Even if you’re a seasoned masterbator, there are always new things to learn and areas of the body to explore. You may love giving special attention to your prostate, or you may have never tried it. Either way, having all the information can make your masturbating experience better. 

Here to show us tips and techniques for prostate masturbation is sex educator Sharin’ Peter. 

First, Peter explains prostate anatomy to get us underway. She points out the scrotum, testicals, shaft, and perineum, which is the area between the balls and anus.  Massaging the perineum is a way to massage the prostate from the outside. You’ll feel the prostate underneath the skin as it’s walnut-sized and round and bulbous. This is something you can do yourself, or for your partner during a handjob or blowjob. 

If you’re new to anal play and interested in exploring, you might want to first experiment with fingers or toys. Go through the anus to reach up and gently massage or tap the prostate with the pad of your finger, like you’re ringing a doorbell. If you’re enjoying it, try going deeper. To open up the inside layer of anal sphincter muscles, breath deep and relax. Since it can be hard to reach the prostate with fingers, toys can be a great alternative. Here are just a few toys Peter recommends: 

• Aneros MGX
• Aneros Helix 
• Aneros Eupho
• Spark Ignition
• Beaded Backdoor Rabbit 

You can use toys with a curve to go up and in toward the belly button. You can also try anal beads, which cause your anal sphincter muscles to open and close around them as they’re being pulled out. This makes your pelvic floor muscles expand and contract slightly as they would during orgasm. Though a little pain may be normal, it might mean you need more lube with a natural muscle relaxing ingredient. Peter recommends Ease by Intimate Earth. 

Peter then goes over many different kinds of techniques on how to stimulate the prostate, including how to milk the prostate. Hopefully, with practice, you can experience a prostate orgasm. 

In Anal Sex Basics by Carlyle Jansen, John Prusik describes a prostate orgasm. "When the penis is touched, licked or engulfed, the sensation is very localized. It's confined to that stretch of skin. […] prostate touch is both hyper-localized and all encompassing,” he says. “The first time someone touched my prostate, I saw stars and lightning bolts.”