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Impact Play With Mistress Mona

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Tuesday, July 17, 2018

Mistress Mona loves to talk about kink in an approachable, shame free environment. In this episode, we will be talking about impact play! Spanking, cropping, flogging and much more!

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Hey, hey everybody. Kink With Mona getting ready to start. I am Mona Darling, I am a professional dominatrix and a woman and couples kink coach. Somebody asked me the other day if I ever seen men for coaching and I do. Yeah, I do. I just specialize in seeing women because women are the ones that tend to need my help. I don't think there's enough places where women can speak safely. So, I try to make that; women my priority. And trust me men, the women in your life are happy and sexy you're gonna be happy too. Anyway, I am doing the live cast on O.school, and I have a Facebook Live going in my Facebook group, my private Facebook group, that's Darling Propaganda Lounge. So, excuse me as my eyes go up and down, and up and down, and I'll try to answer everybody's questions no matter where they're posted. I think most of the questions will probably come from the O.school stream. So, if anybody doesn't get all of the O.school stream and they wanna join my Facebook group, let me know. Hello, Jay. Castaway, pats myself on the back for Jay putting Kink With Nora on her calendar for this week. Zone two is okay. Just a mild shock, much more like a mild toy than a cartoon with the hair sizzling and smoke coming out. Okay, I guess it's um. Where are you? In Atlanta? Chu? Where is everybody? I love the idea of getting to know where everybody is at, 'cause I know that you're all over the world, I think that's just amazing. Today we are going to talk about impact and impact toys. It is a fun, fun. I think a lot of people when they start thinking about getting into kink, they immediately think about riding crops and spanking and floggers, so we're gonna talk about a lot of that stuff today. Hey, Sugar. I have a stack of stuff back here on my dresser on my desk I guess, that I'm gonna go over in a little bit. Sacramento, Texas, Atlanta, hey, hey. Sugar, where are you? Are you Southern California? And, yes, we need a Kink With Mona chatter map on the blog. And did I see Mikey? I know he is from across the world, or maybe he's not on tonight. Anyway. I will actually. San Diego, up in the Facebook Chat. So, let's get started shall we. Castaway down in the other is singing, ♪ Oh, Sugar ♪ I'm sure you never get that, do you Sugar? So, accidentally when I was shutting everything down, I took a poll in the Darling Propaganda Lounge about... Oh, it's been chatty this week. About what people's favorite impact toys we're, and I wanna bring that up, because it was really interesting to me. Yeah, yeah. So. Hairbrush, wooden spoon, leather belt paddle, whip, cane, riding crop, hands, flogger. I'm wondering what people think would be the most popular thing. Mikey you are here. Hello, yes, I know you're on the other side of the world. I'm wondering, everybody in the chat, what do you think? 'Cause I know most of you haven't seen the results. What would be the most popular thing according to my group to hit people with or get hit with? You can think about that for a while as we go and, Castaway if you can remind me to give the answer at the end of our chat, in about 50 minutes. So first, we're gonna talk about, like I do, safety. When you're hitting people, you're gonna wanna be careful not to hit the spine and not to hit where the kidneys are, so lower back. Bum, bum, bum. We got one vote for belts down here. You don't wanna hit anybody on the kidneys. You don't wanna hit anybody's, on the spine. So, when you're flogging caning, spanking, those are the main places that you wanna stay away from. If you're going to be spanking somebody, you wanna make sure that genitals are all tucked away. And as we go through all of the different ways you can spank people, we're gonna touch bases with safety. So, if you have any questions as we go through and talk about different implements, and you wanna have a question answered about safety, jump in, ask way, any questions actually. The other thing we're gonna talk about because this is my favorite, is the emotional needs behind the implements. So, if anybody has tuned in here before, you know that a big thing for me is knowing what the emotional need is behind the kink. Is it just simply naughty spanking? Is it simply, you know, playful? Is it you know, using the crop but maybe to direct somebody oncethis weekend? Is it you know, are you punishing somebody? Do you need to be punished? Are you a slave who's being trained? All of these things are going to impact what tool you use and how you give that spanking or how you negotiate having that spanking