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10 Tips for Hotter Handjobs

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Saturday, June 2, 2018

Stroke it to woke it! Handjobs can be heavenly for both the giver and receiver with fun techniques, sexy communication and lots of lube. Tune in for 10 tips to giving hotter handjobs!

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Alright, so, I'm gonna tell you, I'm gonna give you a little Luna spiel, what Luna likes, and then we're gonna go into, you know, why hand jobs. Like, why are we talking about hand jobs tonight, right? It seems really easy, you just go up and down and like stuff comes out. So, it's way more sophisticated than that and the thing with any type of sexual activity is that it's usually a continuum. So you can kind of have things at one end that are representing certain kinds of moods or flavors, and then you can have things on the other end that's a completely different mood or flavor. So the beauty is is that you have this bouquet of options that you get to choose from, depending on what you feel like doing. Or if you wanna spice things up, or if it's a new partner and you're like, hey, I never got to try this thing with my other partners, and so are you open to this? So I'm Luna Matatas. and I'm an educator based out of Toronto, Canada and I tend to teach things that are involved around like body positivity, kink, anything that sort of gets you kind of thinking creatively around sex. So how do you spice things up? How do you bring a new angle to things? How do you relate to new partners? I also really enjoy kind of giving you sex skills that can add to your repertoire of what's already sexy for you. So if you are already someone that likes kissing, I'm a huge kissing fanatic. Or if you are someone who loves touch, I'm a huge touch slut, I'm like a slutty cat. Or if you're someone who likes spanking or if you're someone who likes rough play or dominance or anything like that. Any of those things can be brought into new activities whether that new activity is a hand job, whether that new activity is penetration, or strap-on play or whatever it is helping us think beyond the types of information that we've been given that tell us that this is the kind of sex that you should be having, or this is what normal sex looks like. So I'm gonna talk about all kinds of hand job things tonight, I just slapped my dick on the table, and we'll cover everything from using lube, what types of lubes are great for hand jobs? How do you set a sexy scene for a hand job? Do you just kinda whip it out of their pants and like go to town? Maybe. And then we'll also talk about hand job helpers. So hand job helpers are things that could kind of add to the mood or increase the intensity or passion of the hand job that your giving. And then I'm gonna give you three tips for hand job techniques that you could try tonight that are a little bit different, that maybe use your hand job skills in a different way. So throughout the chat, please let me know if there are questions about hand jobs. If you're like, well it's boring as fuck, how do it make it more interesting? Or my partner just likes it like, I'm just like jerking, you know, him off. Some people like it to be jerked off. Like they take a hand job as a jerking off opportunity. That can be really fun because you can do that in discrete places, you can do that in semi-public, you can do that in the car. Those can be kind of like quickies, right? So you give a hand job quickie. A hand job inherently doesn't have to be a quick thing. I really like giving what I call cock massages. So I'll ask my partner, you know, can I give you a cock massage? And so for me that also gives me a bit more control over what type of motion and intensity that we're gonna do because a massage is never a race to finish, right? And giving someone a cock massage can also make them notice how much you enjoy doing what you're doing, right? Because there's a different between, you know, when someone touches you, and they're like, you know, maybe their squeezing your boobs or they're like doing something, and it's not like their feeling you. So there's a difference between sort of touch and like feeling someone. And so the same thing with hand jobs, there's like jerking off, and then there's also like massaging the cock. So we can talk about techniques to help you give cock massages, but I find that that's really sexy language and it also says that, you know, like, we often consider things like hand jobs or fingering as foreplay. And so for a lot of people, foreplay is understood as activities that are leading up to penetrative sex, or activities that are leading up to orgasm. Hand jobs can lead to orgasm the same as fingering can lead to orgasm. Hand jobs can lead to penetrative sex. Hand jobs don't ever need to lead to penetrative sex. It might be wonderful to surprise your sweetie by being like babe, I just want you to sit down and relax and I'm gonna give you a cock massage. And you know, maybe they're gonna cum just from that. Just by you saying that, that that's what we're gonna do tonight. But- Oh Leah, I'm glad that you liked that, I'm glad that you love cock massage. Yeah, I think it's very sexy and it kind of for me goes back to that idea of bringing in what is already sexy about you as the giver. And so for me as the giver, like I said, I love touch, and so for me to give someone touch that feels good for me and it also feels good for them is just sort of intensifying that kind of like circuitous exchange of pleasure so they're getting as I'm giving and then I'm getting as I'm giving, too. So it helps us kinda plug into sex in multiple ways. A lot of the sex information that we all received when we were in school, I mean, I went to Catholic school so it was focused on how to get pregnant. But a lot of us received kind of information that was very genital focused and very orgasm focused and very much about performative things that we've learned from porn. And so porn isn't bad. If you're at home raise your hand if you've ever seen porn. I'm gonna put my hand down. No, I'm just kidding, I've seen porn. But porn does teach us to be more performative about sex because it's a form of entertainment. And so when we're alone with our partners there's other things that kind of bring to the mood. Performance is one thing, you may be really into the aesthetics of getting a hand job, so you might even want to give it on your knees. you might want your partner standing over you. You might want to give it to them on their back and see them kind of like all laid out and spread out for you. You may want to tie them up and tease them with a hand job. And so that, that can be a part of it but what we get in real life sex, in real life sex, is the opportunity for