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Explore the effects of religious shame, how to break free from body shame, and how to build sexual confidence.

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What the Hell is This Poly I Keep Hearing About!?

In this intro to Consensual Non-Monogamy, Dr. Yoni will tell you about the types of alternative relationships out there, share some concepts of how they work, and will give you some tips to take into your monogamy that would enhance your relationship.

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We're In Love, But Our Sex Life Sucks

You love your partner but the sex isn't the best. Do you leave them? Talk to them? Masturbate more? Join this stream to learn about the different ways to explore chemistry and desire, increase communication and how to build better sex with your boo.

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We Need to Talk About Consent

How many of you have had a real, clear talk about consent with a partner after #metoo? Q Wilson, your boi of validation and warmth, will get you so pumped and ready to have an empowering, not awkward conversation.

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The Sex Talk Your Mother Never Gave You: Using your Voice

An O.school fan said they wished their mother taught them how to use their voice and stand up for themself with problematic partners.

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Shame Free Seeds Of Sexual Development

What does sexual development look like in young children? What tools can parents and caregivers use to support children growing into sexually healthy adults? Lydia will share strategies for promoting shame-free conversation with children.

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Sex Ed For Parents

If we want to raise children into adults who respect their bodies and others' we need to start talking early. BUT HOW? What do you say? When do you start?

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Oh My God: Faith And Sexuality

Ever wondered how to be both a queer ally as well as a Christian? Listen to Micki Allen give her perspective on reconciling her religion with her sexuality.

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Nope, That's Not Consent

Stalking your crush, pushing for the yes, kissing as she fights until she gives in... Guess what, Hollywood? That's not consent. Join Dawn Serra in this fast-paced look at the myth of what's romantic and consent (or the lack of it) in TV & movies.

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Masturbation As Self Care

Masturbation is normal, healthy, and can be a huge part of our self care! Join Afrosexology as they answer questions about masturbation, dispelling myths, and speaking truth.

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Long Term Effects Of Your Bad Sex Ed

O.school has been collecting stories about the long-term effects of bad sex ed. Andrea Barrica and Christina Cerqueira share some of those stories in addition to personal experiences

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How To Talk To Your Doctor About Sex?

Are you hesitant or anxious about talking to your doctor about your sexual wellness? If so, here's Dr. UC with tips for you!

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Get Hard with Guybrators

Think vibrators are only for pussies? Dude, you’re missing out. Join the Vibrator Whisperer, Sharin’ Peter, and explore the world of Guybrators, aka vibrators for penis-owners and how they can level up your masturbation and partnered play.

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From Toxic to Tender Masculinity

In an age of toxic masculinity and acknowledgement of the pervasive rape culture in the U.S., how do we reimagine masculinity without the framework of gender and toxicity. What could tender masculinity look like?

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F*ck Lube Shame! Why You Need It

F*ck lube shame—lube is the actual BEST. Sex educator Jess tells you why it's awesomesauce, which brands and formulas to buy and how to use it.

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Dating While Disabled

Dating is tough. If you identify as outside of mainstream beauty and romance standards then you might have a unique perspective on the dating world. Tune in with Matchmaker Claire AH to ask her anything and get tips for dating while disabled.

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Christianity And Sexuality

Religious definitions and stances on purity and pleasure are incredibly powerful for shaping our approach to sexuality.

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Can I Like Sex Too Much?

Do you feel shy to admit you enjoy sex? Sometimes society shames us for enjoying our sexual selves and lusty appetites. Join this stream to talk about embracing your desire for pleasure and de-stigmatizing what it means to like sex.

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Building Sexual Confidence

Q Wilson shares with you some tips he learned on his journey towards becoming a more sexually confident person.

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Breaking Free From Shame

Sex is intimidating. From body shame, to performance anxiety to worrying our partners will think our desires are 'weird'. Join this class to get tips on communication, navigating shame and getting creative with erotic tools to upgrade your idea of 'sexy'.

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Body Shame: The Lies We Are Told by Religion And Society

The world is starting to feel like a dangerous place to have a body. We need to speak openly about body shame, why it’s happening, and what YOU can do to change the culture of body shame!

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Body Positivity For Summer

Summer fashions can sometimes send us on an emotional roller coaster. Let's explore feeling sexy in our skin and rockin' our bods in everything from swimsuits and sandals to sundresses and shorts.

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All About Dating As A Bigger Person

Are you a fat babe or you love dating fat babes? How can we uphold self-confidence and fight fatphobia while also pursuing sex and love? Join this live stream for tips on dating confidence, body joy and dealing with rejection.

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Is My Cock Smaller Than Average? And Other Penis Concerns

Concerned about premature ejaculation? Worried about erectile dysfunction? Troubleshoot common cock concerns here.

Shame Facts: Did You Know?

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Whether you have sex all the time, sometimes, or never is all good. There’s no shame in how often you do or don’t get down.

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It can be hard to unlearn body shame, but letting go of it and loving your hot bod just as it is can lead to even better sex.

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Products to make your pussy smell “good” imply its natural scent is shameful. It’s not. Pussies shouldn’t smell like roses.

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Slut-shaming can make you feel bad simply for enjoying sex. Let’s instead celebrate our sexual adventures.

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Sexual fetishes are complicated. While they can be fun, it’s also not uncommon to feel shame about having a fetish.

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Small penis shame is a huge thing. 45% of people with penises wish their penis was bigger.

Shame (noun)

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We are constantly inundated with societal, religious, and cultural messages of how we should and shouldn’t look and act. When we are different from what society has deemed “normal,” we experience shame —a feeling of distress, humiliation, or being negatively judged. This can especially apply to the way we feel about our bodies and having sex, as we are often told sex for pleasure is shameful. Turning away from slut-shaming, however, and instead touting sex and body positivity is the antidote to shame and the key to pleasure and connection.

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