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Masturbating a Prostate

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Tuesday, May 29, 2018

On this stream we dive into prostate play and tools to help you self-stimulate for an incredible orgasm!

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My name's Sharin Peter and I am here from Excitement Adult Stores. I am the resident sex educator and staff trainer and marketing manager and I am super excited to be bringing you another Masturbation May class with the secrets of the vibrator whisperer. And we're gonna get started with prostate play. So if you're here from O-School, please say hi in the chat. Give us a hello, let me know you're out there. If you wanna just lurk, that's totally fine too. No big deal, but I would love to answer your questions as you have them tonight. So, prostate play, first off, I do not have a prostate. I was assigned female at birth and I do not own one, so me talking about masturbating one is a little challenging. I definitely know the principles of masturbating a prostate but since I cannot personally masturbate one, it is a little different than as if I were talking about masturbating a clitoris or something like that. So, if you do have a prostate and you have tried this, I would love to hear your experiences. Please weigh in, let me know what you thought. Or what you think of it, or if you tried it and didn't like it. Prostate play is one of those things that's kind of like foot rubs. Some people love foot rubs, and some people hate them. And both are okay. So don't feel like you have to be a fan of prostate play. Also, if you're here, and you don't own a prostate, this is still gonna be a great class. Don't feel like because it's masturbate a prostate, you are not gonna learn something. Because if you play with anyone that has a prostate, you might find some great information here. Hi, Mecky, hi Ayanna M. I hope I'm pronouncing both of your name's right. I apologize if not, but so glad you're back, so glad to have you join here. As always please feel free to ask questions. And, I have some other good news. I'm going to be giving away a lubricant tonight. So, if you are interested in winning a giveaway. By the way, these come out of my own personal budget you guys, I buy these for you guys, to give them away because I love you so much. So, I'm not getting these free, I'm actually purchasing them as giveaways. But tonight's giveaway is gonna be the Good Clean Love, Simply, or Almost Naked formula. It is a water-based, 95% organic personal lubricant. It is great for prostate play, but it's great for all sorts of other play too. So, really a big fan of this Good Clean Love stuff. It's mostly aloe based and it's got a really nice, like light scent, no added fragrances, but it does have that, just a really nice like flavor. And it's almost like nothing to it, but this slight sweetness. Anyway, this is a good one, so. Hi Castaway, thanks for joining. If you would like to win this, go to sharinpeter.com, s-h-a-r-i-n-p-e-t-e-r.com and you can enter the giveaway there. Fill out your information, I'll type it in the chat here at O-School. Those of you who'll join us on Instagram, come over to www.o.school to join us there. So, yeah, for the giveaway. And if you win the giveaway, I will contact you and get your address and mail this out at the earliest time I can get to the post office. But yes, if you want to sign up, that is how you do it, at sharinpeter.com. Okay, so, oh, we're gonna start with anatomy. I'm gonna pull out my handy-dandy guides. They are anatomical guides, thanks to Ducky Doolittle. I love her. Yes, Castaway you are a lost leader. Yeah, no, I'm invested in you guys. I really appreciate everybody that comes out here tonight, and I appreciate if you sign up for my newsletters and stuff because that would be a great way for me to keep in touch with you. So we're gonna start with a guide to prostate anatomy. And these guides are thanks to Ducky Doolittle, love her, she's fantastic. But I want to show you what we're gonna be playing with. So, let's see if you can see here. This here is, you know, obviously anatomy of a penis. Try not to do too bad of reflections here. And what we're looking at here. Here's the scrotum, testicles if you will, the shaft, and then the perineum is what the fingers are pressing up into. This is the area between the balls and the anus. And this is a way to massage the prostate from the outside. So there's your first masturbator prostate lesson, is massaging the prostate from the outside. Pushing up on that muscle. This is a level, like a layer of muscle here, that helps support the shaft of the penis. That's the base of the penis. So massaging that is gonna press those muscles up into this, which is the prostate. So if you can see it here. That little round little nugget is about the size of a walnut. So you're looking at a walnut here. And it actually does have a line down the middle too, because the urethra from the bladder, and also the part that comes from the testicles where the sperm starts, it all comes up and runs through the prostate, picks up fluid there, and then comes out through the penis. So it does have a line down the middle, and it swells when aroused. So when you are playing with a prostate, it might get bigger. But it's gonna feel like walnut sized, and the best way to describe the way it would feel to a finger is, okay, go with me here. Take your tongue, and you're gonna stick it into the side of your cheek, from the side, like this right? Um hm. And then you're gonna press on it from the outside. Are you doing it? Are you doing it? So that is what a prostate's gonna feel like, because you're feeling it through some other skin and muscle layers, and it's gonna feel like round and bulbous, and that is where you are, that's what it's gonna be like. About the size of a walnut, which kind of feels like, your tongue in your cheek and pressing on it from the outside of your cheek. That's the sensation that you're looking for when you're hunting for the prostate with fingers. So back to our handy-dandy diagram. You've got the prostate muscle, I'm sorry, the perineum area here. This is the round prostate, that bulb. When we are pushing the perineum from the outside, we are reaching up and massaging the prostate from underneath the base of the penis. And that can feel really amazing just in of itself. If you're someone who's not super keen on internal anal play, that's a great way to get at it, is from the outside just pressing up. By the way, for those that we're not talking masturbation, we're talking hand jobs, or blowjobs. It's a great way to really give a full sensation to the partner because there's different nerves that cover this part of the body that don't cover the penis. The penis has a totally separate set of nerves. Some of them overlap, but the ones that enter via the rectum and the perineum are gonna be different. So you're basically creating another area of massage. So this is... Like think of it if you're getting a shoulder massage, a rub on your shoulders can feel great, a rub on your neck can feel great, a scalp massage can feel great. When you are stimulating the penis and you are stimulating the perineum or prostate, it's like getting all three at once. That's the sort of sensation you're getting. Not necessarily overstimulation but it can feel really amazing. So that's what we're talking about there. Now, we are gonna talk about going in through the rectum, through the anus to reach up and massage the prostate in here. So that sort of motion is gonna be done with toys or with fingers, most likely. Now it can be done a phallus or a dildo. But the things that I have for you tonight are mostly gonna be about toys because we're talking about masturbation for Masturbation May. Okay? So getting in through the anus, yes, there are lots of things that you want to keep in mind with this sort of play, again as I mentioned before. Anal play is not for everybody, foot rubs aren't for everybody. Just be gentle with yourself. If it's not the right thing for you, that's okay, that's okay. But if you are curios and interested, the best thing for anal play is to start exploring yourself. Because the more you learn your own body, and the more you start to experience and experiment, the more you'll learn what you like, you know. It's definitely a great way to get to know all sorts of things about your body, whether it's anal play or nipple play, or bondage, or I don't know, lots of things. So self-exploration, I am a total fan. One great way to get started with that is in the shower. You know, soap up your booty area, as you're cleaning it soap up your fingers, make sure your fingernails are trimmed because let's be real, that skin is super fine and thin in the anal area, and if you got sharp fingernails you might be regretting that finger play later. So make sure that you got a nail file and just file 'em right on down. But going up and in, it can be really great. So a little soap in there can help, maybe even some silicone lube, which is great for shower play because it doesn't