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Thursday, July 19, 2018

Do I have one? Where is it? Why can’t my partner find it? Am I supposed to squirt? This AMA on G-spots will help you discover your orgasm diversity and offer tips for exploring your G-spot with toys, fingers and partners.

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Tonight is kind of, it was described as an ask me anything about G-spots. So if there are questions specifically about G-spots you have, definitely throw them into the chat at anytime. Whether I'm already talking about something in that line or whether it's off in left field about G-spots. Like, feel free at anytime to put it in the chat. If this is your first time with me on a Hump Day Q&A, hopefully it's not your last, but totally feel free. I love to create an environment where we are all learning from each other and interacting. And y'all have so much knowledge and experience and wisdom to share as well, so questions, add them. Questions, comments, even if you disagree with me, which is totally fine, really actually like that too. So, anything you wanna know about G-spots in particular, I'm usually going to start and I do this often, we're gonna start off talking a little bit tonight about anatomy. So, I'm gonna bring my pussy out, if you haven't met her before, if this is your first time meeting my pussy, her name is Sweet Caroline, she's very friendly. Wave to her, unfortunately we can't see but sometimes it's nice to be like, hey girl, hey! This is Sweet Caroline. And let's talk a little bit about pussy anatomy or vulva anatomy. So for those of you who might be new to O.school, this might be your first time hearing that when we are looking head on at genitalia, of like pussy genitalia, what we're actually looking at is called a vulva, not a vagina. We often refer to it as a vagina, but I always say, referring to the whole thing as a vagina is like referring to your face as your nose. The vagina is just one part of the external genitalia, which is called the vulva. So we have the outer lips here, we have the inner lips here and I like to refer to them as outer and inner versus sometimes people will call them labia majora, labia minora. But that to me, that sounds like the outer ones are supposed to be bigger and the inner ones are supposed to be smaller and that's not true for everybody sometimes. Our inner pussy lips are bigger than our outer pussy lips and that's cool. Okay, so then the actual vagina is the hole, it's the canal, it is where babies come out of if we are having what's called a natural childbirth where we don't have a c-section. It is where, when we're talking about penis and vagina intercourse, where the penis goes, fingers can go in here, tube tampons go up here, this is where menstrual blood comes out of, all of those things, right. And then, we have, I'll show you a little. This one is signified by a little rose, little flower, it's called the urethra, this is where urine comes out of, it might also be where female ejaculate comes out of. If female ejaculating is something that you do, it shouldn't be called a female ejaculate. We have to think of another word for it because people besides females can have pussies, if we're talking about a trans man. We have to think of another word for it. If anyone knows of a trans inclusive term to call what's commonly referred to as female ejaculation, I would love to hear it, upgrade! If you've never seen a vulva face to face before, I guess it's face to vulva, it's not really a little rosebud. But I always joke, my joke is, mine looks just like that, it doesn't, nope. And then a little above the rosebud, a little above the vagina is what we know as the clitoris! The clitoris is the pleasure center, over 8,000 nerve endings, it also has a hood, the hood is, again, different size and shape on everyone. The amount of clitoris that shows through externally looks different on everybody. The hood is there essentially to keep it covered so that it's not super sensitive all of the time. Okay and then, what we do know-- Where is my little O.school sticker? Gonna see my tits for a minute, you're gonna see my tits. Good thing I had a bra on. Okay, as we know from our little O.school stickers is that the clitoris actually is not just external. So this littlehere is what we see externally, but what we also know is there is an internal structure of the clitoris as well. So the nerve endings of the clitoris underneath the skin actually go down around the vagina and even out towards the lips, if that makes sense. And that's gonna be really important to keep in mind as we talk about the G-spot, 'kay. So we got a little vulva anatomy there. I'm gonna check on some questions. Oh, Sunny Hot, you said I still look pretty, you guys are so nice to me. So did Mecky, Mecky you look great, no need for makeup or-- I like that you said that 'cause now I'm gonna look trashy as fuck every single time I stream. Sunny Hot said don't seduce more with our First you wanna know what's the importance of the G-spot in sex and foreplay to start with, cool, let's talk about that. Squirting, Maya, you just squirting with a question mark, you wanna know how squirting happens or people that squirt, just specify, we're gonna definitely talk about squirting. Sometimes when we talk about squirting, squirting