chemistry and connection. So I'm gonna talk about talk about also how to use your senses and increasing sensuality for hand jobs. Okay, so, I'm gonna ... We're gonna do some penis anatomy and then I'm going to ... Alright, so actually before I do penis anatomy, I'm gonna give you your first, oh I don't know, I don't know, should I do it now? Should I do the, one of the prizes. No, no, okay, no maybe I should, alright so. I got excited. Alright, I'm gonna give you the first question that would help you win one of these little, these little packs here that I'm giving away. So in the packet, there's a packet of Uber Lube, there's also a Tenga Egg, so these are masturbation sleeves which I'm gonna explain a little bit later. And there's a clitoris sticker for you. So what you're gonna do is you're gonna answer the question that I'm gonna pose to you, it's gonna be a trivia question. You can use Google. And the first person who types in the right answer into the chat is going to win the prize. Now, after whoever wins the prize, you need to email me and so Justin will drop all of my links at the end of the chat and then I will send you out your fabulous little prize pack. So tonight there are three times that you could possibly win, so we're gonna do one now and then I'm gonna go into some penis anatomy. Sound good? Alright. So your first chance to win a prize tonight. So we know that dicks and penises and phallic imagery is like freakin' everywhere. But the actual English word for penis is pretty new. And the clinical word for penis, like it actually means tail in Latin and so it wasn't adopted into the English language until the 17th century, right? So that's pretty recent for something that we celebrate so vibrantly. So tell me what penis was referred to before then, right? So we're saying the English word for penis is still pretty new, wasn't adopted into the English language until the 17th century. Prior to that a penis was referred to as- And so there are two possible answers, I will take one or the other as the first person to kill this. So go. Okay, while you're doing that, I'm gonna talk about penis anatomy. So good luck. So, we're gonna, this is my beautiful pink dick. It also has a suction, I might suction it here so that we can kind of like get a sense of things. So this is an erect penis, this is also about seven inches. The average size of a penis is only about five to seven inches and so we know there's a lot of penis dysphoria around people thinking they're too small, or people overestimating how big they are. And we have this obsession with size. For a hand job, size doesn't actually matter. You can stroke a three inch penis, you can stroke a 12 inch penis, you may just need two hands to do a 12 incher. But when we think about a penis, we wanna kind of have an understanding of like what are all of the different pieces that we could potentially stimulate? So the head of the penis actually has 4000 nerve endings whereas the clitoris has 8000 nerve endings. Winning. But our friend the penis here also has different areas that you could potentially stimulate. So those different areas are at different points of the penis as well, so if this is the point of the penis that's attached to the body, the actual erectile tissues, so there's two columns of erectile tissue within a penis that swell during arousal. Mehki, you're right. Like, how did you find that? That's pretty good, that was in an obscure one. It was a yard or a pizzle. Yeah! You know what, Lou, I'm gonna send you some lube because you were pretty close too, you were right in there. So Mehki and Yard, you're gonna wanna email me after the stream, and I'm putting in my email address for you, email me at the end of the stream and I will mail that out to you with your address. Yeah, I know, Lou and Mehki, you're like pals. Alright, so the two columns of erectile tissue are what like get filled up during arousal, and so that's what increases the potential for erection. What's interesting is that most people think that the erectile tissue ends here, but the erectile tissue actually continues into the body. So the penis is actually more of like a boomerang shape into the body and so the extra erectile tissue that's in the body can also be stimulate through the body, so think perineum, think about how some people with penises get a lot of pleasure from their pelvic area receiving like pounding or connection or friction. So while there's also the prostate that we can talk about, and there's some great streams on O.school about prostate play, think about the fact that the penis doesn't sort of end at the balls, that it actually does go a little bit deeper into the body. Oh you all are so sweet, you're congratulating each other. Okay, there's two more chances to win, I've got two more prizes. Castaway, you're so sweet, welcome. So there's gonna be, I'm gonna do another one in about maybe 20 minutes and then one right at the end of the stream so I've still got glitter dick earrings and I've got another Tenga pack. Mehki's got the first Tenga pack, Lou I'm sending you lube just because Lou and lube sounds great. Alright, we've got the understanding of the erectile tissue. Then you've got the head or the glans of the penis, most of us call it the head. The head of the penis is the most sensitive area or contains the most sensitive area. So this little rim around the penis, that's super, super sensitive and contains a lot of nerve ending. It doesn't actually make a difference in terms of our penis anatomy when we're talking about these parts that could be covered by foreskin on someone who's uncircumcised. I will show you my penis with foreskin as well. But this frenulum area here, so it's a little bit hard to see, there you go. So, oh it looks like I have a giant dick on my face. So this frenulum area here, which is sort of a little bit of a V, it's sort of like the seam that goes up the penis and then opens into this little V The seam in utero used to be what would become labia in people who were developing with vulvas. So this area also is sensitive for some people with penises. This area is pretty much across the board known as like one of the most erogenous spots on a penis. And then you've got the pee hole or the urethral opening. For some people there's also great sensation there as well with a tongue inside of it or even just around it. The shaft of the penis that has those two columns of erectile tissue connects to the ball or testicles. So testicles are where we have semen production and testicles for some people are super sensitive. Some people don't like them touched, some people love them touched or squeezed or kind of like tugged. So I will give you tips on how to stimulate and bring in all of these different parts of the penis. You know, we're kind of just always thinking about