wash off right away with the water. And just sort of stimulating around the area, around the little pucker that you have there. If we're talking about a pucker that's kind of like this. You're gonna be massaging around with your finger. Just sort of tapping and gently rubbing against it. Not real rough, just real comfortable and light. And then you can start to, what we call 'ringing the doorbell'. So it's kind of tapping and pressing in with the pad of your finger. You're not pointing like boom, boom, boom. You're ringing the doorbell, just like you'd ring a doorbell up top. Getting in there though is kind of pulling the side wall back a bit. That can help to open up that muscle. Do what's comfortable, do it at a pace that is comfortable. And then as you get in, you can kind of start to play. I recommend for your first time either start with the outside, and then don't go any further. See how that feels. If it's feeling good and you're enjoying the sensation, try working into the first knuckle and then the second knuckle. But be patient with yourself, don't expect it to feel amazing right away. And also don't expect it to automatically open up as quickly as you want it to. Sometimes our bodies don't work that way. And the anal sphincter there's actually two levels of muscle. The outside one you can control with your muscles like, you can sit here and clinch your butt right now, I'm doing it, yes, you're welcome. But you can control the anal sphincter muscles on the outside, that layer muscle. The inside layer of anal sphincter muscle, you can't easily control with your major muscle groups. It's actually part of the autonomic nervous system, which are the same muscles that control your breathing, so you don't really think about it. They control like as you're swallowing, the muscles that kind of clinch things down and move the food down your esophagus. So just getting an idea for that, you're able to open that level of muscles by relaxing. When we relax, that's where it helps to open up. So deep breaths as you're doing this kind of play and exploring. By the way, everybody can do this kind of play. This is not just for prostate owners. So if you have a butt, which we all do, hopefully, then you can definitely explore this way. And in the shower is the best way to do it, or a bathtub maybe when you're relaxed, and you're just enjoying yourself and taking your time, at your own pace. There's no partner pressuring you to go faster. And it's a good time to experiment with like a little butt plug if you have one. A little butt plug and just see how that feels. You just want to make sure it has a flared base. Don't worry about messiness, you're the only person involved here. You don't need to necessarily need to clean out your butt before you do this play. But you could if you feel more comfortable with it. If you're doing that sort of thing, I recommend just like a little bulb flush, is all this is. This is Cloud Nine Fresh collection. Its just an enema douche. You don't need any of the chemicals and stuff, just pure warm water is fine, and a little bulb. It has a nice skinny tip that makes it easy to get in there, and get things clean. You can do this while sitting over the toilet, and just flush it in, and let it all out then. Okay, I have some questions here. And let me, before I go further, let me just check in and see what is going on here. Alright, Mecky registered last week, haven't received the confirmation, no. Don't worry about it, that's fine. I haven't automated all my stuff yet, so that's why you haven't gotten a confirmation email, 'cause I just haven't manually gone in and sent it. But thank you for registering, love that. Castaway's heard the walnut comparison before, awesome. Yes, the walnut is about the size of a prostate. Now it can get larger and swell. It can also a little bit smaller, especially after it's just been milked and drained of all of its fluids. We'll get to that in just a bit. Tyrond doing it, awesome. So those of you just joining, you can register for a giveaway. I'm giving away a tube of Good Clean Love, Almost Naked water-based, or 95% organic lubricant tonight. And you can sign up for that at sharinpeter.com, and that is where we will do the giveaway, so thank you so much. Thank you Ayanna for being here and moderating, love it. Castaway says bulbous, a classic old school word. So right Castaway, thanks for coming back again, good to see you. And from this point forward, we've heard of those three as the triumberant. I think Castaway's talking about the massaging all the areas. So whether it's your shoulders, and neck, and head, or the penis and balls and perineum and maybe anus, but yeah, totally. Thanks there Castaway. Those of you on Instagram, come over to www.o.school and join us there. We're talking about massaging the prostate. So let's get into some toys because I know that's why you guys like to come and see me, right? I know, it's all about the toys. I am the vibrator whisperer after all. So let's chat about that because I've got some awesome toys to show you for prostate play. Alright, so the first one I wanna cover is one of the more infamous, well-known toys, the prostate play. This is the Aneros, the Aneros MGX actually. So, the Aneros was actually originally a medical device invented by a doctor. Because back in the day before we had good antibiotics, well probably after we had good antibiotics. But it used to be a very common medical practice for you to go in, if you owned a prostate, and the doctor would insert their fingers and massage the prostate to milk it. And that is essentially what this device was created to do, so that people could do it at home without having to go in and have this awkward interaction with a doctor. So this was created. It's a hard plastic, you can see it has like some ridges and stuff on it. Kind of hard to see in the lighting here. Let me see if I can get a little more light. May be a little better. So it has some ridges on it and it's a hard plastic. The base here is flexible. It actually will not break. It's not like your typical ABS plastic that could snap. It's a flexible medical grade plastic, which is part of why it's so expensive. But this is their unique design. If you've seen this design, it was originally created by Aneros. And Aneros started as a medical device company, and then the pleasure community tried these and was like, holy shit you guys, this is good. We like this, we want more of this. And so they've evolved into a pleasure-oriented company and they make these devices. And they come in different shapes, slight different shapes, like different ridges here, light bulbs, slightly larger. They're making one that vibrates soon. It's gonna be, I think either remote-controlled or app-controlled, that's really cool. And these devices are classic prostate toys. So, the thing with the prostate to remember is you are going up, and in, and ringing towards, like you're ringing the doorbell towards the bellybutton. So up and towards the bellybutton. This is the prostate here, that walnut-sized gland. So this is gonna curve towards the bellybutton. Now this device is actually not made for like in and out, fucking, it's not. This one is inserted and it's left there and then you proceed through normal orgasm with stimulating the penis or whatever other play that you might be doing. And then when the muscles, the pelvic floor muscles contract, they're going to lift it up, sorry that looks like it's going down. It's more of a lift up, and they contract with orgasm and it's gonna rock this forward and knock against the prostate. So again, if you're looking, the penis is out here and then this is the prostate gland, it's gonna rock and sort of massage up and down all over as the pelvic floor muscles lift up and down when they contract and expand with orgasm. Because orgasm is really just an involuntary contraction of pelvic floor muscles, essentially. And like muscles that enervate the genitals. But, so it doesn't have to go in and out in a fucking motion. It can just go in and stay and then when you have an orgasm, it's gonna tap against the prostate real lightly, real gently, it's not a huge movement. And as it taps, it's gonna like kind of move back and forward all over and it's going to massage the fluid buildup in the prostate and massage it to move out towards... with the semen and ejaculate. So, Ayanna has a great question here: are the bulbs held in the hooks? So no, actually. This is meant to stimulate the perineum. Remember how I talked about the perineum area? It's right behind the balls. So if you're going up and... Now this is a little bigger than my diagram here. But this is gonna rock against the perineum. This back part just kind of sits between the cheeks, it's more like a handle so to make it easier to get out. And this T-shape is a great shape. If you're looking at anal toys, I highly recommend a T-shape because it's definitely not gonna go inside where it shouldn't. It's gonna keep your toy anchored without being sucked up in the booty, 'cause it's a vacuum. Okay, so hopefully that answered your question. If you have more questions