and G-spots kind of go hand in hand. Okay so what I think one of the things to know, obviously there is a lot of hype around the G-spot. Like the G-spot is supposed to be the spot to find for super stimulation and the truth is that it can be a really pleasurable area but I'm also, like before I even talk about the G-spot or specifics or more anatomy when it comes to pleasure, which we will talk about the different pleasure centers often of the vulva. The first thing I think is most important to point out is that the entire body can feel pleasurable. And if we're talking about vulvas in particular, the whole vulva and even the internal structures of the vagina can feel really pleasurable. And every body, as in every person, and-- Oh, Maya, sorry, wondering if trans inclusive term for female ejaculation is squirting? Yeah, okay, sorry, thank you for that, Maya. Thank you, I got distracted, I was like ooh. I've heard squirt before too, it's not necessarily analogous, although-- I'm gonna have to, yo, let's do some research. I'm not gonna do research, I'm gonna stop streaming, drink this wi-- Okay, anyhow, sorry, distraction. When I say every body is gonna feel pleasure differently, I mean every person but I also mean every body, like my body is going to experience sensation differently than your body is. And I think one of the things that I see as, I'm gonna use the word problematic and maybe even harmful, when we sometimes talk about sex is that we all make the assumptions that the things that feel good on my body are also going to feel good in your body. And the truth be told is, I will never be able to empathize and experience the pleasure that your body feels in your body 'cause it's your body, does that make sense? I'm getting a little like woohoo out here but like, so. And one of the reasons, especially that O.school is here and the people, sex educators are out in the world talking about sex is to normalize and validate everybody's individual and unique experiences and how they feel pleasure in their bodies. So there is a lot of hype around the G-spot, you will see G-spot stuff on Cosmo Magazine, like how to reach your G-spot. And I'm gonna tell you about the G-spot today 'cause I think it's like more information and more knowledge can be more helpful to help you all, to help everybody experience or feel more curiosity with different parts of their body. Because the more curious you are and the more willing you are to explore and try different things and new experiences and maybe new sensations and play with new body parts is then increasing your potential capacity to feel pleasure and satisfaction, which I think is always a good thing because you can never, like abundance, right? You can never have too much pleasure or satisfaction. Okay, so when we are talking about the G-spot and I actually have started to refer to it more as the G-zone rather than a specific spot because I think-- All right, so let's get back. So this man, this cis man, Grafenberg, Dr. Grafenberg? I don't even know what his first name is, but he discovered the G-spot! So to be honest with you, I think the idea that it's called a G-spot and even is a G-spot is fucking ironic as shit, because a man discovered, like fuck you! People have been having G-spots or this area that he discovered for centuries and all of a sudden this cis, white, hetero man comes in and he's like, don't worry friends, I've discovered a body part. It was always there, bitch! You didn't discover shit! So whatever, the fact that we even call it by his name, it kinda pisses me off, but whatever. All right, but I'm going to tell you about, generally, where this zone of feel good tissue typically is within a vulva. But I am also going to tell you that that is going to be different for everybody, just like the same exact way that when you look at someone's clitoris, everyone's clitoris is gonna look different, some are gonna be higher, some are gonna be lower, some are gonna be more covered, some are gonna be more exposed, they're going to look bigger, some are gonna look smaller. The same holds true for your G-zone or spot. Even though you won't be able to see it, the way that it's gonna feel is going to feel different for everybody and also the amount of pleasure that people receive from this is going to feel different for everybody. For example, if we were all going to talk about on a scale of one to 10, how much pleasure does your earlobe bring you? Some of us are gonna be like, yo, I love during sexy time when my earlobe gets stimulated or tickled or touched, that really gets me hot and bothered. Some of you are gonna be like, yeah, I like it but I don't miss it if it doesn't happen. And some people are gonna be like, no, I don't like it, it doesn't feel good, right? So the same thing is going to be true for the G-zone. Before we even talk about where it is, I just wanna kind of like, hold that expectation, that if you never have had your G-zone stimulated before and now that you know where it is, you go and get it stimulated. If you don't have these wildly, so erotic, pleasurable, exciting, feelings from it, you're not doing it wrong. That's just how your body is, 'kay? All right, so, we have our vulva. Typically, when we're talking about the G-zone, it is inside the frontal it's inside the vagina, kinda towards