the shaft but there's so much more potential and especially if we learn to manipulate with pressure and speed and with direction, you can be a hand job like, what would be the best hand, like a hand job hero, should we call it a hand job hero? I kinda like that. You're all gonna be hand job heroes by the end of the stream. Labia majora is your favorite constellation. Of course it is, Castaway, it's beautiful. Alright, so just a reminder, if you've got any questions, you've got hand job things you've heard about or hand job barriers, you're like it's boring as fuck, how do I get like my partner not to cum in three seconds. Whatever it is, drop it in the chat and I will answer it sort of in between us kinda talking about these 10 things that are gonna make your hand jobs hotter. So we haven't even gotten to the first thing yet. We're still kind of talking about, you know, the penis anatomy, we're talking about the different parts of the penis that could be a potential to give pleasure to. Then we've got some of you may have experienced or may have a penis that has foreskin on it. Foreskin for penises that are circumcised is no longer there, right? So this would be a circumcised penis, this would be an uncircumcised penis. There's lots of debate around circumcision, there's lots of debates around hygiene, and there's lots of debates around pleasure. Some people with foreskins do find that they do have increased sensitivity depending on how their cut was done. So some people may find increased sensitivity around the frenulum, some people find that they have increased sensitivity for their foreskin, other people really like to bring in foreskin as part of their play, so they may like to be masturbated with foreskin. We're gonna put some lube on this baby so that I can like move them around. Okay. Handjob heroes, here I come. Alright, we're gonna get this, we're gonna give this a chance to like go all the way down. Handjob harlot, hand job magician, ah! These are great, keep it coming, I love these. Handjob harlot, that's awesome. I love the magician too. See, I was gonna think of magician for my pussy eating stream because I thought, you know, we'd go with like Vagician. Right, like vag, vagician. Okay. So if you have- oh, I should have put a tissue next to me. So if you have foreskin, there may be additional things that you can do with hand jobs that maybe an uncircumcised penis can't do, and vice versa. So whatever you're working with, it's possible. There is a lot of like stigma around foreskin. Lots of people feel like aesthetically, you know, that's not what it is. It's sort of the same debate around any type of body part, that there's only one type of way to be sexy and to feel and look sexy and so we know that's not true. And so what we need to kinda do is just learn to work with what someone has, right? So if they have a foreskin, let's talk to them about how they like to use it. The great thing about penises is that most people with penises have jerked off. There are lots of people with vulvas that haven't masturbated or haven't come to orgasm through masturbation. So with penises, one of the big things that we can do is ask the penis owner, you know, how do you masturbate? So one of my tips is gonna be around language for how do you ask someone or invite someone to tell you about how they touch themselves. Sound good? Sound hot, right? Like learning how someone masturbates is pretty sexy. My pussy eating stream is on Monday. Monday I'm doing Eat Pussy Like a Champ. Thanks for asking, Cinderella, or Cinder, Cinderhella. That's so clever, I love that. Okay, let me go to our first, our first tip, I'm gonna like bring you into the first tip because I think that it kind of, all of these tips have a preface of you know, when you're getting started with a hand job, even though you're focused on the penis, one of the things that you might like to do is actually bring tease. So one of the things I love to do is if my partner with a penis is lying on their back or their stomach or whatever position we have them in, I like to kiss the rest of their body once we've decided, once I've said, hey, you know ... Once I've said hey, I'd love to give you a cock massage. And they're like, oh my God, I'd love that. Then I start kissing them down their body, and touching them and dragging my body all over their body. And that sort of creates that anticipation, that tease, that seduction. And then you can also kind of, kind of play with like, you don't know when I'm gonna make it there. And it also gives them a chance to take in you. Like to take in how sexy and excited and turned on you are to be giving them this hand job. A lot of times when we think of a specific activity only as foreplay they become kind of rooted in the motion of the thing that we're doing. So we know the go to moves. We know like four strokes this way, and five strokes that way, and then boom. And so with, when we take our time and we don't have necessarily a goal other than to give our partner pleasure, we get an opportunity to have longer sessions. We get an opportunity to have more intimate sessions whether that person's your long term partner or whether it's you know a hook up from Tinder. We also get an opportunity to feel our own sexy. So I used to give hand jobs and then kinda think that like, you know, I'm just kind of like the machine. I'm like a vending machine for like dick pleasure and I wasn't getting a ton of pleasure our of giving it, I was just like, oh, okay, like it's your turn. And then I started to really kind of take in some of the things that I feel are really sexy about myself and that kinda helped me with my sexual and my body confidence. So I like being an exhibitionist. I like if I'm giving you a hand job, and you're sitting and watching me. Or we're making eye contact or you're telling me like how good I look while I'm touching your dick. Or I notice I like my hands, I'm like, I did my nails for you all. And so I'll notice different types of things or I'll move my body in a way that feels really good for me, so you're kind of stimulating your own sexual energy. Maybe you're taking kind of breaks in between the hand job and you're like letting go and then maybe you're touching yourself, maybe you're touching yourself at the same time. So setting up sort of that seduction and that tease can make your experience just all the more erotic. Lou says, question, is the frenulum only the V or is it also that sort of line that travels down the shaft. So no, the line that travels down the shaft, in utero because we were all female first, that line later becomes labia in people who end up with vulvas. So it can have a lot of sensitivity as well. And for some people that's a sign that that line and that vein underneath is a real sign of arousal and so it can throb or