about the Aneros, please ask me. But this device is a great little tool. It is very smooth up top. The ridges here are actually meant to stimulate the anal sphincter. So the rectum, it's meant for just a little more gradual, gentle stimulation in that area. And then the other thing that's kind of cool about it that I learned when we had a visit from the Aneros sales rep. Can anyone guess why it might be white? Why would you want a medical device to be white? What would white show you? So if anybody can guess this, I would love that. But I'm curios to see what anybody else says. I'm gonna give you guys a minute to catch up and chat and see if you can answer that. But yeah, there's a reason why it is designed in white. Now these toys do come in black. They come in... There is a version that Aneros offers that's actually a stainless steel, and I had one from Njoy, I'm so excited to show you that stainless steel too. But this is the kind of original prostate toy, if you will, in terms of this shape and style. You'll see some duplicated. You can purchase similar ones at lower prices, but I do recommend the Aneros. It's really well made, it's really well designed and thought out. There's also an amazing prostate play community on Aneros's website. So I don't have it right now, but if anybody... Castaway you're actually really good at looking up links. So if you wanna go see if you can find the Aneros Wikipedia. I don't think it's on Wikipedia, it's like a wiki for Aneros. But they have an amazing message board and forum of people with prostates that have talked all about their experiences with the Aneros device and the various versions of it. Now at more advanced levels of Aneros have more bulbous bits here. The more bulbous or skinnier it is, it's not actually better, it's a bit more pokey. It's kind of like the difference between giving a massage with two fingers, it's a nice flat pad, versus giving a massage with one finger that feels kind of pokey, ouchey. So the wide, smooth tip here is your beginner level. And then you have other levels, let me show you. So Aneros is the brand, A-n-e-r-o-s. And they've got other levels you can graduate up to. So if you can see the line here. The MGX is the one that we're looking at, that's the very first one. And then the Helix has more bulbs to it. See how they're more like sharp bulbs compared to the smoothness here. And then the, I think it's the Eupho, yeah the Eupho is a little skinnier at the top. You would think that that would make it more desirable, in terms of like skinny, easier to penetrate. But it's not necessarily a better thing, it's more advanced. So it's more like having a, this is more like your Swedish massage and this is your deep tissue. Where there is slightly more poking, pushing in. Castaway, thank you so much. Malegspot.com yes, that's gonna be your wiki with all the Aneros info. And then they've got a bigger, more bulbous version one for those that want to be filled a little bit bigger. This is a unisex style toy that's just sort of a bulb to get you in and playing with booty play. They have some that are like shiny black plastic, so you can see some of those versions. But they also have some covered in silicone, and some have a little vibrator you can put in with them too. Anyway, yeah, Aneros, they're lots of fun. I highly recommend that company. And there's a ton you can learn there. I'm gonna read a little excerpt from the 'Anal Sex Basics' book by Carlyle Jansen. This is an awesome excerpt that talks about prostate play from John Prusik, who's a broadcaster and sex expert. And I just thought it was really cool, so I wanted to take that here. Yes, Ms. Rose, high five to you, you got it right! It is in white so you can see any problems like blood. Yes, yes, yes! If you are seeing blood on this device, you know that you probably need to go either use more lube or check things out with your doctor. So that is a great way to know if something's going on. So good job, and yay Castaway, you got there to guessing it too! So love it, love it. With the classic butt plug shape, I always think of a Christmas tree, it gets very narrow at the stem and winds at the base, awesome. Yes, that's very true. You just want to make sure you have a nice wide base, so a nice flat T-shape can be really good for a base. And then, those changes are nicely aligned in order from beginner to butt slut. Absolutely Castaway, thank you. Okay, I'm gonna read you this quick little excerpt from 'Anal Sex Basics'. Okay. Sorry. I got lost here. Okay, according to prevailing, "Prostate simulation is the little secret "that's gaining traction as delicious, "exotic new item on our sex menus. "It might not suit everyone's palate, "but those who do like prostate pleasure, "are eager to order it up again and again and again. "According to prevailing stereotypes, if you have a penis, "you want all sexual stimulation "to be focused on it, period. "Now don't get me wrong, "penis stimulation is fantastic "and it's easy to understand how "the phallus fallacy took root. "But it isn't the only erogenous zone. "The prostate can change sex entirely. "When the penis is touched, licked or engulfed, "the sensation is very localized. "It's confined to that stretch of skin. "Sure, the pleasure irradiates "from there throughout the body, "but the focal point of fun is primarily the head, "and secondarily the shaft. "It's very direct, very easy to manipulate, "and it's fairly predictable. "Let's not go so far as to say "all penises like the same thing. "But some common-place moves will "almost always excite a penis. "Conversely, prostate stimulation is "more like circular journey, "arriving at your destination doesn't complete the trip. "Arriving just means the beginning of the next act. "Remember how I described penis stimulation as localized? "Well prostate touch is both "hyper-localized and all encompassing. "The first time someone touched my prostate, "I saw stars and lightning bolts. "The sensation can be so intense, "that it radiates throughout the body, "weakening limbs, and creating tremendous tactile response. "And that's just touch. "Can you imagine a prostate-induced orgasm? "To be fair, I've only ever had two prostate-only orgasms. "They can happen, but they take work. "I rarely have the patience to wait that long, "so I involve my penis in the fun before I get off. "But if you can wait, the orgasm is unlike any other. "For me, it wasn't just a wonderful physical experience, "it was also a tremendous exploration of my sexuality. "To see ejaculate emerge from your cock "without having touched it, is a remarkable visual "after years of direct physical contact. "All of this is provided "you can keep your eyes open during the hard, "deep orgasm you are experiencing. "There are distinct similarities and "differences between penis and prostate orgasms. "Penis orgasms feel lighter, "more like you're admitting something into the world. "On the other hand, prostate orgasms feel more like "you're gasping and grasping for more inside you. "It is heavy and dense, and full of pleasure. "Now combine the two and you might never want "to get out of bed ever again." So that's from John Prusik, broadcaster and sex expert. And it is featured in the 'Anal Sex Basics' book from Carlyle Jansen. This is an awesome book by the way. It's got wonderful segments and little commentary all throughout. I love it. So there's lots of wonderful things you can do with prostate play. But there are some general guidelines. You want to warm up. Just like any anal play, it takes a little bit to build up to and get your body relaxed enough to accept that sensation. So, warming up can, if you jump right into it, it can be too intense too quickly. And you might find a little bit of pain. I find when I play with butt stuff, that the first time I tried to get in, there's typically some pain. And then if I just can breathe and wait it out just a little bit, that pain is gonna diminish within the next minute or two. And then you try again, and it gets a little easier, still may be slight pain. And then third, there's no pain. So it's kind of normal to feel a little bit of pain, but it also might mean you need more lube, or you need to relax a little more, or you need to just go slower. So all of those things are fine with anal play. So don't be afraid of having a wee bit of pain because if you can get past that, you'll unlock way more pleasure. Speaking of pain, there is a product I recommend. Now normally I'm not all about de-sensitizers for anal play because de-sensitizing can cause more issues. If you're numbing that area and then you can't feel the pain that's happening, you might be tearing skin lightly or having other issues that could be more serious. So you don't want to numb the booty when you're playing. But a little bit of natural ingredients that help with muscle relaxing can be great. So this one is Intimate Earth, it's kind of hard to read that label. There we go, see if I can get it here. Intimate Earth, it's called Ease. And it's an anal silicone guide that's relaxing. It is paraben-free, it's vegan, it does not have any benzocaine