the front, so like closer to the stomach. Let me just clarify here, I'm gonna stand up for a second. When I'm talking about the vulva, our vulvas don't look like this, right? So it's not like when I walk around during the day, my vulva's like face forward, wild. My vulva's like this, it's facing down most of the time. I can't believe I'm doing this. Does that make sense? So usually when I'm walking around, my vulva's doing this. So if I'm laying on my back, my vulva would be facing you. Okay, so I'm gonna face my vulva, so I'm gonna pretend that I'm Sweet Caroline. Assuming Sweet Caroline's body is lying on it's back and I'm looking Sweet Caroline in the face. So if I wanted to find Sweet Caroline's G-zone, I would put a finger, face up, into Sweet Caroline's vagina and then I would do the come hither motion. And I would probably feel her G-zone toward her stomach, up. And again, this is gonna be different for everybody, like an inch or two or somewhere around there, inside. Usually it feels kind of like a sponge or I describe it like if you put your tongue on the roof of your mouth, that is usually what the G-zone's gonna feel like. Sometimes like a walnut shell, something like that. So it's usually kind of like a rigged area. And if you do that, you feel it. I'm also going to say that, what was I gonna say, sorry I started that, I can't read the chat and talk at the same time. It's a bad habit. For some people it might be also wider, so you might be able to move your finger's like a little windshield washer and still feel that rigged area or some are not gonna feel that thick, some will be more narrow. Think all of these things are going to be different depending on the different body. So the G-zone often, this is a generalization so may be not true for everyone, feels different in terms of sensitivity than the clitoris, for example, so sometimes if you touch even the tiniest little clitoris touch, sometimes will give you like a ticklish like ooh! You almost like know that your clitoris has been stimulated. 'Cause like, it, like there's oh! Maybe that's exaggerating but there's like, oh, it's there! Sometimes, especially if that's what you're used to, like clitoral stimulation and that's, I guess the sexual script that you have in your head, is when I receive pleasure from sexual touch, it feels almost like ticklish, very sensitive, woo! Like, sensation, most people don't experience that kind of sensation when the G-zone is stimulated. Typically, we talk about clitoral stimulation as for the most part, really enjoying vibration, because it's kind of like a shallow, like ticklish. Whereas, the G-zone tends to, again these are all tends to, this isn't true for everyone, tends to enjoy more of a pressure. So even when we were talking about doing that come hither motion, usually if we're talking about, and sometimes obviously clitorises like light pressure too. But usually the G-zone can withstand a little more sensation or play without feeling too sensitive, does that make sense? Okay, let me check the chat out, see what we got going on and then I got more G-zone stuff. Maya said Marla does talk about how they are front facing and down facing vulvas, some folks vulva's are more front facing and some folks are less so. Have you heard this, yes, so again, I don't wanna, sorry if the way I said it, almost sounded like, this is the right way! I wanted to clear up, especially for folks who might not have a vulva themselves, that sometimes when we look at this, we almost think the vulva's like in the stomach. I've had people tell me that they were surprised that they had to literally get between someone's legs in order to have exposure to the vulva. So I just wanted to clear that up, like, absolutely, they can be, 'cause again everyone's bodies are shaped very differently, so the actual like lips. You will look at some people and you'll be able to see more of a crease in their lips, even though they're front facing, versus like some almost look like a Barbie doll, right? Where they have that V and their lips don't even crease until like right under their legs. So, thank you Maya, awesome. Mecky said, the guy discovering the G-spot, can we have a stream on the history of masturbation? Aja Patton's writing about female masturbation, that there were ages where women were very open. Yes, so also I will say, even when we're talking about self pleasure and context and history and different cultural. Even if we're talking about like history wise, we can actually talk about today where there are cultures where self pleasure is very, especially female self pleasure, is very highly regarded and talked openly about. Seen as something that's healthy and beneficial and commonplace, but that would be awesome to have a history lesson about masturbation because I'm sure many of you might have heard that back in the day, vibrators actually treated what was called hysteria. Which was women being crazy. They weren't called vibrators, it wasn't supposed to be pleasure but that's where the vibrator was invented. Definitely would be a cool stream, Mecky, I agree with you. Think we have loads of research to do for such a stream. Sunny Hot said can G-spots stimulate only with fingers? Yes, the answer with that is, yes. Let's talk a little bit about stimulation. I mentioned earlier, that usually