we can notice it getting bigger. Some penises also aren't as like veiny or distinct looking as this, so you may see like a smoother penis and those, that line or the frenulum, isn't as obvious as it is on like my big pink dick. Mehki says, and also the skin to skin contact builds more and more intimacy, yeah, absolutely. Like that kind of intimacy, sometimes people are afraid of feeling intimate even when their doing more casual things but the reality is for of people, it's an opportunity to consume that intimacy. So maybe that's just how you have sex, whether it's relationship oriented or whether it's more hookup oriented. So that's great, Mehki. Castaway says, I see that point about how familiar with a partner that foreplay can become more of a stationed intercourse rather than a destination in and of itself. Yeah, like, I love taking breaks during like marathon sex and just like massaging a dick, because the dick doesn't have to be hard. You don't have to have a hard dick to have a strap-on. Or, have a strap-on, that was my other class. To give a hand job. So with soft dicks, you actually can do this sort of like even post-erection, if that dick likes being touched. You can do it on your way to like another erection or this is maybe where it starts off. Like maybe you get to just kind of like do different things with a soft dick that you can't do with a hard dick. So with soft dicks, you can actually pull a lot more, you can have a lot more pressure. Some soft dicks even kind of like nails or sort of knuckles sort of kneading them, whereas that might be more painful on a blood engorged penis. So think about, don't ignore the soft dick. The soft dick has needs too and has lots of potential for fun as well. Cinderhella says, you are really- Ah, thank you, Cinderhella, that's a lovely compliment. I love teaching this stuff, I'm so glad that you're all here and you're engaged and you're exited and for those of you who aren't chatting, maybe you're just lurking, that's okay. I feel your vibes, come and chat with me next time. Justin, thank you for reminding everyone, so if you like what's going on, at O.school we work for tips so feel free to use that tip jar and gift me whatever your feeling generous about tonight, if you're liking what's happening. And then we're gonna give away another prize in about five minutes, I've got more trivia for you. Alright, so I'm gonna give you the first ... You've gotten lots of tips, but I have 10 specific tips I'm gonna give you. So my very first tip- I keep knocking over the pink dick. I'm gonna like, I don't wanna stick it to the table because I feel I can't get it off after. I've actually stuck this to my wall and it took off the paint and the wall. So don't do that with these dicks. Alright, so with lube, I would recommend using a lube like Uber lube, so that's what Lou is getting and what Mehki is getting and what someone else might be getting. Use a silicone based lube if you're planning on give something like a cock massage. If you only have water-based lube available that's okay too. You can, water based lube tends to be absorbed into the body a little bit faster than silicone lube, and silicone lube is quite silky. Like you see, I put this on like 15 minutes ago and my hand is still pretty like, pretty shiny, right? So silicone lube gives you like a silkier feel so things are going to feel a lot more easy when you're moving them up and down so there's less friction. Whether it's silicone lube or whether it's water-based lube, lube in general is gonna give you a better texture to be able to use your hands on a penis. Lube also sort of extends the sensitivity of a penis. So some penises may be really sensitive to having straight up like dry hands on them, right? So you wanna use lube to be able to create pleasure for the receiver but also to give you a better palette to be able to do all these fancy things that I'm gonna teach you how to do. Lube, particularly for penises with foreskin, can feel really, really good. So what I like to do, when the foreskin is retractable enough, when it's like, when you're able to kind of move it down, whether it's on a soft cock or a hard cock, is that I'll pull it down a little bit, and you saw me sort of like add some lube to it, right? So now the lube is on the tip of the penis and so while you're holding the foreskin down, you can also kind of like take it and make a whole big show out of how you're putting lube all over everything, right? And meanwhile you've got the foreskin that's gonna be absorbing a lot of this. So this, on a demo cock, the foreskin isn't retracting all the way down, but on a live cock, it would retract all the way down. Alright ... Castaway says, Luna with the Peg the pager, I know, I'm sorry, I can't help it. I'm just like peggin' everything everywhere. Lou says, is silicone okay for condoms. Yes, silicone's totally fine for condoms. It's not so great for silicone toys. So for example, this one is a silicone toy so if I was gonna put lube on this I would put a condom on it. You can use oil if you want, but make sure that you're using oils and lubes that are not flavored, particularly if the penis is going to be put in a vagina afterwards. The vaginal ecosystem is sensitive to glycerine and sugars and if you're prone to yeast infections and you're giving a hand job to a dick with flavored lube, that could increase your chances of yeast infections. There are some flavored lubes that don't have that. Wicked is one brand of flavored lubes that is pretty safe for most bodies with vaginas. Okay, so lubes, so we got lube, right? Lube's another good thing, okay. So, one of the great things about lube too is that you can take lube, especially a silicone lube, and so if you're taking a break from rubbing something, you can kind of massage it in your hands and then push it up their body, drag it down their thighs, open their legs, touch their perineum. You know, maybe touch their balls or if they're into their anus being touched. So lube kind of like helps you have slippery, velvety massage ready hands for the rest of the body as well. How are we feeling about lube? Are we all sold on lube? Alright, I'm gonna move this dick out of the way because are you ready for more trivia? Because I'm going to give you more trivia. Mehki says that I think it's be great also if the hand job receiver, person with a dick, gives some affection or touch in return like touching their partner's body, kiss in the middle of the hand job so they're not just laying on their back doing nothing. Yeah, I think that's totally great advice, Mehki. Like to be able to connect with your partner and we'll talk about how the hand job receiver can also give feedback. So can also say like, babe, that feels amazing, can you keep doing that motion, can you keep that consistency, can you