given to you. So, let's see. This past weekend I actually had to beat the bejesus out of somebody with some of my best friends, and it was a slave training, We negotiated for lots and lots of marks, and at the very end, I got to write fuck the patriarchy across his bloodied and bruised butt. It was pretty cool. So obviously, the implements for something like that is gonna be different than another session that I did this weekend, this past week. Which was an age play session, and it was about punishing the baby, it was about making sure the baby understood that mommy wants the baby to be a good boy, and so for something like that mommy's gonna bust out her wooden spoon. Wooden spoon is one of my favorites, especially this kind of wooden spoon, which is gotta nice silicon grip handle, and a nice soft bamboo, round back. This side has sharp edges, and they're not sharp, but if you're gonna hit someone, with it, they're gonna leave marks. So, you know, depending on what you wanna do, how naughty has the baby been? Or maybe it's a cuckolded husband who's been naughty, and needs to be disciplined and you need to leave some marks. This side will leave marks as well, they're gonna be a different type of mark, it's going to be a rounder. How do you explain that? It's gonna be more thudy, this is gonna be more stingy. Anytime you're hitting on somebody with something the wider the area the thudier it's gonna be, the less it's gonna hurt. It's just gonna hurt in a different way. So, as opposed to another favorite implement, this little bugger. This little bugger is, this was made for me, a client whose wife would paddle him, she had degenerative muscle disease. So, she wasn't able to hit him nearly as hard as he would like, So he engineered this so that it transfers all of the energy through here to an exclamation point. So, if you haul off and hit somebody with this at the beginning it swings, and you can like really get a lot of oomph there, and you can actually leave an exclamation point on somebody's butt, it's really cool. That's why it's a favorite. But this is automatically going to hurt more. It's going to be more stingy. Despite the fact that it's weighed than this, because it's got smaller. Another way to demonstrate this is my favorite, my new favorite riding crop. I prefer a riding crop with a nice fat slapper. This is thudy, I find it very easy to use, like if you're gonna use this on nipples, squirming genitalia, it's easier to make sure that you're going to hit the right spot, and if you don't hit the right spot, it's not going to leave a huge mark. Something like this, a cane, a very long cane that I can't even get on screen, is going to whizz through the air and going to sting a lot more. So, it depends on what kind of pain, what kind of sensation the person you're playing with is looking for, what kind of sensation you are looking for. So, once you put all of that together, you've got your safety, you've got your emotional needs, and then you've got the sensations that somebody wants. So, once you talk to somebody and know what it is that they want, you can piece all of this together into your own fun little game. So, a couple little comments, Chu says. And Chu is our lovely, lovely moderator, I love having her on here 'cause she's got all kinds of kinky things to share with the group. She is the person that keeps our chat. She is one that keeps our chat safe. I'd like to say that O.school has moderators so that the trolls can watch and learn but they can't interrupt us, and I think everybody should watch and learn. Up here in my Facebook group, there's no moderator, but these ladies are all sort of vetted when they come in. If you wanna check out the O.school community guidelines there at o.school/community, it basically boils down to, don't be a jerk, listen, learn ask polite questions. Chu says, "Wooden spoon is totally my favorite, "long history of women spanking people "with wooden spoons in my family." And there's a long history of people spanking people with wooden spoons in history, we'll just call it history. Some people may not appreciate the spankings they got as a child with a wooden spoon but I think the wooden spoon is just such like for any kind of domestic play or age play, it's such a powerful symbol. It can be as powerful to some people as a riding crop. Which is kinky, like sort of a kink symbol. But for some people, the wooden spoon is a much more powerful visual. So, Castaway says, punctuation marks, nice, "I like the idea of the spanking implement "that leaves an ellipses indicating "that there is plenty more to come." Very nice, maybe you should get on that. I don't know, do you do any wood work Castaway? I have no idea what that little middle thing is, though. I've had this for, oh my gosh, like 10 years or so. 12 years, I'm waiting for this like little thing to snap, 'cause I get very excited when I use