the G-spot can withstand, I will say more direct, more pressure, more actual sensation, at least from the get go. Sometimes what some people experience, once their clitoris kinda warms up to stimulation it can definitely, and some people can do this right away, can like literally get on the clitoris and be like yeah, we're going to town! For some people, that's a little too intense to be pleasurable, especially at first. Before the arousal, the physiological arousal process has happened with their genitals, whereas sometimes the G-spot can take more of that from the get go. Obviously, if you've ever been to my Hump Day Q&A before, you know I'm gonna talk about lube, I think anytime you are engaging in any type of sex play, lube can be really helpful and beneficial. But I especially, usually, recommend it for any insertive sex play, so if you're going in the vagina with fingers, like lube will tend to make the experience more smooth, more slippery and more pleasurable. But to answer your question directly Sunny Hot, yeah, the G-spot can definitely be stimulated only with fingers, of course this is going to depend on the length of the fingers and the length of the vagina, and where the G-zone is located within the vagina, for those individuals. But typically, yes, you can reach it 'cause it's only usually within an inch or two within the vaginal canal, so yes. When we're talking about stimulation, so first I also-- first, like we're a half hour in, this is not first. Recent research has actually shown that Dr. Grafenberg was a fucktard, that was mean, that's not necessarily true. When we start talking about how the clitoris also has these internal structures and these cruras or these legs that come down. The most recent research, like internal has actually shown that there's a very high likelihood, that the nerves that are stimulated from the G-zone are actually nerves that from off of the clitoral structure. It's actually just another way, another place, another point of access to access some of the feel good pleasure nerves from the clitoris. So fuck you, Dr. Grafenberg, you didn't find shit. Sorry, I don't know why I'm so mad about him, but I just think that it's stupid that this man discovered a body part, whatever. So, Sunny Hot great, let me get, okay. Tongue would be a little harder, but not impossible. When we're talking about stimulation, I'm gonna get there, I promise I'm gonna elaborate on that for you. When we're talking about stimulation, usually if we're talking about clitoral stimulation, this is where usually vibrators come into play, right? Clitorises in general, tend to like vibration stimulation. Whereas, G-zones tend to really like pressure stimulation. And you can obviously do both. Which is why fingers can be a really good way to stimulate the G-spot, so doing this like come hither motion. Sometimes even applying pressure, do you see what I'm doing here? To like, both sides of it almost, like applying pressure using your thumb, or using a thumb, someone's thumb, as almost leverage to get more pressure, like be able to push harder with these fingers, can also feel really nice. And then usually, if we're talking about toys, if you see a vibrating toy, like a wand, with the attaching magic wand, I don't have one with me, is not going to stimulate the G-spot 'cause it's probably not going to get into the vagina. But a curved toy, because you'd kinda have to go toward the front of the body, in order to access the G-zone, curved toys are usually made in order to access and stimulate the G-zone. I'm gonna start with something like this, and this is the Njoy Pleasure Wand. Isn't it like, just look at it, shiny, it's beautiful. It is made of stainless steel and if we're talking just to do a quick talk about toys, anytime you're inserting a toy it's really important to know what that toy is made out of. Especially just for trying to reduce your risk, for things like infection and things like that. Any toy, if you're going to insert it, usually I recommend either putting, if it's not a body safe toy, you can use condoms on top of the toys as well, so that it can cleanup easier, make it more hygienic. Or using a non-porous material. This is made of stainless steel, so very non-porous, it is also, I know you guys can't feel it, but it's also very heavy and weighted. And when it comes to G-spot stimulation, weight can be a really great thing because of that desire of the G-zone to feel pressure. So what you would do with something like this, and see how it's got that curve to it? Is insert it and rather than like with a vibrator where you're vibrating, you wouldn't necessarily try to vibrate this, but you would almost like rock it back and forth, to try to apply a rhythmic pressure to that G-zone. Which is the same thing you might be doing with your fingers, the come hither motion. If you're thinking about tongues, tongues could potentially, depending on the length of the tongue, and again, where the G-zone is located within the vagina, reach the G-zone, but it probably wouldn't. So, that is a great strategy to explore and be curious about it and try out. For a lot of folks, I would guess that the tongue, I guess, depending on the tongue muscle as well, be strong enough to apply the kind of pressure that most G-zones like in order to feel pleasurable stimulation, does that make sense? 