Going Down: What Not To Do

When you’re eating pussy, chances are you're not mapping your partner’s anatomy to approach it like a science project. While that’s a good thing, having zero understanding of the basic structure of a vagina can hurt your oral sex skills. 

In this stream, O.school founder Andrea Barrica and pleasure educator Luna Matatas explain the anatomy of the vagina and what not to do when going down on your partner. 

First thing’s first. Be careful not to overstimulate those well-known pleasure centers, such as the clitoris and G spot. As Matatas points out, “ [... ] most people kind of focus, when they're doing stimulation on a clit, or stimulation on a vulva, they tend to be just jamming everything here.” Avoid the  “wicka wicka wicka” DJ technique as it can be too much for a lot of people. That said, all pussies are different and DJ’ing could totally be your partner’s thing. 

Matatas suggests asking your partner questions such as:  

  • Do you like it softer or harder?
  • Do you like it directly on your clit, or on the side? 
  • What can I do for you? 

She adds that giving compliments, such as “you taste great” can help your partner relax into giving you more information about their wants, needs, and desires.

Video transcript

- Okay, so we're gonna talk a little bit just to give you a rundown of the structure of the clitoris. So Andrea was showing you, can I have the pussy? (laughs)

- You can have the pussy

- I can have the pussy. So this is your vulva, right? So we've got the clitoral hood up here, you've got the clitoris right here, right? The head of the clitoris is right here, then you've got your urethra, this pink thing is like the G-spot that's sort of usually tucked up. The opening is your vagina, and then you've got the labia minora and the labia majora. So this is kinda what we're lookin' at. And then the clitoris is the structure that's behind all of this. So the little head of the clitoris poppin' out here, would be the little nub that you see here. So most people kind of focus, when they're doing stimulation on a clit, or stimulation on a vulva, they tend to be just jamming everything here. So you've seen people doing this, like a DJ

- Wicka wicka wicka

- Or they get in and they're just like and you're like what are you doing? Who does that work for? So all pussies like all different kinds of things, right? So the one way to kind of find out what your partner likes is to kinda talk about it and lots of people are very shy, and maybe inarticulate about what they like, so asking even binary questions when you're doing something to someone. So if I'm doing this to someone, and I'm just kind of like yeah, did you cum, did you cum!?

- You like it!?

- You like it!? Or fingerbanging, right? Fingerbanging. So if you're doing any of those things and you're learning as you go, right? So even us givers, there's different bodies, there's different people, so we don't know. So asking questions like do you like it softer or harder? Do you like directly on your clit or on the side? What can I do for you?

- Right.

- Giving compliments, you taste great. Being like, you smell amazing, can help people kind of also relax into giving you more information about what feels good for them.

Going Down: What Not To Do

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Jun 11, 2018
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11:17 pm
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Monday, June 11, 2018
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11:17 pm

Do you not feel confident giving oral to your vulva owning partners? Well as long as you learn what not to do, you can at least avoid one major pitfall!