or lidocaine or anything like that. It does have silicone lube, which is great for anal play, it's gonna last you longer. And it has all-natural bisabolol extract, I'm probably saying that wrong. It gives you an idea of, if you want to google that you can. But it helps with muscle relaxing, it helps give more blood flow to the area, which can also help decrease the pain. The more warmed up it is, the better it will do. Just like with massages, you don't want to go right into deep tissue and lots of pressure with massage. You want to warm the area up, warm the muscles up gently, and then it makes it more easy to ply them and manipulate them how you want. So keep that in mind. Thank you, thank you, thank you whoever gave me a tip, that's awesome. I love seeing the clitosaurus pop up in there. And yeah, looks like there's some great chat going on. I love seeing you guys chiming in on o.school, that's awesome. Cool, okay. So let's jump to some more toys, right? That's what you're really here for. I'm gonna cover a couple non-vibrating toys, and then we'll get to some vibrating ones. I love the non-vibrating ones for prostate play, especially for masturbating a prostate. And you're gonna see these are especially awesome because they're stainless steel. And they've got some great weight to them. But non-vibrating toys allow you to explore and get the sensation and figure out what you like a lot more than the vibrating toys. So you learn like what you like and where. And then when you add vibration, it like ups the ante, it takes you to the next level. Not to say you can't start with vibration, you totally can. But you might find that you like the sensation without any vibration at all. Let's start with two toys. Now I typically love to show the Njoy one, which is just a plain crescent moon curve. But I'm gonna show two different Njoy toys tonight. And Njoy by the way is n-j-o-y, just like that. So they make stainless steel toys, and they are awesome. Awesome. So this is their prostate p-fun plug, p-f-u-n. You can see it's got kind of a similar shape to the other, let me set this one down, it's got a similar shape to the Aneros toy, right? You've got a nice T-shape base here that's gonna keep it from going in where it shouldn't. You've got a big bulbous head, yes, this is pretty big. This is maybe not for the beginner prostate play person, but for someone more advanced however, that bulbous feel is gonna like really weigh nicely in the anal area. You've got a first bulb here that kind of keeps it from sliding all the way out. But then you've got a nice sharp ridge here too that can catch. And just that can feel awesome, and this can stick out further and act as your little anchoring handle to kind of play and tug on and give that weight against the anal sphincter. The middle of this is wonderful. It's heavy, so it feels really good. And it has, the metal means it can work really nicely with hot and cold play. You can dip it in a mug of warm water or cold water. And you can also just sort of play with the sensation of being really heavy in the feel back there. So I love, love, love, metal toys. You can see it's got a little bit of a taper. I don't know if you can see that ridge there. But it's pretty cool. So I highly recommend this toy. This feels great for any gender by the way. It's not just for prostates. It can feel wonderful in any butt, and we all got butts. The other toy that I have, this one is the fun one, the Njoy fun one. So this one was the p-fun plug I believe, but the fun one... So it has that awesome curve that's great for g-spot play, but guess what? Any g-spot play toy can be great for prostate play too. It has a similar concept of the curve. You're going up and in and then you're massaging towards the bellybutton. Again, we're looking at up and in, and you're massaging toward the front. So this can be awesome. And given that it has like three little bulbs here on the other end, it makes an awesome handle. So it helps you keep your grip really easily. Or you use these bulbs like anal beads. Now the premise of anal beads is that it is causing your anal sphincter muscles to open and close around them as they're being pulled in and out. That open and close sensation causes the muscles of your pelvic floor to expand and contract slightly, just like they do with orgasms. So that's how, why the concept of anal beads, it's opening and closing around them. But again, you have a curve. That curve can knock on your prostate walnut really nicely, right? So definitely love metal. If you've never tried metal, it is absolutely worth the investment. If you're afraid to try metal and not sure you're gonna like it, try glass first. Glass has a very similar, heavier weight and cold chill sensation and smooth material as metal. In fact, there is a glass toy made by Icicles, that is very similar in shape to this. So it can feel really, really good too. It just, it depends on the body. Some people are gonna love these, and some are just it's not for them. I personally am a huge fan of metal and I would say the majority of sex educators I know are also huge fans of metal because they have learned all the ways you can play with them. So enjoy, check them out if you can. Alright, let's also... So that was my Njoy and my Aneros. Those are my two non-vibrating ones that I have tonight. I don't have a glass one because we were sold out when I went to go grab one from the store. But you can check out the Icicle's brand plug. It's very similar in shape to the Aneros as well as the Njoy's. So let's look at some other prostate shaped toys. And then I'll show you some non-prostate shaped toys that you might be able to get creative with. This is the Spark by Ignition. It's made by Blush Novelties, or the brand is Spark brand. But Blush is the company that makes it. Ducky Doolittle works for Blush, the one that created those diagrams that I use. So this one is vibrating, and you can see it's got that slight p-shape. Again, you're looking for that p-curve or slight knob at the top. That's gonna work well for prostate play. You want something that's gonna kind of hook on it and give that come-hither movement. If you're using fingers, you can totally use fingers for prostate play. Depending on your body, your flexibility, the length of your limbs, you might find that fingers can be a little difficult. It can be hard to reach in there and get the right angle. If you're coming in from the front side, and you're reaching like this, you're gonna get the right angle for that come-hither movement. If you're coming in from the back side, it's harder to get the come-hither, unless you're facing like that. And that can be kind of awkward. So toys can really be amazing for masturbating a prostate. And that's why I love to recommend anything with that p-shape and a flared base. Or, as I'm gonna show you, a long handle can substitute for a flared base, as long as you keep a grip on it. We are not losing things in our butts people. That's not happening here on my watch, okay? So we were talking about things with a handle. I'm looking at things that are actually made for g-spot play, but they can be improvised and used for p-spot play. This is the gee slim. It's a rechargeable vibrator from VeDO. And that little bulb on top can be wonderful for prostate play. Again, we're looking for something to hook around the walnut. So this long handle gives you plenty of space to keep a good grip on it, and you only need to go a little bit in. It doesn't have to be super long. But the handle gives you plenty of grip without losing it. There are also, Evolved is the company, that makes a little silicone flare, that you can add to the handle of toys. So if you look for a silicone flare, it's just like a little silicone pad with a hole in the center and it creates a little like T-shape to keep the toy from going in or slipping in unintentionally. Keep in mind, anything with that p-shape, is what we're looking for. Vibration can feel great you guys. It can be wonderful on our prostates, but you're going to be looking more of a deep rumble. That's what's gonna feel better on a prostate than a high-pitch buzzing. So look for that deeper, knocking rumble. Just like g-spot, it's a deeper muscle. The firmer the rumble, and I'm talking like it's a... If you put buzzing to your nose, it feels like it tickles and you need to sneeze. When you put rumble to your nose, you feel it through your cheeks. The nose is a great place to test stimulation of vibration because it has some similar nerve endings that are much more sensitive than the rest of our hands and skin, just like our genitals are sensitive. So great thing to test in store is pop it to your nose. Okay. Other things that are not necessarily, I said I wasn't gonna jump to non-prostate shapes, but while I'm at it. You can also look at rabbit vibrators that are slim. This one in particular is super skinny. So if you're a little bit afraid of going like really big, this has a great tapered tip. So it's gonna be a lot more gentle getting inside. And then the rabbit is gonna tickle the perineum. So it's gonna feel great as we're going