'Cause when you think about the tongue muscle, the meat of the muscle is in the back of the tongue, it's not usually in the tip of the tongue, so it might. I'm gonna try to tongue fuck my Sweet Caroline's G-zone later, I'm not gonna do it right now, no, I'm just kidding. Kidding about doing it later, kidding. Usually if we are talking about, so if I were gonna, I don't know, like conceptualize, strategize a way for me, if I were going to eat Sweet Caroline out and wanted to perform oral sex on Sweet Caroline. And I wanted to incorporate the G-zone, in that oral sex kinda repertoire, I would probably focus my tongue on long licks around the labia and around the clitoris and maybe like suck on the clitoris and maybe flick my tongue on the clitoris, but I would probably utilize my fingers within that oral repatore to stimulate the G-zone, does that make sense? Hi, Gabby, Gabby said when aroused, the vulva goes through lots of changes and engorges, does the G-spot go through any changes? That is a really great question. So, yes and no, so it doesn't, so. During arousal, you're right, the vulva goes through lots of changes, one of the physiological changes that happens during that arousal sequence, is that blood rushes to kind of the entire vulva, kinda to the entire genitals. So a little bit, the G-zone does get more engorged with blood, which makes it kind of jucier, which it expand a little bit, it gets, kind of the way you would think of like a sponge, right? So like a dry sponge, might be like, just down here but then you fill it with water and it's like oh yeah. So it kind of expands a little bit, you know and we know that the vagina also like expands by a few inches to prepare for potential penetration and be able to accommodate that penetration. The G-zone will get more engorged, and the clitoris does as well. That blood flow that increased blood flow engorges and increases the size of all of those areas down there, so great question Gabby. Maya said, I still hear people talking about vaginal orgasms, I assume they're talking about G-zone simulation but I kind of thought we had discredited that way of thinking about orgasms, can you talk about this briefly? Absolutely, this is where the world gets a little bit complicated and the fact that we are talking these days, more about sex and different body parts and exploring these things more often, is going to be really helpful. And I think there are different types of orgasms that we can experience, and for anyone that's experienced orgasms that kind of rooted in these different parts, even if the parts are really close to each other, can probably speak to the fact that they do feel different in some ways. We have clitoral orgasms and clitoral orgasms are kind of easier, I think, to spot, because the clitoris is external, right? So we can, those of us with vulvas, those of us who are pleasing partners with vulvas, can stimulate only the clitoris, can never ever touch any internal part and may be able to reach an orgasm that way. So we know that is a clitoral orgasm, 'cause all that we've touched is the clitoris, right? Vaginal orgasms get a little bit murkier, because we aren't able to usually see exactly what part we are stimulating in the vagina. Some of us, through practice, through experience, might be able to know the difference between, for example, our G-zone, which is this here and our, think it's the A-zone, which is a little deeper, closer to the cervix. Some of us really like our cervix stimulated, which is a little farther back. These nuances with not only being able to tell in our own bodies, but also with a partner's, only come with more practice and experience and curiosity and exploration. It's almost just like a not trial and error, but like an experimentation. Like, let me try to only stimulate the G-zone and see what feels good with that and see what my orgasm feels like with that. And then maybe, the next, whether the same time or the next day or whatever, see what it feels like with a clitoral orgasm. Also, there are potentially-- Again, 'cause not everybody is gonna experience orgasm from every single one of these parts, but some people will report, it's typically found that the first couple inches of the vaginal canal, are the most sensitive. In terms of, they have the most nerve endings there, so some people might experience orgasm just from penetration without any G-zone stimulation or clitoral stimulation or cervical stimulation or anything like that. Maya, does that kind of answer your question? We're gonna get back to squirting, we're gonna talk about that. Feel like there was something else I was gonna say and I forgot, so maybe we'll come back to it. Gabby said, with clitoral orgasm, I experience vaginal contractions, what might a G-spot orgasm look like? The same, Gabby, Gabbyy, that's exactly what I was gonna talk about next that I just lost my train of thought on. Again, I am going to talk about experiences generally, it's not gonna apply to every single person and every single body. It's going to be from what I have heard anecdotily, but again, you might be very different. Typically when I hear people describe their clitoral orgasm, I hear them describe it as more of a area specific orgasm, they feel it in their clitoris, it feels almost ticklish and like. I