go a little bit harder or can you squeeze my balls. People often think that giving direction to their partners means that you're telling them that they're doing something wrong. I think it means that you're telling them that they're doing something right and here's more information to do it even better. So the idea that giving feedback is gonna upset our partner, it can if you are like, what the fuck are you doing? But if you're like, babe, like, your wrist feels so good on my dick, can you like touch my balls with your other hand or can you touch yourself while you touch me? Like that's, that's something that's super, super attractive and super helpful in being a more responsive partner. Rachel says, like well yeah, lots of people love Sliquid. Yeah, lots of people love Sliquid. Sliquid also has hybrid lubes available, organic lubes. Sliquid's an amazing brand of lube to be able to use for things like hand jobs or any other types of like hand sex, so fingering as well. Leah says, what's the best practice for moving from a hand job to oral with silicone lube. So silicone lube is fine to ingest but if you don't like the taste of it what I like to do is kind of like, you now, you'll give the hand job and then you can either like kind of like be like, okay babe, I'm gonna get you ready to like go down on you. And then if you need to wipe it off like my butt basket usually has a towel in it. So you can kind of wipe it off. You can kind of just take it away. Or you give, keep giving the hand job until there really isn't a ton of lube left. That's why some people do enjoy flavored lubes. I don't think I have- Oh, I do, I brought it, yay, okay. So Wicked is aqua, this one's pink lemonade. So you could use a flavored lube if you're planning on going from a hand job to oral, but that's a great question. Yeah, Rachel, totally, some people hate it. I don't mind it at all, it doesn't, it doesn't taste like anything to me. Some people don't like the texture of water based lubes. I don't like them, I find them very tacky. But some people are totally fine with them. So lots of places will have, if you go into a Feminist Sex Positive shop or a sex shop in your area, you might be able to get little packets of lube so you can kind of sample what might be good for you. If you only have like pharmacies or things like that in your area and that's where you get your lube, they typically tend to carry things like AstroGlide or other kinds of lubes which are, you know, they're fine if that's all that's what's available to you. But check online for some of the sex shops like Good Vibrations or if you're in Canada, the Come As You Are or Good For Her, there's lots of places where you can check online to try out different types of lube. It might just be like, hey, you need experiment with a couple to see what's best for you. Alright, so you like to use flavor water based. Okay, good to know. Yeah, SUTILs, I've heard a lot of people really like, like that lube as well, I'm so-so on it because I don't really like water-based, but if you're down with that you can also use any of the hybrid ones that feel really good. Okay, another great one, another great tip. So your first tip was use lube. Oh, I was gonna give you your next prize. Okay, oh, this is a good one, okay. I actually, I actually already said this one. So, how many nerve endings does the tip of the penis have. Go. Alright, another way to get a hotter hand job is to try different positions for the giver or the receiver. So you may want to have someone lying on their backs sort of spread out like Mehki said, and like kissing and touching, and you're doing the same thing. You might wanna have someone standing up and then you're kneeling or you're sitting on a chair, that gives your back actually of good support for you to kind of like reach up like this or reach down like this. You could also have someone on all fours and you're sort of reaching between their legs and pulling on their penis or their balls and maybe your other hand is doing things to their anus or your reaching around to like touch their chest or anything like that. You can also have someone standing up against a wall and you could be standing up pressed against them and kissing their body or kissing their chest or kissing their mouth, and then your hand is sort of lower and you're stroking from kind of a lower position. So think about the different positions and what they may offer you. Sometimes they offer you better support. Sometimes they offer you better aesthetics. Sometimes they offer you just short of like spicing it up, like, oh like I always roll over and then that's how you give me a hand job. I really like giving hand jobs almost like in a position where you would be scissoring someone because I like kissing so I'd love to have someone sort of laying on his side and I would lay on my side and we're sort of wrapped up and there's as much skin touching as possible and maybe we're kissing or I'm touching their nipples or their neck and then my hand is doing things in between us. So that can also feel really, really sexy. Even if you're sitting on the couch and if you're sitting next to someone and you're kind of like able to sort of like, your body is sort of intertwined and maybe you start by rubbing them through their pants. And you're like babe, I wanna give you a really sexy cock massage tonight, like what do you think about that. So think about how the different areas that you could give a hand job or the different positions or locations can add to your sexy scene that you're trying to create. Yes, Rachel, of course, you got it. That's not fair, Rachel, you work in a sex shop. Alright. Okay. Stephanie, 8000, 8000's the clitoris. The clitoris has 8000. Lou, Lou says they think the clit is 8000 and penis is half of that, yeah, you're right, Lou. Okay, so Rachel won that round and there's one more round to come up where, so if you've won previously in this stream, so Mehki, Rachel, you can't compete for the next ones. The next one is gonna be for the glitter dick earrings and I'm gonna do that at the end of the stream. Okay, so the third one and so we've got use lube, we've got try different positions, the third one, is really thinking about using different parts of your hand or your body, so a lot of time with penises Rachael, you know what I feel you, I feel you, I go for the glory as well, I think you deserve it so its alright. okay so with our dicks, I'm gonna like move this down a little bit okay so with our dicks sometimes we're often just thinking about like using our hands or like what can we do with our hands but you have like other things available to you so think about like using your knuckles like what would that feel, if you've got like a soft penis, I'm gonna balance the soft one up here you know what would it feel to