inside to the prostate. We can slip right in, hit the prostate and tickle the perineum at the same time. Plus, your rabbit is gonna keep you from going too deep without a flared base. So the rabbit acts as a little flared base. So, yeah, prostate owners. If you've got a partner that has rabbit toys, especially little cute skinny ones like this, you might have something good. Be careful, please! Go for ones that are silicone. They typically have this opaque color material when they're silicone, or they're ABS plastic, hard plastic. If they're jelly, please don't put that in your butt without putting a condom on it, and then not tell your partner that you used it in your butt, and it's got butt germs on it and they're putting that in their vagina. That's a problem, okay? So jelly material's like that are slightly porous. They can hold on to bacteria, and silicone is not. Silicone will not hold bacteria. So if you are using a silicone toy, it's a lot easier to clean with a mild bleach solution, bleach diluted in water, and that can get all of the bacteria and germy-germs off it so it can be used in other orifices, know what I'm sayin'. If you have any other questions about that, I'm happy to answer for you. If we're talking toy cleaner, I love the Intimate Earth. That's the same brand as the Ease, but the Intimate Earth Green, it's a tea tree oil toy cleaner. That tea tree oil is a natural anti-microbial, anti-bacterial agent. And it can clean toys really well. This one foams up so it gets all nooks and crannies. Okay, that last one by the way is the Maia, m-a-i-a. Hailey O is the toy. So get creative with your toys. It doesn't always have to be made for prostate play, just as long as you're safe about them and don't let them slip into the booty unintentionally. Okay. Some other prostate shaped toys. The Rabbit Company makes a really awesome rabbit toy. If you've always wanted a rabbit for the butt, this is a good one. This is called the Beaded Backdoor Rabbit from the Rabbit Company. This one's kind of pricey, like in the $170-$180 range, but it's worth the money. The Rabbit Company took like all the best features of other rabbit toys because it seems like, you get this one and it's great for that but it has this issue, or you get that one that's good for that but it has that issue. They took all the best features and combined them into one toy. So this one's rechargeable. It's got really easy to use buttons. There's actually like on-off. You've got your patterns and your up and downs that are all separate. And then you've got a rabbit function that switches between the vibration here and up here I believe. But this one actually has a really cool rimming effect. So you see that moving there? It's got like little beads and balls that spin around right where the anus is, right where the rectum, anal, sphincter is. So that's gonna give great stimulation right there. And it also twists the top just a bit, so it's rocking against the prostate. You've also got down here, a nice little buzz going on for the perineum. So hell yeah, rabbits are for prostate owners, hell yeah. Don't be afraid to check out rabbits for prostate play. A lot of people don't think about those, but they can be a wonderful tool. Okay, cool. Any questions about those, feel free to type them in the chat. I am here for you, I would love to answer those for you. I do have a lot more toys and we may go a little bit past nine, but hang in there with me 'cause we've got good stuff here. The Zero Tolerance Company. This is actually the same company that makes toys for Adam & Eve, like the Adam & Eve branded toys, as well as the Evolved brand. But Zero Tolerance makes a lot of men's toys too, or like penis owner toys. This is the Intro to Prostate Kit. Now what's cool about this is it comes with Dr. Ava's guide to prostate pleasure, so you get education along with the toys, yay. So this one has a couple of different options. You have your general like p-spot toy. I don't love that it's on a flared base, so please be careful with that one. Keep a handle or a finger or hook in there. You've got your more typical like plug-style toys, beads and other things. Then you've also got like a big bulbous style with a cock ring. That is for cock and balls, to help anchor it. And you can kind of insert it and then wrap it around the cock and balls to give them some nice, firm support and to help it kind of tug and play as you're playing along. So this is a nice little kit and it's pretty affordable, right around forty bucks. Four toys for forty bucks, oh by the way, that one vibrates, that little red dot down there is a vibrator. So not bad for what you get in terms of lots of fun. And they're all silicone and black. Yay. Okay. I have some questions here. Let me see if I can pop back through the chat and catch up. So thank you all for asking questions. Those that are on Instagram, we are over at www.o.school. Come join us there where you can chat along and see lots of other awesome sex education stuff. ♪ Doo doo doo ♪ I enjoy anal play, Castaway says I've enjoyed anal play with toys, never had a prostate only climax. Thanks to that description, gives me something to shoot for. I love that, shoot for, heh heh, I get it. Non-vibrating toys reward being a bit more surgical with learning and finding your special spot. Absolutely. Love that concept, taking it to surgical. And never done metal plugs before. You should totally try. And metals, honestly metals are amazing for temperature play but be careful as well to test before insertion, yeah. You definitely want to look for stainless steel. You don't want to really play with anything that is like chrome-plated or like metal covered. You can play with them but treat them more as like short term disposable toys to see if you like it. They're often cheaper. So it's a great way to invest and see what you like and then upgrade to your better quality stainless steel. But the stainless steel is where you're gonna have the really good weight, and they're not going to scratch as easily or rust, or give you any issues with like the chroming plating flaking off or something. Not that that happens super often as long as you're taking care of your toys, but you wouldn't want to leave like a chrome-plated toy slightly wet or in a moist environment. That would be where you're gonna start seeing some issues from it. Okay, Tera asks, does everyone have fluid in their prostate? I've been on estrogen for years, wondering if milking will magically make fluid come out? That's a great question Tera, and I am not sure I'm the best person to answer that. What I can say is that if you are someone that has a penis and semen and ejaculates, or did have a penis and semen and have ejaculate in that sort of assigned male at birth kind of body parts ejaculation, then there is fluid in the prostate. The prostate actually makes up the bulk of the semen fluid. The, I'm not saying that right, prostatic fluid is what comes out and that's what makes up the bulk of the liquid. The semen, the actual swimmers in it, are the, that's gonna be a very minor part in terms of percentage, of the prostatic fluid. So mostly, it's prostate fluid. Yes, every prostate should have fluid. Does everyone need to be milked? My understanding is no, it's not necessary. Before we had good antibiotics, doctors would milk a prostate because it would help prevent prostatis or prostatitis, which is a infection of the prostate gland. So the prostate's just a gland. It does fill with fluid. I'm not sure how estrogen impacts it, so that would be something that's better suited to someone that has more experience with estrogen enhancement. I just personally don't have a ton of knowledge in that area but the milking of the prostate, it can be, it's thought to be to contribute towards healthier prostates. I'm not gonna sit here and tell you that it will prevent prostate cancer or like prevent any prostate issues, but from what I understand, there's not been any good research that's proven that which is why I'm saying it that way. But it is known to contribute towards a healthy prostate. And the other factor is the more you know about your own prostate, the more you're used to what it's normal status quo is for your body, the better you're gonna be able to notice any challenges or problems or issues. Just like doing a breast self-exam, you're gonna find any lumps much faster than a doctor would because you know your own body. So getting to know your prostate and what's normal for you will work really well when it comes to finding any issues. So I highly recommend the prostate miking and massage for that. Now from a miking standpoint, alright, so, I'm going to sum from this book, and I'm gonna tell you a little bit. Milking is... ♪ Doo doo doo doo doo ♪ I'm gonna read a little bit more for you here because they are really more expert in this than I am. "How To Milk The Prostate". "The prostate feels like a ripe tomato." By the way, this is from "Anal Sex Basics" with Carlyle Jansen, if you haven't been here for that earlier. "The prostate feels like a ripe tomato with "a valley down its middle." Aha, walnut, valley