Here to make us CLITerate is sex educator Sharin’ Peter.
The first step to becoming CLITerate is to understand some clit anatomy. The clitoris hood is the little button at the top of the vulva, but most of the structure is hidden behind the labia and has over 8,000 nerve endings. It looks a little like a wishbone, with legs and bulbs. When you’re aroused, blood rushes to the vulva, and it becomes engorged. The clit hardens and peaks out the clitoral hood a bit more, and becomes even more sensitive. If you’re trying to access the g-spot from inside, you can finger the vagina with a “come hither” motion on the back of the clitoris. The glands of the clitoris are at the tip, and when you’re aroused and the clitoris swells, it blocks the urethra. When you squirt, your urethral sponge is releasing fluids from the urethral glands, known as Skene’s glands.
When we’re aroused, blood rushes to the genitals, swelling the vulva. The arousal hits a plateau with stimulation and then may dip a little before going over the edge to orgasm. You can try different kinds of stimulation techniques, such as the vulva hug. This is when you use your hand to cover the entire labia and put pressure against it by rubbing it nice and firm and then concentrating on the glands. You can also give the clit a side hug, by stimulating it on either side of the clitoral hood. When stimulating the clitoris, apply varying pressures and speeds to see what you like. You can do this with your hands or a sex toy.
There are so many sex toys out there to pleasure the clitoris. The Magic Wand, for example, is a rumbly vibrator you can put over your clit. The Njoy Pure Wand is stainless steel and good for g-spot play, which also hits the backside or your clit. You can also try a toy like Gorgeous Hello Vibe, made of ABS plastic by Blush Novelties. The Estelle Exposed Bullet is also made of ABS plastic by Blush Novelties and is a simple, battery-powered vibrator. For fingering, you can try gloves like black Nitrile gloves, which are non-latex and have a bit of texture on the outside. Also, try lube with your gloves. Peter suggests a water-based lube like Wicked Aqua. Peter gives a list of other toy suggestions, among them being The Eva II by Dame Products. This toy sits inside the labia and vibrates.
While fingers, mouths, and toys are all great for clitoral stimulation, your most important erogenous zone is your brain. When your brain is turned on, the physiological responses will follow. Don’t be afraid to experiment with yourself or a partner, just be sure to openly communicate your wants and needs.