this. So, yes, Castaway my goodness you, a hyperlink. Can people post hyperlinks now or did somehow Castaway get that special treat? Castaway says, "Perhaps only O.school related links work for the Mwatch masses in the chat room. Perhaps. So, I tend to use a lot of these kind of implements. My favorite is the cane, not necessarily, this is more of a pointing cane. This is more of like, you go do that, you reach that, you down there. It's a fun cane, but for me it's just too long, and wieldy be to work. I think that everybody has their own thing, and when you're exploring any kind of implement where you're hitting other people or being hit it is really, really awesome to be able to feel them in your hand. It's so hard for me to recommend floggers and paddles and that sort of thing, because these are just so individual, and like to feel the sensation of the leather or the wood is very personal. I think that's also why I like pervertibles 'cause you can like walk through the grocery store or Target or wherever and pick things up and go, hmm, that would make a nice paddle. So, my other favorite. Excuse my outfit, it is approximately 4000 degrees outside. So, the other things that I really, really enjoy and I don't get to use nearly as often, but that's all relative, isn't it? Some things you really enjoy, and you're not entirely sure how often it would take to use them or do them or eat them before you actually got tired of them. This is a signal whip. Its original use is to signal dogs on a dog sled to go one way or another. It makes a very loud crack. Tell me guys, tell me if you guys can hear this. And it makes a very loud cracking noise and is awesome for terrorizing people. So, sometimes impact play doesn't necessarily need to include impact, it's the threat. Exhibit A, 10 foot bull whip. In the session that we did where we beat somebody up quite badly. He actually said his safe word when he saw me come out with this, when realistically I can't actually even use this with any accuracy, but it was really fun to threaten somebody with it. So, it's not impact play. There's a lot of mental games that you can play behind the scenes. Oh, yeah we heard that. Yay! Yes, oh my gosh, this is a favorite. It is a signal whip yes, it's a signal whip. This is a three foot, I also have a four foot. This was my very first personal whip that I ever got. It has a single tail. One tail. Which probably needs to be replaced. But a signal whip for signaling dogs or submissives which way to turn. Fun times. So, these are the types of toys that you can use and you're not necessarily going to hit somebody with them, but they are, when you're playing with power and you're playing with impact, these are an awesome threat. Then we can move into floggers and such. I believe I was talking to somebody, I think I was talking to somebody on here. Maybe not. I was talking to somebody about my awesome, this is called a dragon's tongue. It is pink and sparkly and awesome. The one that I like, a friend has, it's more like four feet long, and this is awesome because you can fold it in half, you have a nice paddle. It's not super, super accurate as a paddle like that, but it's nice to have leather, something, something that you can rub on somebody. When you do swing it and hit because it has a short little spiked pointy tip. Wink! It can hurt, but it can be very soft too. And the reason that I wanted to show you this pointy tip is because these, this is a big indicator of how mean a flogger is gonna be, and this is what we're gonna move on to next. So, this can be despite its pink, sparkly, a very, very evil thing. It can also like if you just hit somebody with this part of it. This tip is still going to come up, you can fold it over and I think every toy that you have you need to learn different ways to use it. I can show you different ways to use the flogger in just a moment. But cute, pink, sparkly, evil. So. Oh! So, floggers. Hmm! Smell delicious. Floggers are one of the things like riding crops that a lot of people think about when they think about impact play in kink. And I brought three floggers to play with, well, I wish play, to show off, there we go. I'm gonna start with this. This is soft probably lambskin. It's soft on one side, slightly fuzzy, suede on the other side. It weighs quite the bit and what you want is something that the handle and the tails way about the same because you want to be able to and I don't even know if I can. You want to have, you wanna be able to control it. When the the flogger isn't heavy enough it actually is a little more dangerous. So, you want to invest in a flogger that is a little weighty. So, if you're looking on Etsy and you see something and it says that it's like six ounces, you do not want that flogger. Don't worry about your father being too heavy and like making your arm tired because A, it's an awesome workout and B you wanna learn to