down its middle. "The valley's how fluid drains from it. "According to "The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure" "by Charlie Glickman, Ph.D., and Aislinn Emirzian", I'm gonna ruin that name. "The best way to drain the prostate of "most of its fluid is to think of it as a clock. "Start at 9 o'clock and apply gentle pressure "as you move your finger towards the middle of "the clock where the hands are anchored. "Then move your finger to 3 o'clock and "back to the middle again, then to 2 o'clock. "Apply pressure toward 10 o'clock but stop in the middle. "Start at 10 o'clock, move your finger toward 2 o'clock." So it's like ticking it back and forth over, and then you go on the bottom side and massage the bottom. So if we're going up and in, we're going up top and we're going like this. And then you're going like this across the bottom. Makes sense? You can also do a windshield wiper effect, that can work. But you are milking that prostate as if it was that ripe tomato. So that's what they say there in terms of doing that. So there's windshield wiper, there's also circles, like draw little circles around the edges, as if you're drawing a circle around each number on the clock. And that can help to migrate the fluids around. And then when you orgasm, when you ejaculate, that's gonna help push out any fluid that's been building up there in the prostate. And that's really what you're doing, milking. Is you're flushing out that fluid. Now some people with prostate play, they will not get an erection or it may like kind of kill the erection. Don't worry. It doesn't mean anything's wrong. It's just a totally different nerve sensation. You might also find that it's too much stimulation to do both penis play and prostate play at the same time. It might just be like information overload for your brain. That's okay, that's normal. So don't worry about that if that's your sensation or your experience. If you lose an erection during prostate play, it doesn't mean you're doing it wrong. It doesn't mean your body's not enjoying it. We think of erections as indicative or as telling us that, yes, this is sexually arousing. But the reality is, we get erections a lot of times when, not we, but penis owners get erections a lot of times when they don't necessarily want them. Think about the teenagers, good Lord. Anything can be arousing. It can be the tight pants you're wearing, or you know, the way a piece of fruit looks. So don't worry about erections being an indicator of stimulation. Go with what feels good. Listen to your body, and listen to how things feel. And use that as your guide, more so than what you should feel or what should happen as a result. Okay, cool. So let's look at a couple more things. Oh, I'm sorry, there were a few more here that I missed. Ducky Doolittle, wonderful presentation you gave a few years back in Philly, love it. By the way Castaway, I am in Harrisburg, Pennsylvania. So I am not far from Philly if you are in that general region. Come out and visit an Excitement store. We'd love to have you. And, question bit irrelevant to the stream, Mecky. Can 3D printing help us in making our own sex toys at home? Great question Mecky! I'd love to answer that for you. So, can 3D printing help us make our own sex toys at home? Here's the thing with 3D printing. It depends on the material you're making it out of. If you're making it out of a 3D printing plastic, yes you can make, like ABS plastic. But 3D printing typically results in lots of ridges and rough edges and slightly porous surfaces because of the way that it extrudes the material. There are ways to smooth out 3D printed objects, but in general, you're gonna have a lot of ridges and roughness to a 3D printed item. So that's gonna make it kind of hard to clean properly, and to prevent it from harboring bacteria on an ongoing basis. If we're doing 3D printing and then coating it with something, that might be a better solution. But I have a little 3D printed clit here. I'm gonna see if I can get it real close so you can see, there's lot of like, edges and ridges to it, that are just rough. Now I could potentially... Show up here, down here, there we go. I could potentially use a solvent or something that smooths that out, but I'm still not really confident in how well that's going to work. Your best bet with 3D printing might be to create something, smooth it out, make a mold from it, and then pour silicone toy into the, like pour silicone into the mold to make a silicone toy. In terms of silicone 3D printing, I just don't know much about the technology. I also don't know if there's a whole lot of at-home printers that could work with that. So I hope that answered your question. If not, please let me know. Okay. Rabbits are for prostate owners should be the new Virginia is for lovers. Totally Castaway, I love that. Reindeer at Santa's party, who else wants to stay past nine to see all of Sharin Peters' toys? Yeah! Thank you Ayanna, I love your enthusiasm. Programming note, Mona Jones taking tonight off. Not doing her show at the top of the hour. We'll miss her. But yay, bonus time for me. A bit late, I apologize if this has already been talked about. I have always enjoyed prostate manipulation, but only find it mildly pleasant. Does every prostate offer amazing orgasms or some just not wired for it? What can I do to improve? Hi Shawn, thank you for your question. I love that you asked that. So I will absolutely answer your question. So you're asking that, if you only find prostate stimulation mildly pleasant. There's a couple of things. If you're wanting to improve that sensation, and you want to experiment and try other things, I recommend maybe investing in some other toys. The first thing I'd invest in would be glass, and try like that cold sensation and that hard object, and see what that feels like. There's a glass toy that looks kind of like this shape, or this shape made by Icicle. It's pretty affordable, like in the less than thirty bucks range. And that can be a great place to start, just to play with something that's non-vibrating, to see what works for you. If you like it, upgrade to something like Aneros or the metal from Njoy. The brand is Njoy, n-j-o-y. They have lots of awesome toys, check it out. I love these things. So you can actually get Njoy toys, I believe at shevibe.com, which O-school has a 10% off coupon, if you type in O-school as your promo code at checkout. But that can be a great way to explore and see what you like. I also recommend investing in a really good, rumbly vibrating toy, and I have one to show you. So this is the Edge. Now you may not know if you like rumbly vibrating, it can be a little expensive to invest in that. I also say just explore. Like try using your own finger and other things like that, that can help. Those of you, sorry, I just see my timer about to end. If you are watching us on Instagram, come over to www.o.school, and join us there because the Instagram stream ends in one minute. Only let's me go an hour. But I am gonna keep going with more prostate toy samples. Okay, this is an awesome choice of prostate toy and I'm gonna tell you why I love it. This thing can be controlled with your phone you guys, your phone, okay? It's may by Lovense, that's the name of the company. And it's called the Edge. So this one is cool because you can also bend it into the shape that you want. You can bend it down and it will hold its shape pretty well. You can also bend it back up. And so, it's kind of customizable in terms of the fit. It's really bulbous, but you've got a nice skinny neck here and a little bit of a flare right there, if you can see that. Sorry. I'm tilting. You can see the flare on the side. It looks better when it's in front of my face, you can see it. This one has really awesome rumbles. It's gonna give you rumbles here, and here. And this is a squishy silicone that's pretty great. See if I can get it on here. Oh, don't tell me you're dead. It might be dead. But what's cool about this is you can use your phone to control it. So if you find prostate play awkward, to be reaching back in and like manipulating this toy that's behind you, you put it in and then you use your cellphone to control the fun, or you can pass control off to somebody else, with your phone. So if you ever want to play with a partner, with a little masturbation session, that you want your partner to control your toy, ta-da! This is fucking awesome! This is also wearable. You could wear this out and about and no one would know it. No one would know. So it's pretty awesome. But it's got a nice, deep rumble, that really kind of shakes your entire booty. And it's pretty quiet too. So you could easily get away with it in, not the quietest library, but maybe in a good bar or something with a good ambient noise. But the squishiness is kind of great. It's really soft and lovely and this can also be worn during sexual play. So this presses up against the perineum. This goes in the booty, and you still got balls hanging out, and penis and all sorts of other things for other forms of sexual play. So yeah, that is the Edge by