kind of like massage the soft penis if you've got, you know some people their hands get tired by going like this, or their wrist, or you know they've got carpal tunnel or they don't have strong wrists you can also use your wrist to go up and down all of this is better with lube right? So you can use your wrist to go up and down you can use kind of like the inside of your forearms even you can use the backs of your hands, so think about all of this looks really cool right? So it even kind of just changes up what's happening sometimes when you're giving a hand job to someone they're gonna be like "yeah just do that other thing" and you know that, while feedback is good, often you may be doing something in a way because this feels feels really good for you too. So its okay to be like, I dropped my dick, its okay to be like "oh yeah, I will get there, you will get this thing" and then give them a taste of it and like go back, cause it can help the penis get accustom to a different way of cumming. And so a lot of times like if we have penises or if we have clitorises we're used to a particular kind of stimulation when we're masturbating or we're jerking ourselves off. So if I have a penis and I'm used to like doing this all the time, then of course like this is not gonna like do anything for you, but we know that our sexuality and our sexual arousal and our attractions ad our chemistry, is not just in our genitals, we know that it comes from up here, the biggest dick is between our ears so having a, kind of like a- changing that erotic distribution of sensual energy from just like the way I do it, to like wow that does kind of feel good or yeah I really like that can kinda build some creativity between the two of you right, I mean you get to kind of co-create this whole new hand job experience and maybe you'll discover something that feels really good that you weren't able to do to yourself. So you can also use other parts of your face and so even though this is a hand job, lets say you have a beard, you can use your beard you can use your chin, you can use like your cheek you know some people find it really sexy to see like their penis on their partners face you could use your breast, you could use your chest and anything that's kind of like changing up the stimulation, but your still kind of keeping the attention on the penis. Alright aw thanks Rachael, yeah, yeah, I think, I think that's super important I've heard that from people living with disabilities and also from seniors, so people who are older or dealing with mobility issues they're arms are getting tired quicker, their hands are getting tired or they don't have the sort of wrist action to continue to jerk off someone in that way Leah's like "writes faster in notepad" yeah, yeah go for it Leah okay so we've got ten minutes left and I have like seven more tips for you okay well actually we talked about this one a little bit so using sensuality by engaging your other senses so use eye contact, like you know your stroking and then your like "hey" use dirty talk like " oh my god your dick feels so good "between my hands", "your balls look amazing" or " I can't wait to fuck you" whatever it is one thing I really like to do, this is my pro tip for you I'm very turned on by scent and I find that scent is also something that makes people feel vulnerable because , we're all worried that we stink, right? We're all worried that we taste bad and and we smell bad. So if you're giving someone a hand job and then you know the piece of, that spot between your thigh and the crotch, so that kind of, that joint, that fold that area holds a lot of sweat, holds a lot of juices, its very close to the pubic area, so its very close to all of the pheromones that are available in that area if you put your face in between that area, while you're holding the dick, and you just like "you smell so good" like having your face so close to the penis, taking in their scent spreading their legs, you know maybe touching their thighs or kissing or biting, whatever that kind of stimulation they're into, sometimes people see sensuality as romantic, and sensuality actually in my understanding and the way that I practice in sex education and in my own experience is about opening up our sense to become potential portals of pleasure, so the idea that you might be really orally stimulated, like listening, like dirty talk does it for you, or maybe you're a big voyeur, and so like the aesthetics of sex, like seeing my hands on your dick is really gonna do it for you, that's all part of increasing the arousal, the intimacy, and the eroticism, from something as simple as a hand job. Alright I'm gonna give you a couple more alright so we talked about asking for feedback, inviting feedback, you can totally use dirty talk to do that so I talked about this technic called touch me to teach you or teach me to touch you, so teach me to touch you is kinda like a show and tell, so its either you get your partner to stroke themselves and you say like, you watch, like are they going fast? Are they using this side? I had a partner, his dick was so big that like he was using two hands to masturbate, I was fascinated , it was like, so then I was like "oh" so when I gave a hand job, I also used two hands to masturbate, and teach me to touch you is a great way to kind of like connect with people, to get more information about how they pleasure themselves, and then you can kinda co-create and experience with what they already enjoy, and what new things you've learned tonight. You can also do teach me to touch you by having their hand stroking and then you put your hand on top of it, so there's an intimacy in kind of stroking their penis together , that can be super, super sexy alright, I'm missing your chat here aw you're so welcome Lou, take care! Don't forget to email me Mehki says the pee hole is sensitive as well so getting it part of the stimulation or teasing would be great. For some people it is, for some people its too sensitive, so its good to ask, be like "oh id love to like touch your "pee hole like is that okay for you?" for some people they find it like a weird kind of like sensitivity you know like where like you know how some people are like freaked out like of you touch their ears or their feet or something like that? Like its almost like too good so that's a good tip Mehki alright, I'm glad you all are connecting, this is amazing. Justin thank you so much for dropping my Etsy shop, I'm gonna show you some of the fun things that I'm making at the end of the stream when I give away our last prize. And I also teach pleasure coaching via Skype, so if you want more time with me, you wanna book a private session for singles or couples, email me and we can chat about when we can set up a time to do that. Slipping in, quality humble brag