flog it so that it actually, that's gravity doing a lot of work, and me knocking over my lights, but you wanna be able to swing it, let gravity do some of the work, not do a whole lot of wrist action and when you have a lot of contained space like this, knocking lights out of the ceiling, it's not as easy to demo, but you want something that's heavy ha, smells so good. So, this is soft, the leather's soft. It does have slightly pointed edges, ends. So, I mean theoretically if you snap this whip, which the different ways to hit somebody are to just let it fall and then they can feel the weight, then there's the slap, where you are just hitting it with the edge, and so something like that it's gonna be a little more intense. So, this is a fun beginners whip, uh, flogger. It is easy to dangle across skin and let that, whoops, trying to let the bottom just sort of tickle the skin. Give the submissive a... Sorry reading the notes down here. Give the submissive a little tease of the leather and the sensation that's about to come, so then we can move on to this. This, this is evil whip. So, six ounces like if you see. So, Castaway asked, "Said you mentioned "a flogger that is less than six inches "should be a buyer beware situation." Six ounces, yes, six ounces. You want you want something that weighs and I should have weighed the one that I have, so I could know exactly how how much it is. I'll make sure to give Castaway the exact weight of that flogger so that you can know. Let's see, I wanna make sure that I have, yes there's a demo bottom in PDX somewhere tonight who was missing they're calling. Are there perspective, are there specs the prospective buyer should be looking for? If I was a good teacher I would have looked that up before this but I didn't. So, I will give those to, I will look up some basic specs and give them to Castaway for his wrap up. His wrap up will be posted on FetLife, In The Kink With Mona, group as well as on my blog. Lanny, hello and welcome. Any recommendations for resources on DIY or tight budget implements. Any implements? I will go over some implements in just a minute. I'm gonna do my last flogger. Oops, I have one more too, actually. Let me finish the floggers and then we're gonna go over some pervertibles because there are all kinds of things you can use to hit people with or be hit with that are not fancy floggers. Yes, Chu and Castaway, thank you, half hour mark. Thank you for being our moderator Chu, and if anybody is having a good time and would like to tip, there is a tip jar down there, O.school and myself are both supported by the tips, we split them 50, 50 and um, yes. The way... Yeah. The way the blog. Will post it right here, oh dang it! Hold on just say it, try to think. It'll be on my blog which is right there and I will actually find a couple good people on Etsy. Etsy is pretty much my favorite place to get floggers and whips right now, because there's so many amazing people out there doing amazing leather work. So, this flogger as opposed to the last one that was suede, this is shiny polished leather. Hey, Control Freak. This is shiny polished leather and the ends are pointy. Twink! Even the edges of these are, where as the other one are soft and they fold, this is thicker and just the edges feel sharper. You know when you hit somebody with this it's gonna be felt, and when you're, you know, it's the same, it weighs about the same. Handle, fronds should all weigh about, it should be about a 50, 50 thing. Where the handle weighs about half of what this weighs. There are exceptions, over the weekend I was playing with a flogger that had a big steel I think dildo, that was, and that that wasn't, it was actually sort of a little bit awkward. It's nicer to have something that's really balanced, and when you play with the different ones you will see. And really I have a hard time recommending people, like I already said, buying these online, because it can be so personal. Like it can just feel, like you know it's right when you pick it up and you're swinging it around. You go like, And other ones you'll be picking up and you're just like that's too heavy or too long or just not right. It's sort of like Harry Potter, the flogger picks you. Castaway says, "Rumor has it that Etsy is also "a valuable resource forbutt plug research." Yes. I have recently become infatuated with a woman who makes creative but plugs and she basically um, yeah. I need to see one and then I'm gonna do a giveaway on here actually. My affection for gaming and fetish has collided in a butt plug with a little bubble on the end and inside the bubble as a 20 sided die, so you can like have somebody with a butt plug and they can stick their ass up in the air and they have to like shake their butt to like roll the die, it's just fricking awesome, for me, I don't know if anybody else is gonna like this but. Anyway this is gonna be an evil, evil