Lovense, so there you go. The other toy that is app-controlled is the ditto by We Vibe. Both of these toys, by the way, can be worn by anybody with a butt. These aren't just for penis owners or bulba owners. They can be for anybody with a butt. So these are, it's a very similar shape. It's got a little like flared base. You get a remote with it. This is the Ditto by We Vibe. You get a remote with it but it also connects to your phone for app control. There's lots of fun things there. Okay, cool. But Shawn, if you are experiencing that you don't love prostate play and it's just not for you, think about it like a foot massage. Some people love foot massages and some people could care less, right? So don't be discouraged if it's just not your thing. I'd also encourage you trying like put a butt plug in and then just proceed with normal sex. This one's by Aneros, I was showing it earlier, and it goes inside and you don't have to do anything with it. You just insert it. This presses against the perineum. When you have a orgasm, your pelvic floor muscles are gonna lift it up, whoops, lift it up and make it rock gently against your prostate. And it's gonna knock that prostate fluid and just help drain everything out. And that in itself, that draining feeling, can feel really amazing, so I hear. Sorry I don't have a prostate, I wish I did and I could tell you that. But I can tell you that a g-spot drain feeling feels really amazing to me, so a lot of people say it's very comparable. Okay, hopefully that answered your question. Please ask more questions if you have them. I need to catch up on chat here, so let's see. ♪ Doo doo doo doo doo doo doo ♪ Information overload, I used that phrase when describing my first plugging experience. Absolutely Castaway, I can totally see how that would be information overload too. Yes, Harrisburg, I am in Harrisburg, so I'm not far at all. And I need to do more research on sex toy 3D printing. Definitely, I totally researched it once because I was like, um I've got this market corner, how am I gonna do this? And I learned that it wasn't quite as helpful or useful as I wanted it to be. But you know, whatever. Okay. And that's what I have in you right hand, the plastic one. Oh you were talking about the Aneros? You have the Aneros one. So the Aneros one is great, but it doesn't vibrate. It doesn't give you that rumbly, deep vibration. It's also not very heavy like the metal ones. So you don't get like this really weighty, lovely feeling against that muscle area, so you can give that a try. Ms. Rose asks what brand is the white prostate toy? It's Aneros, and thank you Ayanna. Thank you for popping that link in, I really appreciate it. Can you use the basic Aneros as a stimulating toy too? Tera, I'm not quite sure what you're asking about that as using it for a stimulating toy. This doesn't vibrate, it's just hard plastic. But in terms of stimulation like, you could use it on your own, yeah, but it's designed to be used, like, you could gently rock it back and forth with your hands or you let your pelvic floor rock it back and forth gently as you orgasm through penile stimulation. Or whatever other form you use. Hopefully that answers your question, but if you have more, please bring 'em on. I love to help you guys out. What else do I have here? I have a couple other lubricants, maybe... Oh I have one more toy to show you. The Wicked Jelly Lube, this is a great water-based lube. It's nice and thick. I prefer the Almost Naked Good Clean Love just because it is a little bit better ingredients, but they're very similar. They both use aloe as like one of their main sources. But both of them are gonna be a little thicker jelly style, which is great for toys. Jelly just stays on a little better. It's great for anal play too because jelly gives you a little bit of a cushion, which helps protect that super thin anal wall, super thin skin. I also love the Uber Lube. The Uber Lube is silicone lubricant, and it is like super slippery and it stays on really well. It lasts really well. There's another brand of silicone lube that I didn't bring over but it's called migliori, let me see if I can type it in, in here. But the migliori is even better than Uber Lube. It's six times thicker. So if you've ever tried Uber Lube, and often any adult store that you can go to will have samples of it, any decent adult store, let's put it that way, not the really crappy ones. But any adult, any decent one has tons of samples of Uber Lube. They give them out like crazy. So you can get a free sample of Uber Lube in those cases, and give it a try. If you like it, try migliori because it's more expensive but it's a lot thicker. And it has like five different vitamins along with it too. So it's a really nice silicone lube I've been very pleased with. Castaway says 'I purchased a Lovense Hush, but I've been a bit out of practice so it doesn't fit yet, so just getting back into the swing of things'. Yeah, totally, that Hush is big. I know what you're talking about. The Lovense Hush that Castaway's mentioning is the same brand as this Edge. But the bulbous part of it is more like a Christmas tree like Castaway was saying. It's a lot bigger bulb and it's a butt plug. But it does have very similar base to this that will push up against the perineum. So that can be an awesome prostate toy too, anal toy. Work your way up Castaway. You definitely have motivation, so, that's pretty great. My last toy, oh since we were talking about lube. I do also love the lube shooters, Lube Tube. These are cheap little things, they're less than ten bucks, and they can help put lube up your booty to make things easier. So if you're having issues with getting lube all the way in where you want it, this is a great way to get that lube up there. So yeah, lastly, let's go to this one. So this one's great for bigger bodies. I'm a bigger body girl, so I like having options that work well for ergonomics and extending my reach. This one is the CalExotics Silicone Bendie Power Probe Bulb. So first thing to know, it does not have a flared base, but it's super long. You're probably gonna be okay using an anal toy that is super long, as long as you keep your hand on the base. Now yes, this base is a little bigger, so that could work as a flare. I just don't love anything that doesn't have a good T-shape, you know. But what's cool about this, this is nice and rumbly. So hey Shawn, I was talking about trying out rumbly toys, if you are not ready to invest in something expensive. This one is $35.99, $34.99 is what we sell it for. And it gives a really good rumble. It's just a basic little, battery-operated toy here. I think it takes two triple-A's, and you've got just a simple little control on the bottom button here. It has ten different functions. So it's gonna have three power levels, and then seven different patterns. But check this out y'all. Hey-o. That makes ergonomics so much better. The beaded bit is gonna work like anal beads, in that it's gonna give you a little open and close motion of the sphincter as you're moving it in and out. That's gonna simulate the muscle contractions of orgasm, that's what anal beads do. But this has got some great bend to it. You can bend it and make it stay in place, so that way you can easily reach back in the booty and get what you want. And it's got pretty good vibration all the way up through the top. So I've been really pleased with this toy for the price point and for what it is. It's all covered in nice, smooth, black silicone, and yeah. It's a little bit squishy, which is nice. So it's gonna flex a little bit as you move in and out. But this is a great toy for anybody with a butt. It's not just for prostate owners, but we're talking about massaging prostates tonight, so that's what you have from me. So yeah, it's the CalExotics Bendie Power Probe, which you can check out. Now, I do offer a discount on and it's shopIloveexcitement.com. You can use oschool, oschool15 for 15% off I believe. And you can also shop on shevibe.com, which is O-school's partner. Either one's cool, we're great with it. We just love that you're getting access to toys. You can join me any Monday night. I'm starting to do this regularly, hopefully on a regular basis. Every Monday night at 8:00 p.m. Eastern, or I guess it's what, 5:00 p.m. Pacific? I'm not really great with time zones, so you can figure that one out yourself. But definitely 8:00 p.m. Eastern. I am gonna be back every week, showing you more toys, talking about more awesome stuff. So this has been Secrets of the Vibrator Whisperer. If you have not yet, you can find me at sharinpeter.com. You can book me for coaching, I do one-on-one coaching, and it starts really affordably. I'll even do a first fifteen minutes free to get you started. But I do classes, events, I am a public speaker, as well as a writer, and I can also just consult with you and try and help you find the right toy for you. I'm kind of an expert on sex toys. So I'm happy to help out and to give you a great recommendation. But yeah, find me at sharinpeter.com. If you want to win some lube tonight, I have this Good Clean Love, Almost