don't wanna say vibrating 'cause vibration is what, but almost like electricy, I hear people like. And they can kind of feel it around here. And yes, so Gabby, to kind of answer your question, with any orgasm, vaginal contractions are typically a response or a part of the physiological sexual response cycle. Yes, a G-spot orgasm might also include those vaginal contractions, but they may not include them in the same way. So, clitoral orgasm, a lot of times, like I said, kind of ticklish, more feeling like electric, more feeling concentrated in your genital region. One of the reasons why G-spot or G-zone stimulation is kind of tauten, is cause a lot of times, if folks do experience a G-zone orgasm, it can feel more intense, it can be experienced more throughout the entire body, and that's just kind of makes sense physiologically, right? So when we're talking about the clitoris, the clitoris is on the outside. Oh my God, I'm gonna make an analogy and it's gonna be, like, so science, nerdy but not even the kind of science that I'm good at. For example, I'm trying to remember, if you were to have, I feel like this is going back to a video game I used to play but I can't pinpoint on. All right, so you have this mountain, you're trying to blow up this mountain, if you put a bomb or like an explosion, like dynamite on the surface of the mountain and you make that explode, part of that area of the mountain is gonna come off. But you're gonna have to do that like several times before the whole mountain explodes, right? But if you dig, oh my God, this is like Armageddon! That's what it is, who's seen Armageddon? 'Cause in Armageddon right, they had to, it was like the moon, was it the moon or was it another planet? I don't remember, it's been a long time, but in Armageddon they had to drill, the reason why they had to, or no, it was an astroid! Duh, okay, here it is, the astroid. In the astroid, they didn't want to explode the dynamite on the surface of the astroid, 'cause only a little bit of the astroid would be destroyed. They wanted to get into the middle of the astroid and light the dynamite or whatever the explosive, there. Because it would essentially have more of an effect and like blow up the entire astroid. And that's kinda what happens here, right? If the orgasm is located here, you're gonna feel it on the surface, but maybe not throughout the entire body. But if you make that orgasm rooted more internally, it's going to kind of reverberate throughout the entire body, does that make sense? Again, this is totally generalization, may not happen for everybody, so. Maya said, since people begun to talk about G-spot sort of stimulating the internal parts of the clitoris, I thought that some people had begun to considerate it also clitoral. So yes, and you're gonna hear different people talk about it very differently, but I think there is, it can be a lot of the same nerve endings, but I think, and at least like, I'll talk for me and for folks that I've talked to, not every single one of them, that there is still a different sensation in what they feel. We could actually also talk about that with any body part, even though they're the same body part, right? If we're talking about prostate stimulation, we can stimulate the prostate, I'm gonna, real quick, where's my dick? Okay, so we can say, I don't really have a prostate, but we know that we can stimulate a prostate internally, going through the anus and be able to massage the prostate then, to increase orgasm for a lot of folks with prostates. We can also stimulate the prostate externally, by putting pressure and rubbing on the perineum or the taint, which is the area between the balls and the anus. We're still stimulating the same tissue, but those experiences can also feel very differently, and usually, typically at least, from what I've heard, more intense if you're stimulating internally than externally. Does that make sense, Maya? Erica, hi, you said you're super interested in this convo, since childhood I've always masturbated by humping blankets, which gives me really great, powerful orgasms, awesome! Similar to what you're describing is G-spot orgasms, when I discovered vibrators in my 20s, I found the orgasms to be much less intense, similar to how you're describing clitoral orgasms. So I get it, you just said it's not true for everyone, but I guess I agree with Maya, I feel skeptical. Fair, you guys are all on the right track. Erica, I would actually guess that you're, so I'm gonna guess, even by humping things and this obviously like depends on what's going on with your body, that you might still be experiencing kind of a clitoral orgasm, like based in your clitoris. But you're probably applying more pressure, so you probably are kind of stimulating, even though you're stimulating it externally, you're stimulating more of that entire clitoral bulb, than just the tip. Whereas like vibrators, you might just be stimulating this place here. I'll be honest, which is the way I like my clitoris stimulated, like pressure. I actually like a lot of stimulation right here, kinda where my urethra is, and that's still stimulating my clitoris. I can feel it in my clit, I know it's clitoral, but I like it to almost be more of the whole bulb. Where's my sticker? Than just the tip, does that make sense, okay. All right let's