flogger. It is actually an evil, evil flogger. I just touch your vision. I wish I could just have you touch on this. So, the final flogger and this is sort of a novelty flogger. I tell my submissives that I don't like dead flowers brought to me, so he brought me a flogger. Look! Jay, I noticed the heavy clear handle, I think it was glass. Glass, yes. Okay, I just remember it was something and it was really pretty but it was sort of felt, it just felt awkward. D20 butt plug, yeah, yeah. Yes, please. So, yeah I... Childhood flashbacks, the feel went to the same thing as picking out a baseball bat. Yeah, it's picking out a baseball bat. I mean, I resonate more with, you know, picking out a wand. You know, the wand chooses you, the paddle chooses you, it's you know. So, something like this is fun, each frond is individual braided. It's got a leather flower on the end. Two, three, four, five, six, seven, eight, nine, 10, 11, 12. 12, I had a feeling. So, there are 12 individual things and each one of them hits and it's more, it's weighty so this isn't something, the thing that you're gonna be able to like hurt somebody with, it is a really nice massage though. It is a lot of fun. It smells lovely. Not at all like roses, but leather. So. Castaway says, "For a second I thought you were making "a really obscure Rolling Stones reference. "Send me dead flowers into my wedding, "and I won't forget to put roses on your grave." No, it's just roses. And especially now that my dungeon is named Sub Rosa, it's especially awesome. I even have a rose riding crop. So, let's move on to some pervertibles. Things that you can hit people with, or be hit with that you might already have around the house. Yay! Mikey asked, "Is that a custom made flogger?" It is not, well, I mean they're all sort of custom made. It was a gift from somebody, I don't actually know where I don't actually know where they got it, I would love to find another one 'cause I would love to have just, you know mine is 10, 15 years old and it's been used a lot. I would love to have a backup, so if anybody out there knows where I can get another one. So, I've looked around a bit and I would love to get my dungeon partner one just because Sub Rosa, if we're gonna be Sub Rosa we all need the rose, right? So, let's talk about things that you can spank people with, that you might have around the house or that you can easily find. So, I think the very earliest. Where did it go? It's the earliest form of pervertible. It's a riding crop from a real riding store. It um, cost like 10 bucks, I walked in and picked it up and went, that'll do. It was, this is always, it's a favorite and it was inexpensive and it's heavy duty and I mean it's made to us on horses and it's awesome, so just... Any tips on how to take care of floggers, so that they can live longer? It depends on the type of leather. The suede ones can be harder to clean. I clean my with alcohol 'cause I have to sterilize them. You can use leather conditioner on em. There's a great service, submissive job, if Castaway ever gets out here, you can just like run Leather Conditioner down all of my floggers. I, working in a professional dungeon end up having to sterilize them with something we use, metricide, matricide, I'm probably not saying that right. It's one of those words that I see written everywhere and I never actually know how to pronounce it and it's a super, super heavy duty, everything killer and those are very hard on the whips. So but anytime anything in the dungeon is exposed to fluids, I have to use it on there. So, sometimes my floggers. Yeah. That can be hard on them but I'm taking care of them, keeping them out of the sun, you know all the ways that you would take care of leather. Castaway, are you okay there? So, let's see what other pervertibles we have. West Coast Tease, yes indeed. So. Another favorite paddle I, this is just a spatula I mean I love it because it's this one just happens to have a really good weight, that's what I was talking about walking through Target or wherever and being able to just like pick things up. Hey, hey up there in my group, I see you. This is why I like going to Target, picking up things, checking it out. Spatulas can make excellent paddles or you know it's even if you're not into age play they just, some of them have a really nice smack. You can get them in different sizes, you can also, and they're easy to clean and you can also get the ones now that have like the little silicone brushes for brushing on stuff when you cook, those can be fun sensation toys too, as an aside. Recently found these, I think Castaway might recognize this. You can get these bamboo paddles not a pervertible but really, really inexpensive, they're bamboo, they do have holes cut out and the edges of the holes are a little owy, so I think that you can get them without the holes if you want. If you do get it, just take a