there, I don't know which one okay oh here okay this, so we've got use lube, try different positions, use other parts of your body, use sensuality, ask for feedback, number six is varying the speed and strength and direction. So think about all the different ways you can kind of get creative with like you know maybe you start with your hand a bit loser at the end and maybe it tightens as you move up or vice versa. Right, so think about the different types of pressure that you can do on a penis, likewise with a penis that has foreskin, you may wanna hold the foreskin back and, this ones not as lubed up as it should be really tough foreskin here, so you're holding the foreskin back, and maybe you're giving different types of stimulation, just to the head, so maybe you're just cock massaging the head. Changing up, even the direction that you're stimulating the penis, so if you have a penis and you're lying this sort of against their body even moving your hand up and sort of pressing it into their stomach can feel really cool. If you're used to jerking this way, maybe jerking them this way, pull it down, jerk it this way, try to the left, the right, see whatever gets a rise out of it and ask for feedback, like as binary questions, you know fast or slow? Or hard or softer? Or up or down? Whatever you think is gonna be the easiest, for someone to reply to in a moment of ecstasy. Thank you Justin for also reminding people, we work for tips on O.school, so if you like what you saw tonight, if you liked the information that I'm giving to you, please be generous and use the tip jar. Alright I have a couple more things for you, number seven, find your sexy in it. So we talked a little bit about that, are you sitting and giving a hand job topless? Are you giving a hand job while you're touching yourself too? That can totally intensify the pleasure for the giver, but also the pleasure for the receiver, to really trust that you're having a great time doing what you're doing. Engage some of the other spots in the region. So you may want to engage the balls, you may want to touch the perineum, so the perineum is that are between genitals and between the asshole so all bodys have a perineum that are can be super sensitive to even sort of stroking so if you're stroking this way, or even just pressing your knuckles and some people will really like the pressure of fingers against the perineum while they're also stroking if your partners into anal play, if they're open to having their anus touched, you may want to ask them about if you can touch it while you stimulate their penis. Then also think about number nine is engage in other under service hot spots, so rubbing your hand up and down their waste, scratching their thighs, biting their tummy, you know giving nibbles to their crotch, those are all things that can also make people feel really sexy and really turned on during hand jobs and then my last tip for you, I'm gonna give it to you after I give away the last prize, so my my last tip for you is going to be three technics that you can try tonight, and I'm gonna show them actually on the uncircumcised penis, but they will apply the same way to a circumcised penis so one of the tips I really like is, we're gonna add more lube to this baby here so one of the tips that I really like is this idea of you know you can do this on any erection stage of a penis, so you're holding the foreskin down if there's a foreskin, and then you're just using your fingers and you're sort of like pushing out, so you know those head massager things, those head scratchers, you're not using your nails on the head of the penis, cause it is one of the most sensitive parts of the penis, unless your partner likes nails, but you're pushing down and you're just sort of like running over the edge of the penis, so it kinda looks like you're bouncing the squid, this ones bouncing the squid. So you can also do it on this toy, so we're like double bouncing the squids right the bouncing the squid also kind of like helps you give a lot of tease when you're bringing your fingers up, you're kind of grabbing that little lip, right? The lip where there's a ton of nerve endings and a ton of stimulation possibility, another tip is the twist and stroke so I'm gonna show it on this one. Damn now my hand is all like oily, okay so on this one, you're taking the you're doing sort of a twist as you're going down you're starting at the top, so you're starting at the head and you're twisting and then just stroking down, so you're twisting and stroking down, so you're not twisting like this, you're not trying to rip the penis off, but that's why lube really helps, cause the twist is sort of like this and so there's pressure, so you can do pressure this way, or you can do kind of like slower this way, and maybe pressure relieves itself as it hits the bottom, or can increase itself, you can kinda go tighter with it right? And then your last one, okay I just gave this one the name cuddle clamp so you kinda look like you're clamping onto the penis, and then you're moving up and down, so you're just going up to, you can go over the lip as well, or you can kinda stay at the lip but the idea of that you're doing this and maybe you're like "yeah so like this feels amazing for me, do you "want this harder or softer?" or like maybe you're like giving kisses to the tip of the head, or maybe you're switching it up and you're using kind of like your knuckles or something like that. This is where cock sleeves can also come in handy, so this is what Mehki and Rachael are getting the cock sleeves are these pieces that, their pieces of silicone that go over a dick so you put lube on the inside and you put it over a penis, and some of them are ribbed in different ways, they're ribbed in like little dots or little different types of things but you're using it to kinda give a different kind OF stimulation to a penis, and so its just sort of like an aid its something that can kind of add to different stimulations. If you have something like a vibrator, you can also take a vibrator and use it on the underside of the penis, some penis owners really like it on their balls or their perineum, that can totally add to things you need like eight arms to do all the things that I'm telling you. but these are just ideas for you, they're totally ideas for you to be able to kind of like spice up your hand jobs if you're shy about trying something new with your partner sometimes I blindfold my partners, cause I'm like okay I gotta figure this out and I might have a dumb look on my face as I'm remembering what Luna told me to say. so you can always try and make things into an erotic scene that give you all the things that you need to feel more comfortable in trying something new. And you can't really fuck it up, you're not gonna break a