you might have a unique perspective on the dating world. Tune in with Matchmaker Claire AH to ask her anything and get tips for dating while disabled.

5 Tips For Overcoming Shyness In Bed
Play
Video

5 Tips For Overcoming Shyness In Bed

Body shy? Worried about performance? Insecure about your experience level? Sex is a skill and we’re always learning. Tune in for tips on building body confidence, finding your own version of sexy and communicating your desires.

Get Hard with Guybrators
Play
Video

Get Hard with Guybrators

Think vibrators are only for pussies? Dude, you’re missing out. Join the Vibrator Whisperer, Sharin’ Peter, and explore the world of Guybrators, aka vibrators for penis-owners and how they can level up your masturbation and partnered play.

From Toxic to Tender Masculinity
Play
Video

From Toxic to Tender Masculinity

In an age of toxic masculinity and acknowledgement of the pervasive rape culture in the U.S., how do we reimagine masculinity without the framework of gender and toxicity. What could tender masculinity look like?

The Sex Talk Your Mother Never Gave You: Using your Voice
Play
Video

The Sex Talk Your Mother Never Gave You: Using your Voice

An O.school fan said they wished their mother taught them how to use their voice and stand up for themself with problematic partners.

Christianity And Sexuality
Play
Video

Christianity And Sexuality

Religious definitions and stances on purity and pleasure are incredibly powerful for shaping our approach to sexuality.

Long Term Effects Of Your Bad Sex Ed
Play
Video

Long Term Effects Of Your Bad Sex Ed

O.school has been collecting stories about the long-term effects of bad sex ed. Andrea Barrica and Christina Cerqueira share some of those stories in addition to personal experiences

Masturbation As Self Care
Play
Video

Masturbation As Self Care

Masturbation is normal, healthy, and can be a huge part of our self care! Join Afrosexology as they answer questions about masturbation, dispelling myths, and speaking truth.

Building Sexual Confidence
Play
Video

Building Sexual Confidence

Q Wilson shares with you some tips he learned on his journey towards becoming a more sexually confident person.

We Need to Talk About Consent
Play
Video

We Need to Talk About Consent

How many of you have had a real, clear talk about consent with a partner after #metoo? Q Wilson, your boi of validation and warmth, will get you so pumped and ready to have an empowering, not awkward conversation.

F*ck Lube Shame! Why You Need It
Play
Video

F*ck Lube Shame! Why You Need It

F*ck lube shame—lube is the actual BEST. Sex educator Jess tells you why it's awesomesauce, which brands and formulas to buy and how to use it.

Oh My God: Faith And Sexuality
Play
Video

Oh My God: Faith And Sexuality

Ever wondered how to be both a queer ally as well as a Christian? Listen to Micki Allen give her perspective on reconciling her religion with her sexuality.

Nope, That's Not Consent
Play
Video

Nope, That's Not Consent

Stalking your crush, pushing for the yes, kissing as she fights until she gives in... Guess what, Hollywood? That's not consent. Join Dawn Serra in this fast-paced look at the myth of what's romantic and consent (or the lack of it) in TV & movies.

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Andrea Barrica

O.school Founder / CEO

Andrea Barrica envisions a world in which everyone has autonomy over their own body and pleasure. That’s why she started O.school, where she streams as a Pleasure Professional in addition to being the CEO. Previously, Andrea co-founded YC-backed accounting and tax platform, inDinero.com, where she led sales and operations. She also served as a venture partner and entrepreneur-in-residence at 500 Startups

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Dawn Serra

Host of Sex Gets Real Podcast

Dawn Serra began her work a sex and relationship educator in her early 20's, when she started selling sex toys. Today, Dawn hosts the weekly podcast Sex Gets Real, runs the bi-annual online Explore More Summit, speaks at colleges & universities, teaches online & in-person workshops, and so much more in the realm of pleasure, desire, and connection.

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Dr. Uchenna Ossai

Pelvic Health Physical Therapist & Sexuality Counselor

Sex-positive pelvic health physical therapist Dr. Uchenna Ossai is available on O.school to talk pelvic floor, bladder and bowel health, sexual dysfunction and chronic pain. As one of three licensed physical therapists in the world with an AASECT certification in sexuality counseling, Dr. UC is uniquely qualified to answer all your pelvic health-related questions.

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Lucia Pavone

Sensuality Instructor

Lucia Pavone is an international speaker, sex educator, and instructor of the art of sensual pleasure. She has spent years researching communication, intentional living and sensuality, and has experienced over 6,000 hours of Deliberate Embodied Orgasm (full-bodied, extended orgasm). On O.school Lucia supports women and couples to connect to their sensuality, love the body they are in and have a sex life worth bragging about.

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Luna Matatas

Pleasure Pro

A vibrant pleasure educator and aspiring burlesque performer, Luna embraces the weird, wild and wonderful kaleidoscope of sexuality. Luna seeks to help students of all experience levels deconstruct their inner walls and approach their desires with playfulness, an open mind, and an empathetic spirit. Her O.school workshops on body love, pleasure, and play are refreshingly funny, warm and inviting.

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Lydia M. Bowers

Family and Sexuality Coach

With over 15 years of Early Childhood Education experience under her belt, Lydia M. Bowers now focuses on educating families to better understand childhood and adolescent sexual development. Additionally, Lydia's personal experience with pelvic pain has motivated her work with individuals dealing with pain, as well as trauma and/or shame, to reclaim pleasure.

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Mia Little

Pleasure Professional

Mia Little is an accomplished performer, educator and YouTube star. An adept and engaging teacher, Mia works with students to relearn their relationship to orgasm, explore sexual identity and heal from trauma. Mia's pronouns are them/them and identifies as genderqueer.

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Micki Allen

Sex and Relationship Coach

Certified life coach and sex educator Micki Allen bases her work both in sexual technique and Christian values of love, joy and grace. Micki helps women and genderqueer people enrich their intimate lives and identify needs and boundaries; she also assists clients with healing from religious shame and trauma.

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Roan Coughtry

Master of Social Work

Among their many areas of expertise, Roan Coughtry, MSW, coaches people through gender exploration and transition as well as teaching anti-oppression and sex education. Roan offers these skillsets and more to O.school students, as they advocate for healing on both individual and societal levels.

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SisteRNurseJoy

ER Nurse, Drag Queen

SisteRNurseJoy is a Drag Queen Emergency RN, BSN serving doses of joy, laughter, acceptance, and non-judgmental sex education in the Pacific Northwest and on O.school.

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