The G-spot can be an elusive part of our body, but it doesn’t have to be. The more we understand the G-spot — where it is and how to stimulate it — the more we can maximize our pleasure.

Here to map the G-spot is sex educator Gigi Engle.

So, what even is the G-spot? While some professionals debate whether it even exists, Dr Beverly Whipple pioneered G-spot exploration and pinpointed exactly where it is. The G-spot is part of the clitoral network as it’s the anterior wall of the clitoris. The clitoris is largely an internal structure shaped like a wishbone. The exposed part of the clit is the little nub at the top of the labia minora and is protected by the clitoral hood. When you’re aroused, blood flows to the vulva and the clitoris becomes erect and more exposed. The G-spot, which is more of an area than a spot, is made of the tissue that surrounds the urethral sponge and is located inside the vulva, about two to three inches into the vaginal canal. It’s about the size of a walnut and is right behind the pubic bone toward your belly button.

You can touch the G-spot internally through the vagina by making a come hither motion. Some find G-spot stimulation very pleasurable, while others don’t. Everybody is different. G-spot stimulation can also cause squirting to happen. Squirting is when the Skene’s glands expel the liquid. Though it comes out the urethra, and some urine may come out, the fluid is alkaline and is more similar to prostate fluid than urine.

When (and if) you orgasm, you can either have a G-spot orgasm or a clitoral orgasm. How and if your body orgasms, and what you like, is totally subjective. One in three women reports being able to orgasm just from penetration. The rest report needing clitoral stimulation. No matter how you do or don’t orgasm, sex toys can be a helpful aid. There are toys specially made for G-spot stimulation, like the Ovo Rabbit, which has a curve meant to reach the G-spot. It’s made with medical-grade silicone, is bendable and has various speeds. You can also try other Rabbit toys meant to stimulate the G-spot and clitoris at once. Fun Factory has G-spot wands or G-spot vibrators.

Whether or not you’re into toys and G-spot stimulation is up to you. Everyone is different, so it can be a good idea to experiment alone or with a partner to figure out what works for you and what doesn’t. But even if you’re not into G-spot pleasure, it’s good to understand the anatomy of your G-spot and why it’s a beautiful part of you.