dick, you're not gonna disappoint someone, you're just trying to add in different ways of extending the pleasure that comes before orgasm. Thank you, thank you for the tip O.schoolers, thank you so much. I am going to give away the glitter dick now. So the glitter dick, okay heres your question for the glitter dick, so are you ready? So its the first person who gets the answer right I feel like I have silicone all over my face now. Okay okay, what cereal mogul thought that creating bland food would stop people from masturbating? So what cereal mogul thought that creating bland food would stop people from masturbating? So he was totally like anti-masturbation so whoever gets that one, you're getting the glitter dick studs and there's some lube in there for you as well and an O.school clit sticker, alright so I've taken us right to eight o'clock I'm just gonna do a quick recap for you, if that's okay Justin. Oh god, I gotta get the foreskin back up guys, I gotta get the foreskin back up, my hands are too slippery, we have an emergency. okay, alright okay I'll deal with that later castaway says your collogue Mona darling told me she stopped by your recent pegging stream and gave it a rave review, and then said I'll have to look out for your next one. All that's awesome castaway, Mona is hands down one of my favorite people, she's kinks as fuck, gorgeous, brilliant love her, always try to tune into her streams too sometimes I'm just lurking you like cuddle clamp, yup I'm big on alliteration, I'm really into it, octopus pleasure provider, yes I'm very turned on by octopi . You thought about blindfolding too Leah? Yeah it can be a really good way , when yore trying out a new technic, sometimes when I'm experimenting with anal play, I'll ask my partner if its okay to blindfold them because I get kind of like, I feel nervous or I feel like I'm like having to go at a pace that's a little bit different than what's naturally available to me, so kind of like not having them watch me and then other times like I totally wanna position both of us in the mirror, so that we can watch each other and watch ourselves. silvester- Kellog, Leah you got it! Yeah Kellog! So Kellog , Cornflakes right, fucking Cornflakes, Kellog actually developed Cornflakes specifically to curb masturbation in America, it did not work, there's no science or correlation between eating bland foods and stopping masturbation, why would you wanna stop it anyways, its pretty fucking amazing. So I'm just gonna go through our last few, our recap for tonight, so tonight we had a great chat about, oh Leah so you got, don't forget to email me, you won! Congratulations. Congratulations to Leah, Mehki, and Rachael for winning tonight and Lou for getting some lube, I know Lou left, oh no Lou's still here I think, but we talked a lot about kind of getting to know the penis anatomy, and you know, you don't have to be like a penisologist right, you just have to be able to invite communication from the penis that you're pleasuring, so being able to say like know does this feel good for you? Or teach me to touch you, or can I watch you masturbate, right like how many of us are getting unsolicited dick pics all the time? This would be like a consensual like I wanna see you touch that D right? You can also do mutual masturbation, so you're touching yourself, whether you have a penis or you have a vulva, and then you're watching the penis that you wanna pleasure, think about changing up aesthetics, speed direction, thinking about changing up positions, using a type of lube that feels really good for you, and that suits the type of activities that you wanna do during the hand job and after the hand job thinking about it as a cock massage, that you're giving this type of pleasure to the person that you're with, and also thinking about the mood or the intention that you're trying to create, so if this hand job is about you know, you've been a naughty little boy, and I'm gonna make sure that yo don't cum tonight, so its just, I'm just gonna keep teasing you. If its about like, I wanna adore your penis, I wanna cock worship you, I'm really into cock worship I love the idea of giving someone adoration for their hot spots or their pleasure spot, also don't forget about the rest of the body, so the perineum, the balls, any of the other non-erogenous or under service erogenous zones, like thighs, inner thighs tummy, waste, all those things, and connection between the giver, Mehki gave a really good tip about connecting to someone whose doing the receiving, by like petting their hair or telling them how good they look, or how amazing it feels, that can increase pleasure for everyone. Alright folks, I gotta let you go! so congratulations to everyone that one tonight thank you all for participating for chatting, for coming to O.school for being curious about getting you know more information to have the kind of pleasure that you want watching me get covered in silicone lube, this was a great, great fun stream for me, thank you so much for being here. Monday I'm teaching eat pussy like a champ, so make sure you come if you're interested in cunnilingus or you have a partner that interest in cunnilingus, maybe you can make it like a date night alright so thank you everyone a penisologist. yeah okay thank you everyone, I gotta go but thank you so much for your attention, and I'm so happy to all of you that won the little prizes, definitely if you're interested in learning specifically about lube, there a re several pleasure professionals on O.school that do amazing lube streams, so check out the calendar to see if any of them are coming up that's at a time that's convenient for you otherwise I will see you Monday bye everyone, thank you Justin for moderating, thank you Mehki for always being here, Rachael I hope to see you again soon in person, Leah congratulations have a wonderful night everyone, thank you so much Cinderhella, thank you for gracing me with your fabulous nick name, that was just awesome, that was a highlight you can see that my table is covered with crafts, that's what I'm gonna be doing next I'm making these bow ties for pride, so I will be crafting, so if you're looking for something for pride, you know where to find me, Justin left you the link to my Etsy shop so I make all kinds of things, I'm making some like beautiful like pasties, oh heres tasseled ones, oh my gosh, okay! So Castaway, look what I have, I have octopus pasties, aren't they adorable? They go on your breast, okay I gotta let you go alright bye everyone have a great night!

10 Tips for Hotter Handjobs

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Stroke it to woke it! Handjobs can be heavenly for both the giver and receiver with fun techniques, sexy communication and lots of lube. Tune in for 10 tips to giving hotter handjobs!