Going down on your partner can be a fun, exciting, and connecting experience. But it can also present some challenges.
One of the most common challenges givers face is their mouth and jaws getting tired. To help with this, Barrica and Matatas suggest pacing yourself. Just like in a marathon, you want to conserve your stamina, so don’t start with a full-on sprint, so-to-speak. Instead, build up speed and intensity when you find a move that’s working.
“Like, you have to kind of ration that tongue and draw energy for that,” says Barrica.
At the end of the race, or as your partner is about to orgasm, you might want to speed things up. Or Barrica suggests you might want to stop at the edge of climax or take breaks. “It’s okay to take a break. It's okay to have a kiss break or a touch break,” she says.
You can also mix it up with a toy or fingers. But as Matatas stated in her Going Down: What Not To Do stream, it’s important to communicate through the process to gauge what your partner is into. If they’re liking your moves, keep mixing it up.
“Like, get creative, get into it,” says Matatas. “Like, see how much you can deliver to this yummy person who’s spread their legs for you. Like, that's beautiful.”