piece of sandpaper and make sure that you get any rough edges so they don't break skin or maybe you want to break skin I don't know, I don't know you. But this was on Amazon and there were all kinds of bamboo implements if you look for sorority paddles, so many fun different things. Let's see. "I broke a spatula on my pets bottom," Jen's Fury says. Yeah, I've definitely done that. I do try to look for bamboo, bamboo seems to do better. Here's another fun... Where's my paddlewhite? Yes, paddle with holes, less air resistance. Just like I said, make sure you just hit it with a little sandpaper around the edges so that the edges are a little, like on that, they're very sharp and they'll leave some nice marks. Let's see. This is just the back of a book if you have any way to, you know, if you have a skill saw, your friend has a skill saw these actually make really awesome paddles. You can use fun books, this is Dedication from the Federal Practice Digest, and it feels really nice in my hand. It's got two great sensations because this side has the pages, the edge of the other pages. And this side has the leather, little more sting, little softer but super fun inexpensive, you may get with a skill saw. I mean, it takes a pretty big skill saw if you're gonna use a big book. But, you know you can make some things suited for yourself. Let's see, what else. So, this is something that somebody actually bought me but would be easy, easy, easy to make at home. This one is leather, it's basically a beanbag. It's a beanbag sewed at the end with a little, and it's awesome because you can hit pretty hard with it and it hurts but it's a thudy it's you know it's thudy deep smack and it's not, it's a lot of fun you know, you can just really get in there. Great Expectations, Paradise Lost those are great book titles for book spankings, yes. Lanny says, "A friend of mine recently used a lint roller." Yes. Another thing that's great for implement play is shoehorns. Shoehorns are awesome. When I was a kid we had to go pick our own Willow Switch. Federal Practice Digest, yes, it's a law book. That is an actual book. Where did it go? No, it's an actual book. It's the Federal, West Federal Practice Digest. Yap. And it is just the binding of the book. So... The person that gave me that, gave a couple of other people in that same circle paddles like that, and it's funny, every once in a while I will run into somebody else who goes, "I have one of those too," 'cause they're all that law, the Federal Practice Diet, Digest, blah, blah, blah. Shoehorns make awesome paddles. IKEA, oh my God, you can walk through IKEA. IKEA has cheese boards that are like perfect big old paddles and we need, yes we need a picture of that for the recap, definitely Castaway, give me a reminder, and I'll send you a picture. They have shoehorns, IKEA does. That are long, they've got like a little hook on the end, they're like plastic, they're like. And these are great because you can just have them around your house and nobody's gonna say, oh, you got a paddle there. Chu, "I'm already thinking about all the books I have "that we can destroy." Repurpose, you're not destroying books, you're repurposing them. Um, let's see, paint sticks. Paint, those stirs, those are awesome. You can get them very inexpensive. Some people even just have them in their garage, you can take them out beat somebody until they bust to pieces. Write things on them, those can be really therapeutic 'cause you can you know if you're punishing somebody you can punish somebody and write, they have them write their misdeed on the paint stick, and then they get paddled until the paint stick breaks. If you got a really hard, heavy duty paint stick that's gonna suck for them, the bottom. But some of them don't take long to break at all. Kitchen store, definitely anything, anything that you can pick up that's long. My friend always throws out the two by four. She loves to be spanked, beaten really, with a two by four. She is she's a professional, don't try that at home. But a lot of fun. Looking at what else I have. Oh, I do have. Jay, that was not mine, mines here safe and sound. I know you were worried Chu says, "I used the twisty thing from my blinds once." Yes, definitely. I have a baseball bat down here that I have used. It also has a screw on the end, so you can screw dildo on it and use it. I can beat you from the inside with that. And hanger, hangers,style, definitely, definitely. IKEA... Okay, Castaway says, "Beware of the IKEA "bathroom decor area, I just stumbled upon a clip "of a couple filming a blowjob scene in one of them." I need to hear more of that story Castaway. And for the record, I found this will doing IKEA research, don't ask. No, I have to ask. Domi dearest, yes. This was actually one of the first presents I got from my husband because he loves me. It is a double sided paddle, rabbit fur, super soft on one side