see, 9:40, okay, perfect. If you've never tried to stimulate a G-zone, I would definitely recommend trying fingers, trying a curved toy. I usually don't like to, if we're talking about like insertion, like penis in vagina, or even like dildo in vagina, some sort of insertion, intercourse, vaginal intercourse, whatever we wanna call it. Typically a lot of these positions are heteronormative as fuck, that's my disclaimer. I'm still gonna tell them to you, but a lot of the times they're super heteronormative. Usually, rear entry can be really helpful for G-spot stimulation, and I'm gonna, okay. I'm gonna try to, where's my, penis is too thick for this one. We're gonna use this as a penis, did I show this as a potential G-spot toy? See how it has the little curve? I'm gonna talk about that in a second, 'cause it also has a tickle. Okay, so if I am bent over, and if I am inserting here, I am likely to be applying some pressure to the G-zone here. A lot of times, if Sweet Caroline here were to tilt a little bit, so sometimes it's helpful if Sweet Caroline puts her legs kind of more up toward the ceiling, if Sweet Caroline's lying on her back. And then have insertion here, it's gonna have some direct stimulation to the G-zone, if that makes sense. Let's talk a little bit about squirting or female ejaculation, which are not exactly the same thing but sometimes happen around the same time. Which a lot of times are also associated with G-zone stimulation, but you can have any one of those things happen and not have any. Or not have any of those things happen, or not have all three happen at the same time, if that makes sense, okay. Typically folks that do squirt or folks that do have vulvas and ejaculate, a lot of times, again although, I literally just tried to move my mouse pad with this toy. It didn't work, just for the record. USually, although not always, that is assisted or helped by G-zone stimulation. The G-zone as we kind of talked about here with the anatomy, so we talked about this being the clitoris, and then the urethra and then the vagina and then the G-zone's kind of right there. The G-zone essentially squeezes the urethra and actually can also be, you can't really see it here, right up against the bladder. So sometimes, while the G-zone for some folks might feel really pleasurable to be stimulated, especially if we're talking about applying pressure. Sometimes it can either or also feel like you have to pee, because, again, a lot of those body parts are all co-mingled together, and really close to one another. What will often happen or what I have heard folks report, many times, is that they might have been engaged in sexy time, whether it was toys or fingers, or oral or hands or penetration, like dildo or whatever, and it felt good and then it felt like they had to pee. So then they stopped the sexy play and then they peed and then essentially had to start all over again. And sometimes, that can hinder us from experiencing a G-spot orgasm and potentially even experiencing squirting or female ejaculation. Usually what I would recommend for folks who are attempting to explore G-zone, squirting, ejaculation play, is to make sure your bladder is empty beforehand, so that you know if you experience that sensation, you can essentially ignore it and not acknowledge it as like you have to go to the bathroom, if that makes sense. 'Cause a lot of times, what I've also heard from folks who have either squirted or ejaculated or any of those things that, if you essentially ignore the feeling of having to pee and continuing on that stimulation, that is when ejaculation might occur, and/or a really intense G-zone orgasm. All right, let's check out questions. So why are we just saying clitoral as if just the external tip on top of the vulva, think how all orgasms clitoral since the G-spot is part of the clitoris. So Mecky, I think for some folks, I agree with you 'cause like, if it's all connected, we're saying the same thing. But I think for some folks, it's helpful to have a language that distinguishes those experiences for them. And maybe we just need to come up with different language, that isn't rooted in the body part, but is more rooted in the experience, so maybe saying I just had a more electric orgasm. Because to be fair, we can also have different types of orgasms within the vagina too, that are not related to the G-zone, if that makes sense. Gabby, that metal thing does not look like it would feel good at all, I have a silicone vibrator like yours, that's still super rigid, so more rocking than penetration for G-spot stimulation. Usually, Gabby, yes, usually more rocking than penetration for G-spot stimulation. Kinda if like, that feels good for your G-zone, then do that, that's kind of the point, if that makes sense. This isn't going to be for everyone, it obviously doesn't look as mainstream as a lot of what we have kind of been conditioned to think sex toys, what they look like. But, so I would try it 'cause it does, it's heavier and it's different, it's obviously like you're going to utilize this different than you are gonna utilize this. The reason I brought out this, and I forgot to mention it, is, a lot of times when we talk about, really good, or again, anecdotally, what I have heard from a lot of folks with vulvas, what can feel really good is kind of a G-spot, like the rocking or the rhythm or the pressure on the G-spot at the same time, while the clitoris is being stimulated, which is why you'll see a lot of these combination toys. Where they have a part that you insert, to kind of stimulate the vaginal canal or you'll see some that are even more curved, that are very G-spot specific and then you'll also have, you'll see them turn sometimes. Sometimes you will actually see them kind of rock back and forth. There's new ones that actually retract. And then you'll see something that usually is more vibratey, ticklish, to stimulate the clitoris. Or I should say the external clitoris, 'cause that's where we're going here, right? 