Naked, 95% organic, personal lube. Go to sharinpeter.com and sign up on my little form there, and that will enter you to win. Now I'm gonna draw from the people that are signing up tonight. There's usually not that many people, so go sign up. It gives you pretty good odds, okay? You don't have to subscribe to my newsletter. I would love if you do. If you don't get a subscription confirmation by the way, don't worry because I am totally doing that as I have time. I don't have it all automated yet. I'm getting there. Oh Ayanna, you had a question about what toy is this, just real quick. That was the CalExotics Silicone Bendie Power Probe, Silicone Bendie Power Probe from CalExotics, this black one. So that's a really great option for those of you that like booty play. Any other questions? I'm gonna hang out for just a little bit and see if anybody else has questions for me. I will be happy to take out any of these other toys, or come back to them if you saw something you liked that you want to know more about. Happy to answer other questions about prostate play, or any kind of toys. Forum's open for Q&A, so feel free to shout it out there. Thank you so much to everybody that's come tonight. If you learned something and you liked it, feel free to leave a tip. Clap tipping, ugh... Try again, clicking the tip jar. We share that with O-school, half and half for O-school and pleasure friends like me. But I just appreciate you guys, I'm so glad you're here, and I can't wait to see you next Monday night for Secrets of the Vibrator Whisperer with Sharin Peter, again. I'm gonna hang out here and just kind of maybe read more from that anal sex book. And if you have further questions, please feel free to pop them in here. I hope you can set up a Facebook page, it'll help you promote your stream's total viewers. Totally Mecky, I'm working on that. I actually have a Sharin Peter page, so if you wanna go search Sharin Peter on Facebook, you can friend me, I'll friend you back. I do have, it's a personal page so that I can actually set up a group kind of like Mona does with her K with Mona group darling propaganda. So that is the plan. But thank you, yeah. You know, full-time jobs and stuff get in the way of all those lovely marketing things I wanna do. Okay. Let's see here. Let's talk about, here's some more techniques for prostate pleasure, how's this. "If you've tried the prostate milking techniques "that I covered earlier, "here are some more techniques for extra exploration. "The Doorbell: press on prostate with the pad "of your finger as if you were "ringing the doorbell again and again, dip dip dip." oh, thank you for the tip whoever did that, thank you so much. And Castaway totally, take the drive up. Yeah, I'm in Harrisburg, we have a store in York, Redding and Camp Hill. I'm often in the Camp Hill store, but I can totally, yeah, if you're gonna be up this way, shoot me an email, let me know and I'll try to meet up with you at the store and say hello. Okay, so, Excitement is the name of the store that I work for. "The Windshield Wiper: move your finger back and forth over the same area..." Like you're saying no, don't do that. Yes, do that, it feels good. "Shift from windshield wiping at the midway point, "three to 9 o'clock and back to the upper part, "eleven to 1 o'clock, or the lower part, eight to 4 o'clock. "If you enter two fingers, you can hold them side by side "as you move them or you can place "one finger each side of the prostate, "moving them so that they meet back in the middle, "like making a peace sign with your hand, "opening and closing the V." Hey, that's an awesome tip, I love that. "Circles: make tiny circles that focus on each number "of the clock or make large circles "around the perimeter of the prostate clock. "Vibrations: vibrate your finger while "it's inside or hold a vibrator against "your hand to conduct the vibrations. "Of course you can also insert "a vibrator with a flared base. "Come-hither: g-spots often like this technique too. "Make a come-hither motion with one or more fingers, while you move your fingers up and down the prostate, "or spread two fingers into a peace sign and "make the tips travel down the sides of the prostate." Like that. "From our survey, prostate play can change "the focus of my sensations from my penis to my ass. "If I'm only playing with my ass and not my penis, "I may only get partially hard. "But coming from penile stimulation plus ass play, "generally feels better. "The orgasm is bigger and more intense. "And while I haven't exactly measured it, "I also feel like I come more. "Multiple Orgasms." Hey. Let's see here, what else, I'm catching up here. Yes, thank you Ayanna, thank you for the tippers. I really appreciate you, and I really am just super happy for everybody that's here and supporting this little thing called O-school, we love it. It's really a joy for me to get to come here and teach every Monday. 'Luna-ma-ta-ta's' has a regular stream for Friday called Fat Babes, sex pleasure tips for fat babes and their lovers. Yes, I definitely love joining Luma, Luna. She does a great job. Yeah, I might start my own stream with tips for fat babes or maybe I'll join her one night, that would be really awesome right? We could do like a joint little zoom call with a fat babes collaboration for toys for fat babes. I love it. Luna's wonderful, she's become a friend thanks to O-school. This thing, this O-school platform has really been a wonderful way for me to connect with a lot of amazing other sex educators all over the world. So super grateful for it, and we're grateful for you for supporting it. Please go tell somebody about O-school. We need more people watching, more eyes. That just helps us build our numbers, and helps us get to a place where we can reach even more people and change the world through sex education. That's what it's all about. Okay, multiple orgasms, 'cause I know you wanna hear this. "People of all genders can experience "multiple orgasms from many types of play, "and prostate play is one way of getting there. "Orgasm and ejaculation are two separate events, "but they're often experienced as one in the same. "That's because for most people with prostates, "the two events happen with about one second of each other. "After experiencing this sensation, "hundreds or thousands of times, "it starts to feel like a single event. "Some men and trans-women, "learn how to separate their orgasms from ejaculation "in order to achieve multiple orgasms. "While ejaculation, that is the emission of fluid, "saps energy, causes erections to subside "and makes you sleepy, orgasms are "contractions of the pelvic floor muscles, "and they can happen over and over again. "Learning how to have non-ejaculatory orgasms "can extend pleasure. "To learn more about this tip technique, "see 'Mantak Chia - The Multi Orgasmic Man, "The Sexual Secrets That Every Man Should Know'." Great book, I have not read it all the way through, but I've heard amazing things, so yeah, 'The Multi Orgasmic Man'. "But you won't know why the prostate play is for you "until you try it. "So consider giving it a try and "deciding for yourself. "Whether it works for you or not, "a thirst for exploration is what keeps sex fun, "interesting and fulfilling. "Great communication with your partner doesn't hurt either, "and Chapter Six will show you how to get there. "I like anal sex because it's a whole area of sensation "that also allows for more intense orgasms. "I've also had a purely anal orgasm or two and "I really enjoyed those particularly since "they allow for multiple orgasms and are just a different, "more whole body feeling. "Undoubtedly, there's also a bit of the thrill "of the abjectness of it all. "As a male body person, it's also important for me because "I like to be the fuckee rather than simply the fucker." I love that, I love that. "It was extremely sensitive and "I could feel the fingers push on a part of my body "that had never been touched before. "It kind of felt like someone was tickling "underneath my bladder with a hand "that started from inside my body." Cool, that's awesome. Oh, you're welcome Tera, thank you. I love that you joined us, so come back next Monday. We'll have a different topic. And if anybody has topic ideas that they want me to cover, please tell me. I would love to be able to cover those for you. In fact Tera, you kind of gave me an idea that I do want to cover, maybe DIY sex toys. How 'bout that, does that sound good? I think we might try to do that one week. I gotta do my research on that. I have some ideas, but I'd love to take that a step further. Maybe DIY or like hacking your sex toys to combine them for different sensations, oh I have lots of ideas there. So, awesome. Cool. Thank you guys, thank you so much. I appreciate you. Thank you to Ayanna M. for being my moderator tonight. You're wonderful. Thanks for keeping the conversation flowing and safe and awesome. And yeah, I'll see everybody next week. So, adios, bye bye.

Masturbating a Prostate

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May 29, 2018
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