and um, leather, thick hard leather on that side. This is from Tantra's. It is um... First off, it's a silicon paddle, it's weighty, stings like a bitch. Ah, stings! And also has a G spot toy or a prostate depending on who you're playing with. Yay! And then I have repentance. It's a beautifully made paddle. Redemption. And these, the words are sort of burned etched in there. Yay, I received a tip! Somebody gave me a tip and made the Clitosorous appear. I love that, thank you. As Chu just said, if you're feeling helped, or healed or generous, please consider tapping the gift jar we do split our tips 50, 50. It helps keep me afloat and encourages me to come back, as well as helping keep O.school up and running, and we do wanna keep O.school up and running 'cause O.school is awesome and they provide me a space to talk about all of my crazy things, as well as all kinds of people, all kinds of educators to talk about all kinds of really important things like pelvic floor health, and you know, polly and just all the things dating and queerness and all kinds of things. Oh, no, the stream got interrupted again. How has the stream been up there in Facebook land? If anybody's on there, I don't think there are right now. So, I'm going to wind down. This is one of my favorite riding crops, yay! And the reason is that this was a gift when I was in London. I'll show it down here first, I don't know if I can see it. Anyway, it's from the Queen's Riding Shop. I don't know if you can see it, it's really hard with the reflection. Like where did that camera? Anyway. So, Castaway says the stream got interrupted again. Bummer, bummer. I don't know if anybody is still sticking around, from the beginning of the show, where I said that I was going to tell you what came out, the most popular hairbrush, wooden spoon, leather belt, paddle, whip. Belts, didn't even get to belts, goodness. Whip, cane, riding crop, hands, flogger, what does everybody think that the most popular thing? What came up highest? We've been voting on this all week in my group. I was not terribly surprised to see what came up and we also didn't get to hands, hands are amazing implements of doom. Okay, it looks like it's only you Castaway, only you. Everybody else seems to have had good stream. So, any guesses as to what the most popular thing is, I know that one or two of you know because they're in the group and they voted. 14, 15, 16, 17 votes for the winner. It was pretty close, 'cause there was almost that many for the second place. What do you think? What do you think? What would be? Chu says, "Hands are for sure daddy's favorite implement." Hands came in second. My favorite are the whip, the cane and the riding crop, and that came in fifth, fourth and third. Anybody wanna guess at what the top one was? Anyone, anyone, quiet out there? Maybe we're gonna have to wait for the recap, nobody's gonna take a guess. Chu says he likes to feel the sting as well from hands. Hands are awesome they're very intimate because it's an extension of yourself, you know, extension of your your master or mistress as there are hitting you, so hands are super intimate. They're also free and provide a lot of, a lot of different sensations from cupping, smack you know, just all the things that we talked about the different width, there's also a difference between like hitting somebody fast and bring your hand back and hitting it and bringing your hand all the way through. Jay, says flogger, Eva says belt. Belts came in one, two, three, four, five, six, seventh. Flogger number one. Flogger was the number one thing by quite a bit. Well, hands came in a close second. Yeah, I didn't even bring belts in. There's so many things to hit people with. I have a nine year old, oh goodness. Hit people with anything, also anything can become a gun. I am gonna wind this up, we are having Harry Potter night. Maybe that's why I kept thinking about Harry Potter and the whip. I wanna thank everybody for stopping by and um, saying hello, and I thank you to all the people who logged into chat in O.school, and I think, I think, I think that next week we're gonna talk about gags because I just did a talk about gags, and it was a lot of fun. And I think y'all will like it. Castaway. Yeah. So, I am gonna see you guys all next week. We'll talk about gags. Bye. Oh, poor Castaway. Hands a close second, yes. So, I'm gonna wind down the O.school stream. Thank you all for stopping by. I will see you all next week when we talk about gags. If anybody has something that they would like to... If anybody has anything that they would like to me to talk about. Hi, Elsie. If anybody has anything that they would like me to talk about, reach out on Twitter or Facebook or in all of the places I am all over and easy to find. So. Heading down. I will talk to you next week.

Impact Play With Mistress Mona

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