'Cause if it's, maybe that's just what we start calling it, this is going to stimulate your internal clitoris, and this is gonna stimulate your external clitoris. So you're hitting them both at the same time. And usually for folks that want to experience what is typically reported as that more G-spot, G-zone orgasm, that feels more like whole body. That reverberates throughout, that is more intense. A lot of times, the combo of G-spot and internal clitoral, external clitoral stimulation, can be the most likely way to experience that type of orgasm, if that makes sense? Sunny Hot, what's the rule of G-spot in sex satisfaction? I think that's going to be different for everybody, so I don't really have a great one kind of answer for that. I think some folks are going to, again, we're all different, different ways. Like, right, so some folks, Sunday, are going to experience a lot of pleasure being lazy, taking a bath, maybe binge watching Narcos on Netflix, something like that. And other folks are gonna pleasure in being more active, and going for a run and maybe hitting up a movie, or things like that. Folks are just gonna find pleasure in different things. I said it at the beginning, but I think one of the reason why we're here giving you information, is to give you things to try and explore and be curious about and see if they work for you, and if they do, keep doing those things. And if they don't, don't spend too much time on those things, if that makes sense. All right, so we only have a few minutes left, so if there are any more questions, specifically to your G-spot or G-zone or maybe we're gonna start a revolution of calling it your internal clitoris, feel free to add them in the chat now. I know Maya has been really, really great at giving you all my information, although like I said, I'm not really gonna be on social media for a couple weeks. I swear I'll be back though, so follow me. But also like, obviously if you have learned anything from tonight's session, whether that is something new about the G-zone, something new about the vulva, something you might be able to incorporate into increasing your sexual pleasure, we invite you to tip to show your appreciation for the pleasure professionals as well as O.school. Maya, I never even introduced Maya, 'cause I just feel like Maya is like my sidekick and she's always here with me and I love that. And people know her 'cause she's the bomb. We definitely invite you, and encourage to tip to show your appreciation. Your tips are what keep O.school running as a free platform. And they help fund sex educators like me, and to keep O.school available for everybody else to enjoy and get more sexual pleasure and bring more joy, so, do it, do it, do it! Mecky, do we have another question? Gabby, so on the G-spot, that's a good question too Gabby! So some people really, again I'm gonna say usually, G-zones, G-spots, enjoy pressure, but some G-zones or G-spots might also enjoy vibration. Typically external clitorises like more of the vibration than the G-spots, but again that's gonna be every body is different. So you actually might find, this one doesn't have it, I think I have, excuse me. Maya is my sidekick! Let's see, I think this is a good example. Woo, woo, woo, so like, you might have toys like this, where it is a vibrator technically, and this part vibrates but it's also kind of curved so it can be used really easily in a G-spot. So what can happen is, even though it vibrates on the tip here, you can still rock it back and forth to provide some pressure to the G-zone, which is really nice. Again, that's gonna be different for everybody. Mecky said can the G-spot or internal clitoris be stimulated through PIV with no need for toys and if yes, so yes, Mecky, did you go get a snack? 'Cause I talked this, did you go get a snack? Mecky, I said two positions that are really good for G-spot or G-zone stimulation are, we talked about rear entry, 'cause the vulva's gonna look like this. The penis or dildo or whatever would be hitting it like this. Or if the vulva is kinda tipped, which will typically happen like if, Sweet Caroline has her legs sitting straight up like this, because then the penis will be able to get there.

All About G Spots

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Jul 19, 2018
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Thursday, July 19, 2018
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Do I have one? Where is it? Why can’t my partner find it? Am I supposed to squirt? This AMA on G-spots will help you discover your orgasm diversity and offer tips for exploring your G-spot with toys, fingers and partners.